What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

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A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

Like fuck is it different.

Photo frame - thrown at person.

Person - split lip.

Stop trying to minimise violence by those who cannot control their anger.

Genitals make no difference in this story.

My true thoughts are that she acted out of emotion, we've all done things we regret when hurt or angry. I wouldn't judge her for it. Not many will actually admit to thinking that. I threw a hairbrush at my ex once in an argument. It bounced off his head. I wouldn't consider myself a perpetrator of domestic violence.

@Puffinfoot ... don't be ridiculous... violence is violence irrespective of the sex or gender...

There is no good reason for one person to harm or put someone in fear of harm full stop.

So by your theory an 18 year old female can attack an elderly man.. and he should just man up?

And the outcome depends on whether the victim supports police action/investigation

They were happy until cheating came out. No abuse either side. As far as I have been told/seen.

Well exactly. He patted a dancer’s bum but it turned out that through beer goggles she looked just like his fiancé.

Il probably get flamed for saying this but if my son cheated on his long term partner I would fully expect her to throw something at him.

This is not an OK way to think, because then it's excusing men for doing the same thing to women. Anyone could say they were "hurt" and use it as an excuse. It's not.

JFC, neither is acceptable. Violence is violence.

We all know violence is wrong but until you're in that situation (I don't know about this particular case), then it's hard to judge. When my husband of a 26 year long "happy marriage" said he'd been seeing someone else for a year, I threw my tea cup at him. We had never had a volatile relationship but it was a sudden knee jerk reaction to one of the most profound shocks of my life.

Totally wrong and if excuses are being made then those making them are wrong too.

And if your daughter cheated and her partner threw something would you be equally ok with it?

Rubbish

Man or woman with shit aim anyway, could cause an awful lot of permanent damage.

What on earth is wrong with the violent abuse apologists on this thread?

It's sickening.

@ARichtGoodDram yes if he hasn't been violent previously then yes...

Flame away

My view is that people need to learn to control their impulses. They need to be taught from early childhood and from the first sign of violence. Because any time you get physical in anger you risk someone getting badly hurt. Doesn't matter what a person had done to you, unless its self defence, you should always keep your hands (and objects) to yourself.

You sound strangely ok with that though?

If he died as a result of her throwing something at him, would you be ok with that too?

It's not bloody rocket science OP. Violence is wrong, end of.

Let me guess.. because a woman has physically hurt a man, you are surprised at the number of 'well he had it coming' reactions, because you've not yet realised that our society is permissive of female violence against men.

It may have been a knee jerk reaction but it's still wrong.

What was thrown?

Was it intended to cause injury or was it unlucky?

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Throwing an object is not acceptable but can be understood as an impulsive reaction.
The affair is not acceptable. It's deception, dishonest and calculated.

She threw something with glass in it at someone’s face. She deserves to be prosecuted.

@DanielGault and @TheresaCrowd both are unacceptable.

A man is significantly more likely to kill someone when they throw something than a woman. It's equally bad behaviour but the results are worse for a bloke.

I don't think many women have unintentionally killed anyone with an unlucky single punch. Men sadly have.
Throwing stuff is the same. Why else separate sexes in sport? Men throw helluvalot harder than women.

Both are completely unacceptable.

None of that is violence apologism

If you’re happy for your children to be the victims of violence (and presumably in the same situation you’re happy for them to be the perpetrators of violence) then you do you.

i seriously doubt you’d be remotely as calm as you think if you ended up with an injured adult child on your hands.

You could say the same then if a bloke finds out his wife is cheating and punches her.