What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

[Poiboi]

A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

Well can't say whether yabu as you haven't laid out the options properly. In answer to your question, it's totally unacceptable, as it would be if it were the other way around. Being cheated on doesn't give you a carte blanche to be violent.

Violence is not ok. It is not a hard concept to understand.

Obviously neither is cheating. But still, no excuse

Throwing something at someone in a way that hurts them is totally unacceptable. There are a few cases in which I would say it was justifiable (e.g. self defense) but this is not one of them.

This. How do we vote?

Violence is never ok unless it's self defence.

Cheating isn't great but domestic violence is worse

She’s abusive and she’s broken the law. Was that the first time she’s assaulted him?

He’s a dick too, but she’s worse.

I suppose until you're in that exact situation you'll never know how you'll react.

It's not ok to throw things at people you're angry with. Not complicated really.

no previous abuse either way

He was wrong to cheat. She was just wrong to throw something and split his lip. It all sounds toxic

Both wrong. She is showing anger which is an immature expression of other emotions. Be upset or disappointed but not agree

He’s awful
She’s worse
Let’s hope they separate and there were no children involved

Unacceptable.

It’s never ok to be violent.

That's a bit of an excuse tbh. There are heaps of situations where people would like to deck someone, but we know it's not allowed so we control ourselves. You just don't go there.

You don't injure someone for that. You leave them.

No children. Wedding has been called off due to cheating. The guy is still trying to get her to work on things last I heard.

Exactly.

And presumably anyone who thinks otherwise, would be happy for someone to throw something and split theirs or their child's lip.

As long as they were angry, it's all good?

It's common assault and there's no excuse for it

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

I'd probably think both as bad as each other and wouldn't go out of my way to be friends with either.

Shes crossed a line of violence that can’t be uncrossed imo. Even if she didn’t mean to split his lip she still threw something at him and that’s simply not acceptable.

However, when it comes to lashing out over cheating many people often excuse it (be it male or female victim) as a one off/understandable so I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve encountered a lot of people thinking it’s not that bad.

Wedding called off due to cheating?

Not the violence then??

No, makes no difference. She was still violent & assaulted him

Of course it doesn't make a difference but I'm getting the impression you think it does.

Her poor aim could've lead to her blinding him for life.