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Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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Behappyandbehave · 09/07/2024 22:25

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

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Universalsnail · 11/07/2024 12:40

Depends how your son feels. If he's be embarrassed then no but if he wouldn't care then I wouldn't care.

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 12:50

No, just no.

nobody wants to see antibody else’s arse cheeks, least of all your teenaged son.

i certainly don’t want to have to sit on the same chair as your bare arse. Grim

5128gap · 11/07/2024 13:13

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 12:38

@5128gap

I mean I don't think the guy on here is spending all of his day on this thread.

I think if anyone spent their whole day on here I'd think it's a little sad.

But a guy commenting on a public forum about a topic that interests them, or a topic that they have an opinion on isn't creepy, no. Just because he has a penis it doesn't make them a creep.

As I said, I have sons. Two in their mid/late 20s, heterosexual, many relationships with women, so clearly attracted to women. Either of them going on to MN and chosing a thread about a middle aged mum wearing a thong bikini to regale a bunch of other random women about their love of thongs, is about as likely as me going on to a forum of guys in their 20s to advise them to wear tighter shorts in the gym.
Its not having a penis that makes a person creepy.

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:36

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 12:50

No, just no.

nobody wants to see antibody else’s arse cheeks, least of all your teenaged son.

i certainly don’t want to have to sit on the same chair as your bare arse. Grim

So, out of interest, do you not use / share toilets? They are made for 'bare arses..'

Hilarious 😂

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:37

'As I said, I have sons. Two in their mid/late 20s, heterosexual, many relationships with women, so clearly attracted to women. Either of them going on to MN and chosing a thread about a middle aged mum wearing a thong bikini to regale a bunch of other random women about their love of thongs, is about as likely as me going on to a forum of guys in their 20s to advise them to wear tighter shorts in the gym.
It's not having a penis that makes a person creepy.'

@5128gap

So, if it's not having a penis and being a bloke is creepy.. then surely you think all of us are being creeps on here? As the majority of us posting don't have a penis.

Socksey · 11/07/2024 13:46

Aquamarine1029 · 09/07/2024 22:30

I'd bet the odds are excellent that your son would not want to see your arse crack being flossed by a bit of fabric. He'd probably rather scoop his eyeballs out.

I love this 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sallyingon · 11/07/2024 13:52

No I wouldn't but I don't think they look good on anyone and they always make me cringe.

5128gap · 11/07/2024 13:57

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:37

'As I said, I have sons. Two in their mid/late 20s, heterosexual, many relationships with women, so clearly attracted to women. Either of them going on to MN and chosing a thread about a middle aged mum wearing a thong bikini to regale a bunch of other random women about their love of thongs, is about as likely as me going on to a forum of guys in their 20s to advise them to wear tighter shorts in the gym.
It's not having a penis that makes a person creepy.'

@5128gap

So, if it's not having a penis and being a bloke is creepy.. then surely you think all of us are being creeps on here? As the majority of us posting don't have a penis.

I've already addressed this earlier in the thread. My response is the same as it was then.

M340 · 11/07/2024 14:17

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 12:50

No, just no.

nobody wants to see antibody else’s arse cheeks, least of all your teenaged son.

i certainly don’t want to have to sit on the same chair as your bare arse. Grim

Do you squat above toilet seats?
If so, when you do a shit, you'll get splashback from the thwack of the shit hitting the pan as it's had a better distance. which is surely more unhygienic than sitting on a toilet seat that's had some arse cheeks on it.

If you won't even sit on a chair that's been sat on by someone wearing a small bikini, I'm guessing you won't sit on a bog seat then.

If you do sit on the bog seat, your analogy is completely shit. (Pardon the pun..)

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:21

sallyal · 11/07/2024 11:47

Do you mean an actual thong though like a piece of string up your bum crack ? Or do you mean the ones that are like a little triangle the cover a bit of your bum but they aren't a full brief ? If you mean the triangle ones then yeah (I live in a hot country near the beach) I see loads of people in them. If you mean an actual thong then no I don't see many people in them i don't think they are that fashionable now tbh 🤔 it's up to you really 🤷🏻‍♀️

I mean as you describe, very skimpy bottoms but not an actual string. Tye lower bit is invisible. Then they go up to a high rise pant.

I wear them. I have a good arse

If someone didn't have a good arse and wanted to wear them then good for them. It's not like other bikinis are covering a whole lot more.

Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son
Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son
letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:23

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 12:50

No, just no.

nobody wants to see antibody else’s arse cheeks, least of all your teenaged son.

i certainly don’t want to have to sit on the same chair as your bare arse. Grim

You sit on a chair in swimwear without putting a towel down first? Ewwwwww have some manners.

Allfur · 11/07/2024 15:32

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:21

I mean as you describe, very skimpy bottoms but not an actual string. Tye lower bit is invisible. Then they go up to a high rise pant.

I wear them. I have a good arse

If someone didn't have a good arse and wanted to wear them then good for them. It's not like other bikinis are covering a whole lot more.

Surely it's the same result, a piece of fabric right up ones crack?

DoraSpenlow · 11/07/2024 15:59

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:36

So, out of interest, do you not use / share toilets? They are made for 'bare arses..'

Hilarious 😂

You put a layer of toilet paper between the seat and your backside, surely?

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 16:07

@Allfur

Surely it's the same result, a piece of fabric right up ones crack?
I don't know if it depends on how far under the front piece goes or the musculature or structure of the butt but mine don't really go 'right up' my arse crack. They go between my cheeks but don't press up against my butt hole.

The front piece goes down and under past all the goodies and up a little bit past the fun bits and then narrows. Then it widens further up again like in the pictures. So the narrow piece sort of somehow doesn't quite ram itself up against my butt hole.
Not sure if you know what I mean 😂

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 16:09

@Allfur
If you look at the white pants in the photo you can see the thingy bit. It's between the butt cheeks but not pressed up against the butt hole.

I I sat cross legged it probably would. But like all bikini pants there is periodic readjustment going on. I find all bikini pants end up in a wedgee from time to time.

Allfur · 11/07/2024 16:12

DoraSpenlow · 11/07/2024 15:59

You put a layer of toilet paper between the seat and your backside, surely?

I don't

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 16:19

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:23

You sit on a chair in swimwear without putting a towel down first? Ewwwwww have some manners.

lol, if that’s what you take from my comment then that’s on you 😂

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 16:42

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:36

So, out of interest, do you not use / share toilets? They are made for 'bare arses..'

Hilarious 😂

Exactly, they are made for bare arses. Chairs are not.

Nightjar33 · 11/07/2024 17:47

Horrible things look unhygienic and uncomfortable at any age
stick to nice bikinis

ElizaJ74 · 11/07/2024 17:56

I say wear what you want.
Teens will call you embarrassing by existing near them, so if they die of cringe RIP 😁

Marine30 · 11/07/2024 18:07

Bikini yes - thong, good heavens no!

AnnieSnap · 11/07/2024 18:12

I wouldn’t wear a thing in front of my son.

NaneePolly · 11/07/2024 18:20

Why would you want to show your butt cheeks, it’s so crass and very vain to think anyone would want to see them.

croydon15 · 11/07/2024 18:33

Don't know where you go on holiday but have never seen anyone wearing them in restaurant where l go it would not be allowed they are gross anyway, certainly not classy

Julimia · 11/07/2024 18:45

Your call entirely but imagine your teenagers may die of cringe !