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Would you let an annoying family member live with you for 300k?

525 replies

L4815 · 11/07/2024 17:40

A relative of ours has said they will give us 300k if we allow them to move in with us.

It's me, DH and DS.

Pros.

Our 135k mortgage would be paid off plus other outstanding debt. We'd have a nice safety cushion and a better life financially.

Despite being annoying, deep down, we love family member and one of us feels a sense of duty toward them.

Family member would contribute to household chores.

Cons.

Family member is incredibly annoying. They like to be in control of everything. We don't let them but its still irritating.

Family member is a just about functioning alcoholic and would require our assistance with reducing.

Despite having some health issues, they are only in their 50s so potentially could end up living with us for another 20 years.

Family member would nag us about keeping the house clean. Much higher standards than us.

House is only a bog standard terrace so although we have a spare room, we only have one bathroom, one living area, etc.

One of us says absolutely no way, not even for a million. Other one sort of agrees but id also slightly swayed by how beneficial money would be and also feels sorry for family member who lives alone and has no other family or friends.

Almost feels a bit like selling your soul to the devil for money.

Ultimately feels like a choice between freedom or money.

WWYD?

Hypothetical really as one of us has already vetoed.

OP posts:
SnowSnow · 11/07/2024 17:41

If they are annoying and it could well be decades then I think I’d say no even though the money would be great

ConsuelaHammock · 11/07/2024 17:42

Nope! A huge house with an annexe? Perhaps?

Justmuddlingalong · 11/07/2024 17:42

Nope. Not for £3 million.

Treacletoots · 11/07/2024 17:42

Hello no.

Having lived with a bad lodger, I was glad I could get rid of them

This sounds like a living hell. You need to feel happy in your home.

Tell them to buy themselves their own house with that?

Miloandfreddy · 11/07/2024 17:42

Is it your mother in law? I don't think there's enough money in the world for me.. also I just like my own space and peace and quiet. Couldn't do this. Why can't they buy their own place with 300k?

GabriellaMontez · 11/07/2024 17:42

No way.

Variolia · 11/07/2024 17:42

In my circumstances no.

In circumstances where I was being offered 2.5 times the value of my house and that was life changing money, I’d consider it.

but 20+ years is a bloody long time so probably still no.

BingoMarieHeeler · 11/07/2024 17:42

Absolutely no way

GetThatBloodyFaceOff · 11/07/2024 17:43

No, definitely not

SuncreamAndIceCream · 11/07/2024 17:43

No

rainfordays · 11/07/2024 17:43

God, no.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 11/07/2024 17:43

That £300k will be held over you at every turn.
no.

Ayeyourebeingadick · 11/07/2024 17:43

Absofuckinglutley not.

say they move in, it ruins your home life and to get them out you’ve to find the 300k back. Wierd deal, no way.

cheezncrackers · 11/07/2024 17:43

Good God no! You're out of your minds to even be considering this.

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 11/07/2024 17:43

I’m usually one who’ll do anything for money but this? Hell no

Letsgettoit · 11/07/2024 17:43

I think it sounds like a bad idea all round. I also think to even consider it given the feelings expressed is unethical - and exploitative of someone vulnerable.

FyodorDForever · 11/07/2024 17:43

Definitely no.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 11/07/2024 17:44

No.
What are the circumstances that have led to them having £300k to spare, but they want t to live with you? Do they actually have a home?

cheezncrackers · 11/07/2024 17:44

For £300k surely they could buy their own property anyway? Why on Earth do they want to live with you?

Bonbon21 · 11/07/2024 17:45

No amount of money would make me inflict this on my child.

KreedKafer · 11/07/2024 17:46

Absolutely not.

wizzywig · 11/07/2024 17:46

You'd be happy for your child to grow up with an addict becuase they are rich? What are you teaching them? Nope from me

Coconutter24 · 11/07/2024 17:48

No way

OdeToBarney · 11/07/2024 17:48

Nope nope and nope. Safeguard your child from an alcoholic!

HotelCustody · 11/07/2024 17:49

One of my colleagues did this but pooled the money and bought a big old house they are slowly doing up and it’s worked out ok, she means about her relative a bit but because they have their own areas it’s worked out well and they have grown closer.