What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

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A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

yeah... the violent men in my life always said that too...

If the shoe was on the other foot and the name threw the object, he would be hung, drawn and quartered.

There is NO excuse for violence

Then she shouldn't have thrown something at his face. It doesn't bode well for the future and he'd be well off out of it

I think if my son ended up with a split lip as a result of his cheating, I wouldn't have too much of a problem with that, actually.

Jesus Christ, yeah, that's grand so, she has a terrible aim. Are you her? Violence is wrong, whether it's from a man or a woman. Whatever the accuracy of their aim. I honestly despair of humanity sometimes.

What was the object she threw OP?

Not that it makes a difference, but you've told us everything else.

Or killed him

So many abusers will say they're sorry & go on and do it again

It's not OK to throw things at people. It doesn't matter if she intended it to hit him or not.

A pink unicorn made of candyfloss I'd say 😂

I think it does make a difference. If it was something that couldn't reasonably be expected to cause an injury, it's a bit different to throwing something sharp/heavy.

And your daughter if you had/have one?

Bit different regards a child though. Not great but being cheated on n when you're supposed to be getting married is a fucking insult and a half. Shouldn't have thrown shit but he's not severely injured is he. Maybe with his next one he'll think twice about being a cheating cockwomble🤷

There is no excuse for it, however I have once thrown something at my ex during a 'fight'. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself but you don't know until you're in that situation.

Police were called years later after he broke my hand whilst I was trying to protect my head from his punches. Baby was 3 weeks old.
Best thing that ever happened to finally split us up.

No it doesn't make a difference.

Cheating is not OK. Violence is not the answer

Only makes a difference if her aim is so appallingly bad that she was actually aiming in totally the opposite direction and still managed to hit him.

Which isn't the case. She must have been aiming at least vaguely in his direction.

No doubt, the OP will come back with something like that 😁

@Puffinfoot ... and your daughter? I assume you'd be ok with her getting a split lip for cheating?

Presumably you'd say the same if the sexes were reversed?

Cheating isn’t punishable by law. Domestic violence is.

No! That really is the thing end of the wedge. One of the first things we teach our children is that we don't throw things. Ever. Why on earth would we consider it acceptable from adults?

if her aim is poor the outcome could have been worse. The intention was to do violence.

Nobody in a fit of rage throws something thinking “I probably won’t hit him anyway”.

Thats she’s surprised afterwards that she managed to successfully do what she intended in that moment doesn’t excuse it and shouldn’t be used to minimise it.

What?! Anger is a legitimate emotion, it’s not immature. People are allowed to feel it!

Obviously the way it’s been expressed is awful, but the emotion itself is not forbidden.

It's domestic abuse.

The cheating wasn't ok. The feeling angry due to the cheating was ok. Expressing that anger is ok.

Throwing something at someone out of anger is not ok. That's not self defence.

(Unless you're about to drip feed they were running at her threatening to hurt her and this was a way to stop it?!)

It's not.

If throwing an object at someone is ok because they made you angry, then it's ok to throw it at anyone if you're angry.

Violent reactions are just that.

And if you choose your violent reaction according to who makes you angry, that's pretty sinister and shows they CAN control themselves if they want to.

@Beezknees no I wouldn't because men are stronger than women and a man pegging something at a woman would be done alot fucking harder. And before you jump on me I've been in that situation and men don't throw with shit aim