Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

[Anonforthisq]

First off I know im unreasonable for this part but I forgot my friends bday. I remembered the day after and texted on weds to say so sorry I forgot, happy bday, will drop a pressie round soon. Dont hear anything back but dont think anything off it, we both have young kids and busy lives. Texted her again today to ask if she wants to come to a concert I have tickets for next week and she just texted back ‘fuck off’

AIBU to think she’s totally ott?I know it’s bad I forgot (she always remembes!) but j apologised. It’s been a hard week. My youngest has slapped cheek and is miserable, oldest is SEN, I’m pregnant and have ADD. She knows all this btw. We’re women in our 40s, I like birthdays and celebrating but I wouldnt mind even a little bit of someone forgot my bday, especially if they apologised after.

I haven’t texted back and don’t know what to do now

She didnt have a big party this yr cos her husband is working abroad 4 six months and she didnt want to organise it alone.

there’s your answer princess is on one and forgetting her birthday put you in the firing line

she’s not a close friend brings little to your life . Sack her off wouldn’t contact again and if she did just tell her not falling out but your friendship has run it’s course

I think that you were both rude tbh.

OP didn’t make plans to drop it round did she ? I’m sure she said she would drop it round on her way past friends’ house at some point. Personally hell would freeze over before she’d get a gift from me after that behaviour. I’d send her a photo of me enjoying whatever the gift was !!

I’m a ‘birthday’ person - I always send cards and make sure people get them on the day and I know how hurtful it can be when you’re the one who always makes the effort and others can’t be bothered, but even I think ‘fuck off’ is a bit extreme!

So I also think there is more to this - people don’t just do this over one birthday…

My advice is just take her at her word. For whatever reason - she’s cut you off op.

She’s a ‘birthday week’ twat, this is the ideal opportunity to block and delete her. Don’t drop off the card and present!

Of course you can make a mistake .. and I do see your point. I hope she says sorry.

You didn't forget, you were like 24 hours late. I get it, some people are more into birthdays than others. But you got her a present you thought about it you just didn't make a huge fuss on her birthday. So you've still been thoughtful and generous just slightly late...and she has been childish and nasty.

As per her instructions, I'd fuck off. Permanently. Someone who is so sensitive about things that to me, just don't matter that much, are probably not people I'd want in my life

Pathetic, rude and self absorbed. I lost a friend in a similar way over her 60th (yes, 60th) birthday party. Sometimes folk just show their true colours.

SHE'S being completely unreasonable!!

Tbh, if I received a text from a friend saying that I’d think they’d mistakenly sent the text to the wrong person. It sounds like a massive overreaction to a belated birthday wish if that is what it’s about.

I think the ‘more to it’ is the fact that there will not be the usual big party because her partner is working away. She’s pissed and OP conveniently got in the firing line.

Ditto. My circle are not really birthday people - honestly if someone didn’t wish me happy birthday I wouldn’t give a shit. It’s what someone does the whole year that makes them a good friend not one bloody day.

OP - your friend is an entitled idiot. She’s shown her true self. I wouldn’t bother contacting her again

If my friend told me to fuck off they wouldn't be my friend anymore

I would respond and say “OK will do - have a fab life”

She was very rude. On purpose. For no good reason.

I'd not be messaging the 5 year old again.

She had a birthday party every year??? She sounds like a spoilt brat at primary school not a grown adult.

Sorry OP but I think she sounds a self absorbed twat and she’s no loss

I think there is probably a lot more to this story than meets the eye.

People who are precious about their birthdays are so immature in my opinion, celebrating or having a party great happy for you, but throwing a tantrum because people forget the date is down right embarrassing....don't feel bad she's acting like a toddler

She is unreasonable for telling you to fuck of but I suspect there's more to the story.

I have a 'friend' who never has time for me, forgets birthdays, only calls when she wants something or it's on her terms and there's been many a time I've said "fuck off" to my phone - she just actually sent it!

Just because she makes a huge deal of her birthday doesn’t mean everybody else has to too. You forgot, it happens. I wouldn’t bother with messaging her back. After her very rude message I would leave the ball in her court. She’s pathetic.

If you have known hwr for five years, why do you exchange birthday gifts?

Seems odd for 40somethings

A card...yes . But i never expect cards from
Friends

Rude and uncalled for.
Life gets busy, we all forget things.
My friend has forgotten birthday several times, it's really no big deals. I do however know if I ever needed anything she would be there in a heartbeat. That's what matters to me!

You definitely need to do as she asked snd fuck off .../forever

I would never talk to her again.
no need to reply to her “fuck off” message
she sounds like a spoilt cow