What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

[Poiboi]

A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

Was she really really sorry?

Does she really really love him?

Does he need to forgive ?

Was it his fault anyway?

Was he making too much of a fuss over nothing?

Does he need to leave it now?

Perpetrator playbook for DV.

It also sounds like you aren't asking for a friend...

She threw a photo frame

100% not me

I knew of someone who found out her fiance was cheating. She threw absolutely everything out of his kitchen cupboards onto the floor (not at him). She ended up with a criminal record.

"Look what you made me do"

you're the other woman aren't you 😂

Bit different regards a child though. Not great but being cheated on n when you're supposed to be getting married is a fucking insult and a half. Shouldn't have thrown shit but he's not severely injured is he. Maybe with his next one he'll think twice about being a cheating cockwomble🤷

And if a woman cheated on her fiancé and he threw something at her you'd say it ok?

God yes, isn't that it.

Cheating is awful. Doesn’t give you the right to throw things at people.

But photo frames can be heavy and contain glass. She could have had an eye out.

Utter tosh.

The object split his lip regardless of the vagina owning thrower.

And also could've blinded him considering her shit aim.

Objects that you wouldn't reasonably expect to cause an injury don't cause split lips. Small scratches maybe if they catch the person wrong.

You're talking rubbish and minimising violence.

We don’t know the backstory. If there has been cheating, had there also been gaslighting and coercive control? (Likely where there is infidelity.) Sally Challen may have been ‘wrong’ when she killed her abusive husband with a hammer, but she wasn’t in her right mind due to suffering years of abuse at the hands of a cheating monster.

100%

What did you expect to hear? Violence is never ok. Throwing things is violence even if not intended to hit.

I think the incident is forgivable if both parties know it wasn’t intended to hit anyone. But she needs to learn not to throw stuff in rage.

I wouldn’t forgive the cheating, unless it was equally accidental 🤣.

Violence by men against women is different though. It just is, because of the power imbalance. Almost all situations where posters say, it would be different if it was man/woman are irrelevant. Of course it's different.

Something that usually has sharp edges and glass…

She could have blinded him.

If she is arrested and interviewed at custody, they would be looking for the mens rea and actus reus

The definition of an assault occasioning actual bodily harm (ABH): Actus Reus: the defendant must commit an assault or battery which causes the victim to suffer actual bodily harm. Mens Rea: the defendant must intend or be reckless as to the assault or battery.

No it isn't. Violence is violence no matter how you try and paint it. Excusing it the way you are is disgusting.

To be honest I'm not going to worry about a cheating twat who got a split lip from a picture frame. I'll save my empathy for all the women who take a fuck of alot more than that for merely existing

Perhaps the man didn't mean to cheat, he just had bad aim?

You're making stuff up now though. Unless OP wants to come along and enlighten us, this a case of a woman being violent. It happens, and it's equally unacceptable as male violence.

They need to split. She needs to look into help for her anger. Throwing something at someone is never ever acceptable. He's disgusting for cheating. But it didn't warrant being assaulted.

A man throwing the same item at or near someone- always worse than a woman doing it because of his greater strength and the damage he can do.