3yo DD keeps saying something really weird

[Pancakepipsqueak]

I have a 3 year old (4 in sept) who I shared 50:50 custody with my ex.
she’s started a weird exchange a few times that goes
“hey mummy, guess what”
”what”
”AIDs” then she’ll giggle.
my response is always “that’s an odd thing to say?” Or something similar. Tonight I texted my ex about it and he said “yeah 😂”
turns out he’s been saying it to her? I’ve said I don’t find it appropriate and wouldn’t want her saying it to the childminder or other children. He called me “moral high ground grand wizard” and attacked me basically.
I will say, he’s a teacher, we’re 33. It just seems like such a juvenile joke that isn’t appropriate and is offensive?
was I BU bringing it up? Am I overreacting and this is hilarious?

Wow and he's a teacher?

He should know better. Who knows who she could say it to. I would react the same way. He's an absolute nob.

Yep, been a teacher for 10 years now secondary school. He’s always been immature humour wise, but this I just find bizarre

I must be missing the 'joke'.

Glad he's your ex. Tell him to grow up and be a decent parent instead of an immature twat that's going to get your DD in trouble one day when she starts shouting this stuff in front of other children, parents and teachers.

What is it that's she's actually trying to say?
"Aids" wouldn't mean anything to a 3 year old.

She’s definitely saying “AIDS”. It doesn’t mean anything to her, she’s just parroting her dad’s “joke”. He’s confirmed the joke is “AIDS”

My thoughts exactly!!

That’s actually so troubling. He’s treating her like some kind of joke novelty toy that he can make say things, instead of like a person.

Where is the care or love for her in what he’s doing?

My 11 year old is more mature than him. Fucking idiot.

It's the kind of thing 13 year old boys find hilarious.

Jesus Christ alive. What a weirdo. That is so disturbing.

I have a 4yo. If he came home repeating this "joke", regardless of where he'd picked it up, I would ask him what he thinks AIDS is, and explain to him that it's a really horrible illness that many people have died from, and tell him that I think it's really strange and unkind that [whoever] thinks it's funny.
Depends on your DDs temperament and understanding but that would be enough to take the humour out of it for DS. A long lecture, or getting cross, would probably make him do it more.
And yes, your ex sounds incredibly juvenile. 33 years old FFS 🙄

@Pancakepipsqueak ok so that is weird.
Why on earth is he doing that?

He finds it funny? That’s it.

I’d sit DD down and explain AIDS is an illness that killed lots of people and that it isn’t funny and that she could get in trouble for saying it. She may not understand but at least you’ve tried.

when she tells you this ‘joke’ just remain deadpan. Your ex obviously laughs when she says it.

There's being down with the kids and then there's being less mature than the kids...

You say he's a teacher - how's he doing 50:50?

As for the so-called joke, I'd be furious at that. If her childminder brought it up then I'd be happy for her to speak to him about it and I'd hope she'd come down on him like a ton of bricks.

good idea, I’ll go for that approach in the future. She’s a sensitive soul so I think it would work going for the more softly “this is why I don’t find it funny”. An annoyed lecture or getting cross wouldn’t sink in.

I don’t get what’s funny about it at all? I’ve read his wee “joke” about 6 times now in your op and still don’t get the punch line??? How does that even come into his head in the first place as being remotely funny?!

Sorry I don’t understand your question about 50:50? We do Saturday to Saturday - she had childcare when we’re at work?

How is that even funny?

I'd buy your kid a joke book - they are going to need educating in proper humour

Not appropriate at all and even less funny. A grown adult man should know much better and not treat his toddler daughter this way!

My god how offensive to teach your little kid that Aids is funny. What a dick.

OK sorry, I was just wondering.

Your ex is an immature idiot. I can't imagine that's gone unnoticed at his school.

Are teachers not allowed to be single parents?

It’s disgusting of him to use your daughter as his proxy wind-up merchant for a sick joke. I am so pleased for you that you’ve separated.