3yo DD keeps saying something really weird

[Pancakepipsqueak]

I have a 3 year old (4 in sept) who I shared 50:50 custody with my ex.
she’s started a weird exchange a few times that goes
“hey mummy, guess what”
”what”
”AIDs” then she’ll giggle.
my response is always “that’s an odd thing to say?” Or something similar. Tonight I texted my ex about it and he said “yeah 😂”
turns out he’s been saying it to her? I’ve said I don’t find it appropriate and wouldn’t want her saying it to the childminder or other children. He called me “moral high ground grand wizard” and attacked me basically.
I will say, he’s a teacher, we’re 33. It just seems like such a juvenile joke that isn’t appropriate and is offensive?
was I BU bringing it up? Am I overreacting and this is hilarious?

I remember my 3 daughter when 3 - coming home and saying ‘mrs jones usband ( how she said it) is a real cunt, she said it to miss smith. It was bad enough hearing her say cunt, your ex to teach her ‘aids’ that’s horrifying, dickhead

I'm echoing everyone else on here: immature, twat, can see why he's an ex.
Speaking as a secondary school teacher, I guarantee he's one of those annoying teachers who's pally with the teenage lads. Ugh.

This is so weird I don't even understand it.
Best to look baffled, tell your DC what a joke sounds like and go from there

Sounds like it. Your little girl will soon forget to repeat this ‘joke.’ Meanwhile, contact your ex and tell him to stop being an irresponsible tosser.

I don't get the joke.
Your ex is a prick.

Bloody hell, no wonder he's your ex. What an arse.

Same here, don't get it. Agree with others who've said you should explain what A.I.D.S. is - and it's not in any way funny.

Maybe you could teach her to swap AIDS for ED. He might find it less hilarious.

Hey OP - I just wanted to say that I would totally reclaim the insult aimed in your direction.

Every time I signed off or messaged him, I would refer to myself as "MHGGW". It's such a stupid insult that is totally out of kilter with your very reasonable objection that I'd start using it as my name, just to demonstrate that nothing he says has any power to hurt me. I would find it greatly entertaining to turn his insult back to him in this way. It's a great way to subtly say "fuck you".

Also like the PP suggestion about giving the nursery the heads up. I think a) it's actually really important you get ahead of the game here, nothing worse than them calling you in with a concern or even worse, reporting you to SS and b) if they find his use of this adult phrase concerning, they can then raise an objection.

I would probably also be getting some free legal advice to try and get away from the 50/50 arrangement. It doesn't sound as if it's in the best interests of your DD.

I'm not surprised he's your ex.

I thought about name changing for this but never mind.
Weirdly and we never made sense of it dgs when in year 7 got excluded for shouting that out in a lesson.
Obviously we made sure he knew what a tit he was but I wonder if it has been a thing at any point for these fools

Call me mean, but I'd also let the HT of the school know. If saying this to his own young dd, he is probably saying far worse to tbe pupils. As a HT myself I'd want a quiet word and be reminding him of school's staff code of conduct etc. We have enough problem with teenage boys being badly influenced by the revolting Andrew Tate and others. He needs to be a positive role model, not a duck.

Sorry, fat fingers. Replace u with I!

Oh goodness! Even more reason for him to know better!!
and sorry for your loss

This!
and if nursery call you regarding her saying anything inappropriate I would direct them to him and say he’s the dickhead spouting this crap and he might actually listen to them, unfortunately you just got abuse when raising it!

Ugh.. well he sounds like an epic prick.

Teach her 'Guess What - Chicken Butt'..

Then theres:

Guess Why - Chicken Thigh

Guess When - Chicken Hen

Guess Where - Chicken Hair

Guess Who - Chicken Poo

That's about age appropriate for her... and it seems, him.

It is also really fucking annoying 😆

It definitely has because when I was 15/16 the boys I hung around with said this kind of thing
Also horrible things about Madeleine McCann.

AIDS isn’t really something to joke about. He’s definitely been inappropriate saying that in front of her

I’d nip in the bud now. My BIL thought it was hilarious to teach my DD the word ‘loser’ when she was in nursery and my in laws would encourage it by laughing away when she would say it. As is usually the way it was me who got the emails, phone calls, talking tos from the school when she went around calling everyone there a loser and then had to get her out of the habit. Don’t let him use your kid for amusement like this.

Where is the joke in that? What an annoying idiot

Bet you're expecting a lot of reaction to that.
Seeking attention???

@nellyroser considering you have started your own thread about the struggle with your 16 year old autistic child who apparently you think you could just "give up for adoption" I am not surprised you think this "joke" is in the slightest funny. You sound like the one that needs to grow up.