To get a secret one off cleaner

[elm26]

Husband is doing his annual 2 night camping trip with friends he's had since school.

My 1 year old is going to the farm Saturday with her Nanny & Gramps then having a sleepover.

So I've booked a one off deep clean of our home in secret, I'm going to take the dog for a 2 hour walk somewhere peaceful, come home to a clean home, open a bottle of wine in the evening, have a long hot bubble bath, order myself a Chinese and binge watch my favourite shows with chocolate that I don't have to share with anyone in my comfiest pjs and then have a sleep in on Sunday and I feel wonderful for planning this 😂

No guilt at all about not telling my DH about the cleaner, would any of you do the same?

Sounds wonderful op x

Why would you feel guilty? My husband wouldn't object at all! He'd be delighted with a deep clean too.

Wow good for you and your weekend treat op but in terms of feminism this thread is depressing… the ironing comments particularly.

If men want their shirts ironing, they should iron them. Why is it a triumph that a woman takes the responsibility (for HIS shirts) and outsources what she erroneously thinks is her job by default?

Jeez the 1950s mindset still alive and well… because why? Men ‘work hard’… 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m finding it dismaying also. The secret cleaner and other women fan girling over it. I really don’t understand why the op can’t just say I’m getting a cleaner this weekend.

i get she can’t afford a regular cleaner, but it’s like something from a hundred years ago, where women are supposed to clean and the op has somehow sneakily cheated.

it’s just a bit meh for me.

Well can I confess my weird cleaning secret? Every so often I book a day off. I get up early as usual. Don’t wash ( brush teeth but stay in PJs). Do a thorough deep clean but set myself a target of about 4/5.Listening to the radio the whole time Once done, have a soak in a lovely long bath. Deep condition hair etc. Then when done I treat myself to a glass of champagne and a lovely lunch whilst sat watching crap on the sofa.

By the next day its a shit tip again but I love those few clean, calm hours.So I totally get you OP

I’m very good at carving out me time. And that’s how my MH is so good after many family crises

I caved and told DH and he pulled the money from his wallet and said to use that to pay, he laughed and said he knows when I'm up to something because I start being "nicer" to him 🤣

Gutted I caved but glad I did as now don't have to touch the joint account so means I can use the money on some posh bubble bath from that instead 😂😂😂 well and truly taking the piss this weekend because I deserve it! 🤣

You absolutely do. I'm thinking about taking a leaf out of your book and booking a night in a hotel. Me, a good book, bubble bath, room service, good night sleep, lay in. No one saying mum 10 times in a minute.

This, I’m in awe and I applaud you

This sounds like a perfect weekend! My husband is away tonight with our 10 year old-I’ve been out for lunch with my mum, tidied the house (getting a cleaner in will definitely be done next time) and I’m about to get dinner delivered, open a bottle of wine and relax with my crochet. Hope you have a lovely evening OP

Go girl and say nothing. Tell him the next week it his turn to clean as you did it last week🤣🤣🤣

I applaud you

Its a great idea unless you have a ring doorbell and he will see her anyway 🤣 enjoy your clean home and a bubble bath OP 🙌🏼

Stop overthinking it and just enjoy your alone time. You deserve it.

Yep, I've done this in the past when the kids were small.
The cleaners also did my ironing and cleaned the windows.
Enjoy!!

Defo do this but just tell him! No need for secrets!

Wonderful idea. Good that you are taking care of yourself like this; I believe it’s very good for your health to be kind to yourself - more people should do this (if at all possible, of course). Enjoy!!

Wonderful idea. As you clean a lot each week anyway I can see why it’s really a non issue if you decide to tell your DH or not
tell him. Go for it and enjoy every minute of your me time.

You have my blessing 😊

You deserve to have a nice relaxing break. Why keep it a secret? Your not doing anything wrong. Unless maybe it's the money aspect? I used to spend the whole time my kids were away at sleepovers getting on top of the cleaning and feeling like I wasted the time. Make the absolute most of it! Guilt free!!

Absolutely.

Why didn’t I think of that when DH went away a few weeks ago? Our house is a very old one and not easy to keep up with as I get older.

I’ve mooted a cleaner a few times but he’s all ‘but why waste money when we can do it ourselves?’ He, of course, does nothing but the DIY jobs he fancies.

His other favourite is ‘I don’t mind the house being a bit dirty, we don’t need to waste money on that.’

Even if I paid I’d still have to hear about it so I get why you would keep it quiet OP.

I get why she might not want to, even in a good marriage.

You sound lovely OP and so does your husband and your parents too. Enjoy your weekend x

Why? I’ve not done it (yet) but for a one off I’d use a local registered company and be fine with it.

Sounds perfect 😍