Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

[Anonforthisq]

First off I know im unreasonable for this part but I forgot my friends bday. I remembered the day after and texted on weds to say so sorry I forgot, happy bday, will drop a pressie round soon. Dont hear anything back but dont think anything off it, we both have young kids and busy lives. Texted her again today to ask if she wants to come to a concert I have tickets for next week and she just texted back ‘fuck off’

AIBU to think she’s totally ott?I know it’s bad I forgot (she always remembes!) but j apologised. It’s been a hard week. My youngest has slapped cheek and is miserable, oldest is SEN, I’m pregnant and have ADD. She knows all this btw. We’re women in our 40s, I like birthdays and celebrating but I wouldnt mind even a little bit of someone forgot my bday, especially if they apologised after.

I haven’t texted back and don’t know what to do now

I wouldn’t text her again, she’s out of order.

She's being ridiculous.
Leave her to get on with her sulk now.
If she decides to grow up she'll text you I'm sure.

How strange. I wouldn’t be messaging her ever again 😄

She's completely out of order and I wouldn't be texting again.

Leave it she's being ridiculous.
She's 40 something for goodness sake.

What! Is she 5 years old

Ive considered doing this to a friend of mine in the past, it was the last thing in a long line of “moments”

Sounds to me like there is more deeper things going on with your friend than just the fact you forgot her birthday. She is definitely unreasonable to have told you to fuck off, if she was hurt she should have discussed it with you like an adult.

My thoughts are, she isnt a happy person at the moment, perhaps very stressed (not that that's an excuse), and her hurt at you not wishing her a happy birthday has been escalated into a big deal.

I wouldn't respond.

My first thought too 😆

I had a friend of 20+ years ghost me because I forgot to text her on her birthday once. Once. It hurt at the time but now I realise I was well rid. Some people are just completely unhinged and it’s not our job to fix them. Move on and find nicer friends OP!

I don’t know … there’s more of a backstory here and we’re just hearing this from a biased point of view.

The lady is a biyatch. Have some self respect and throw this one in the bin. She has told you exactly what she is. A nasty piece of work. Seriously what is wrong with some women these days. Self importance is very dull.

That's always the case on here and every other forum.

Crikey, tell her to fuck off back, what a princess.

Exactly my thought. You remembered the following day, you’ve apologised, you’ve got a present for her and you’ve offered a date to meet next week. It’s not a crime to forget a birthday for goodness sake.

I honestly dont think there is. Known each other about 5 years, met cos kids are friends in school. Probably meet every month or two for coffee or lunch, always friendly and fine. Maybe there are things iv not noticed that have pissed her off bjt I honestly dont know.

i do know she goes big fkr her bdays, she’s one of those who has a bday week and makes a big deal which is fine ans that is why I feel bad bcos I know its important to her and usually I like celebrating it but i just think it’s way too much to swear about a mistake. i would literally never make a fuss about a friend making a mistake

did you drop off a card and present like you said you would?

You’ve really considered telling a friend to F off for forgetting a birthday or similar? Wow that’s extreme!

Op I don't mean this in a nasty way but having ADD and or being pregnant and dealing with the kids isn't a get out clause for forgetting important dates or making effort for your friends bday. It feels like you put all that in to add weight to your side of the story. That said I'm really curious as to why someone would be so aggressive over one late bday text... would be interesting to hear their side... a late bday text really isn't worthy of being told to f off...

Not yet. Was going to do it tomorrow cos i pass her house to and from work. Dont know what to do with it now 😅 should i still drop it off or am i best just to leave it now

She sounds like a princess, you're not even that close of friends.

I would just delete her number.

Probably not, or she would have mentioned it in the OP?

There will likely more to this. And people generally have less patience these days.

I have some very close friends and I don't actually know when their birthdays are. I have just supported one through chemo, and been to hospital appointments etc with her and been on the end of the phone at all times of the day and night. But no clue when her birthday is.

So I find your friend's reaction very odd. But I expect someone will come along to say I am odd.

Birthday week? Ffs. What a child. Once you are past the age of about 20 making a big deal out of a birthday is weird. Tell her to fuck off back and send her a photo of your refund for her present.

I'd have to text her back 'are you ok'?