Husband allowed his mother to print my photos

[Ash1006]

So we've just had our 2nd baby and I'm sick of not having decent pictures so I found a photographer arranged some photos. My MIL kept banging on about wanting a picture of the 4 of us not to me just to husband bare in mind baby is only now 16 weeks old.
So we had photos taken in May and he asked about giving his mum one and I said not really happy as were only getting 5 and I want to put them up in my house, and it's weird to have same pictures also I'm really not photogenic so took lot for me to do this. This week I said we really must get those printed and framed and he told me his mum already has them up in her house.

AIBU to be fuming I really feel like she should take it down, I did all the work arranged photographer our time to have them done and paid for them amd yet she's the one displaying.

They make little to no effort with our children or us. Drive past frequently and never come round unless we invite them when they do come will only come in afternoon then complain that 2yo only wants to watch tv and grumpy as we've just woken her.

Kindly, you’re being a bit unreasonable. A picture in her house makes no difference even if it’s annoying. Get your own sorted and feel good about that!

I kept reading waiting to find the issue. I envy your life OP.

YABU, get them printed and put up in your home. Why does it matter so much that she also has them on display? You can both enjoy looking at them.

I don't think your MIL has done anything wrong sorry.

Focus on putting your pictures up in your house yourself.

You’re being ridiculous

I think YABU. The same photos in peoples house isn’t weird? Its not unusual for grandparents to display ‘family pictures’.

I cannot relate to your post whatsoever.

Unless there’s more of a backstory to your relationship with your mother in law then you’re just being selfish and mean spirited. Maybe some reflection on why this has caused such a strong reaction from you and some work on yourself regarding this could improve both your relationship with you MIL, yourself and possibly others too.

Yabu, if you start making a fuss about a couple of photos then your going to make the relationship much worse.

I think it’s a bit strange to begrudge her a photo of all of you.
just get your own up and don’t overthink what she’s got at her house.

Your mil wants pictures of her grandkids and son’s family, how not unreasonable. She got organised and got them up first, you’re making an issue that doesn’t exist. Poor mil.

You’re massively unreasonable.

Sorry but you seem to be looking for a problem that does not really exist and to be honest coming across as incredibly precious.

You know, more than one copy of a photo can be printed.

This isn't the hill to die on op

Has she put them up in heart shaped frames?

Ridiculous, why on earth is it weird for her to have the same photo?
And if they only come around when invited, that's a good thing, surely?! They're respecting your boundaries and privacy buy not landing uninvited.
You'll being very unreasonable OP.

I thought same 🤣 why are people all of a sudden so weird about grandparents having photos?!

The grandparents are horrible BC they don't turn up at your house unannounced, only when invited? Most folks would assume that was the social norm. But they drive past? Well, that's simply not on, how very dare they. Presuming it's not a gated private road?
As for the pictures, it really doesn't affect you at all. Other than showing she wishes to display multiple photos of you and your children in her home (which I would think would be a compliment?) So I'm afraid you are sounding rather unreasonable.

Sorry you are complaining that your MIL only comes when you invite her. Presumably she is on MN too and knows its a cardinal sin to call in unannounced especially as a MIL.

Why do you invite her at a time when you know your DD is grumpy? Invite her at a time when you usually know she isn't.

It is entirely normal for a grandparent to want a photo of her family/child/grandchild and display it.

YAB massively unreasonable. Also your husband knows this which is why he let her have copies.

They never come round unless you invite them? How awful of them. Not.

This sounds you being very controlling, having a baby does not make someone exempt of being it

and I want to put them up in my house, and it's weird to have same pictures

It's not really.

You've chosen to just have five printed for yourself. That doesn't mean that only five can be printed. Her own son is happy for her to have her own. What gives you the right to override your children's father's wishes for his mum to have copies?

What on earth is wrong with DIL's like you? Your MIL has become a grandmother. She loves her son. She has a new grandchild that she loves.

Only a DIL like you can turn asking if she could have a photo of those she loves, as "banging on" and having the nerve to ask both of you. Good grief. Poor woman.

Wow, what a thing to complain about.
She has done nothing wrong. Nothing at all.