Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

Well, I wouldn’t do it, but it’s your money and your body. If you’re really sure you want it, go ahead.

No actually I think this is insulting there's no massive one size fits all cure for things like body dysmorphia ( not saying op has that ) therapy/,medication there's nothing more insulting than saying just love yourself!

We've tried all sorts In this house to prevent snoring 😴

Speak to any therapist they'll tell you that changing the body is the last thing you do with body dysmorphia. That's like telling a person with anorexia that they'll be happy as soon as they lose enough weight. It's not how it works.
Genuinely baffled you think it's insulting to tell people healthy methods they could use in order to feel better about themselves.

I'm not talking about the op and plastic surgery I'm saying telling somebody to simply love themselves instead of having insecurities isn't a healthy method its just patronising love yourself oh ok all fixed lol

But no one is saying that... You're making this up.

You don't need an uplift op the solution is love yourself apparently no idea why you didn't think of this sooner! A revelation that was.

If you want the boob job, get the boob job! I spent a years wages on cosmetic surgery for something that was bothering me for years (not a boob job) and feel it was worth every penny! Best thing I ever did!

You're the only one saying this.

Quite :)

This. So many industries feed of women’s insecurities.

Look up the statistics, the 'gamble' is about as risky as driving on the motorway, and if you're a fit young person like op, even less risky - assuming she goes to a reputable UK surgeon and anesthetist as she says she plans to. For a lifetime of greater comfort I don't think that's an unreasonable risk at all.

People get NHS surgery for minor things all the time, if it were that risky with people dying and being injured do you think it would be done at all?

I asked at the bmi Nottingham how many had died under GA there ( I shouldn't of lol ) but the answer was none and that's exactly what they said more likely to die in a car.

Whereas for the most part I agree with this a breast reduction is different the OP is experiencing back pain and skin infections and the physical issues are likely to be feeding into this as well

I was being sarcastic sorry lol x I am entirely on board with all of women doing anything legal and moral that makes us happy 😊 be it boob's, a new car pink hair, learning to salsa 🙂

If you can afford it, go for it I think. I have extremely uneven boobs due to having breast cancer and then pregnancies. The cancer boob is effectively dead and smaller than it ever was due to lumpectomy, and the non-cancer boob did what boobs do in pregnancy and went nuts. There are at least 3 cup sizes between them now. If I can afford it when I'm done having kids (not likely with how expensive everything is!) then a boob job is definitely on my list.

Yeah yeah I could meditate and just be proud of my body for beating cancer and growing babies etc, which I am, but I'd also like to wear a top or swimsuit that isn't lopsided, so yeah, I'll absolutely be fixing them if I can. Go for it OP.

OP, I see that you are 31, are petite with large and saggy breasts your whole adult life, don’t want children and are financially set.

I am going to go against the grain and say, go for it!!! I think it will make a positive impact on your daily life.

You might not want to say that it’s your grandmothers inheritance money going on your boobs, as that sounds a bit tacky.

Big saggy boobs are not just a cosmetic issue, they are a back pain hazard, infection risk, and self confidence issue as well.

If you can comfortably afford it, go for it.

I'm with you BON, I'm honestly still quite shocked at the responses from so many women here that seem to think op is being unreasonable. I can't fathom whether it's because there's a general stigma around "boob jobs", or if many can't identify with the issues of having huge boobs, or if some are simply just jealous that op has a bit of money and she's thinking of spending it on herself (gasp!)

And as for those who think she should get counselling - give me strength.

Yup she wants to look and feel amazing in beautiful dresses be extra comfortable and sort out her back issues. I love that for her! Therapy indeed 😂😂 absolutely ridiculous

When breastfeeding mine went up to a 34L 😅 if I won the lottery, breast reduction and lift would be first on my list, and DH himself has offered to start a savings pot for it.

I had a boob job in my 20s after having my son (in UK) and had them redone in Turkey now I'm in my late 40s.

Best thing I've had done both times!!

My experience in Turkey (Clinic Center, Istanbul) was brilliant, very helpful, English speaking surgeon, amazing aftercare.

So if you want it done, go for it!

Wowzers SMFMB! Sadly some people on here would think you just need therapy.. 😕

I know, can confirm I've had lots of therapy - physiotherapy for the pain in my back and mis-shaping the weight has done to my shoulder muscles.

That genuinely brought a tear to my eye 😢