To get a secret one off cleaner

[elm26]

Husband is doing his annual 2 night camping trip with friends he's had since school.

My 1 year old is going to the farm Saturday with her Nanny & Gramps then having a sleepover.

So I've booked a one off deep clean of our home in secret, I'm going to take the dog for a 2 hour walk somewhere peaceful, come home to a clean home, open a bottle of wine in the evening, have a long hot bubble bath, order myself a Chinese and binge watch my favourite shows with chocolate that I don't have to share with anyone in my comfiest pjs and then have a sleep in on Sunday and I feel wonderful for planning this 😂

No guilt at all about not telling my DH about the cleaner, would any of you do the same?

I did this when DH was away for a stag do. I took the day off work, booked a one off clean, had my car valeted and put my dog in for a groom. I didnt keep it a secret but didnt go out of my way to tell him IYSWIM.

I spent a couple of hours reading in a local cafe then had a lovely evening in my clean house with my clean dog .

Aren't you a bundle of joy.

I'd not keep it a secret, but what a fab plan!! Enjoy :D

Amazing! Could I possibly join you? 😂

My thoughts too

Go for it. I have done this once when my mental health was bad and I could not cope with cleaning, it's one less thing to worry about!

Enjoy yourself, but weird you think it needs to be a secret, unless you can't afford it.

Same thought here 🤭

I'd love to do this....once a quarter maybe if not every month!

I don't understand why you would need to keep it secret?

I think if I booked a deep clean for our house, my DP would be delighted! God knows it needs one.

I don’t understand why it makes OP a genius. It’s just another example that cleaning = woman’s responsibility.

If I wanted a cleaner, I’d be making sure that DH pays for half of it too.

I think the crux of it it - OP has a glorious free weekend. However, she feels it’s her job to do a good 2 hours cleaning on a Saturday. It’s fine to book the cleaner but you shouldn’t feel it’s your job. And then DH pays half.

I get it. My husband went to canada a couple of months ago for a week. Our house is clean but to me was feeling a little in need of some TLC. (new build but in the caribbean so doors open alot..fans ALWAYS on..collecting dust.) I kept on top of it (not hard. two people two dogs) but he was flying home here on the sunday, So on the saturday I hired a friends housekeeper (she actually lives in with them right across the street housekeeper/nanny/superhero.) I put my dogs in the car, and went to a remote beach, they ran their butts off and so did I . Then we rented a beach lounger and had a lunch delivered to my chair. My dogs enjoyed a lunch of fish and fresh vegetables with me, I had a pina colada then switched to water (one hour drive from home) stopped at the colomado (corner shop) on way home and bought a bottle pinot grigio and a big bag of lays. That was one of my fav days ever. Never told my husband, lol, my little pamper me day. Not that he would care, he would probably tell me to book her again.

Sorry just wanted to clear some bits up as it was meant as a lighthearted post!

My husband isn't abusive at all, he's a lovely man, a great father, he does chores around the house as he sees it as just as much his job as mine.

He runs his own business, he works really hard and sometimes doesn't see our DD until bedtime, so on a Saturday, he makes sure he does some one on one time with her, he'll take her to the park/swimming/soft play and that means I get a couple of hours to get house sorted and then we spend the rest of the day together and the evening relaxing together (again I don't feel like this is my duty at all but I love a clean and tidy home).

The cleaning absolutely could wait but the satisfaction I get from sitting down in a clean and tidy environment is amazing so thought I might as well enjoy it without having to do the work myself (as DH is away).

The lady who is doing the clean has been recommended by a friend so I do trust that it's fine for her to be alone in my house for 2 hours.

No it's not hideously dirty but every 6 months or so I like a deep clean so this will save me and DH a job.

The money I'm paying will come from the joint bank account, he won't bat an eyelid at me withdrawing any money nor will he ask me what it was for.

I might tell him when he's home, he'll call me a sneak (light heartedly) and we will laugh about it but for now I am feeling a little smug and excited about it 😂

Personally I'd add an hour and have them do the ironing as well. Strip all the beds ahead of the visit.

This!!!

Great idea, however...
Better no husband than one to keep this a secret from.
Surely the need for deep cleans would also diminish somewhat.
😂

Getting the dog scrubbed up too sounds a good plan.

Otherwise, long dog walk, shower of rain, one good shake and your house is no longer clean and lovely...

Sounds like he gets to be the Disney dad while you do the grunt work. Sure he works, bit he would have to work and do housework if he were single? Why do you have to do it?

Why would he mind you having the house cleaned?

Not sure why people have to turn something lighthearted into a potential covert abuse situation.

I’d definitely do this @elm26 AND I’d keep it a secret for no reason other than it feeling more like a guilty pleasure 😇😂

Enjoy op!!!!

edited to add a lot of partners would never agree to a cleaner because it’s seen as a luxury, especially if one partner works pt or is a sahm.

Dh’s mum was a cleaner (and hated it) and he’s always shocked at how many people we know who have a cleaner if they’re not eg disabled or unable to clean themselves physically.

Cleaner here..
I have a lovely customer who's dps aren't very nice... If they knock when I am there I have to grab my stuff and hide in the understairs cupboard...
He has among other things adhd and a rare type of arthritis and can't manage his home but he fears his folks would deem him lazy...
Happy to join in the charade...

Don't we all clean every day?

I don't.

I'm very impressed by you, OP, especially that you clean skirting boards once a week.

Enjoy your day (and your little secret).

No, I don't feel the need to lie to my husband. We have a weekly cleaner that he knows about. I don't get lying.