Absolutely fuming with H for commenting on DD's eyes

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DD 4 has deep tear troughs. She just does.

So does my H ! She has it from him. I have asked the doc about it, nothing aside from making sure she's hydrated helps apparently.

In any case, he's fucking convinced it's because I don't moisturise her under eye area as much as I should.

I do put cream on her once a day, sometimes at bed time too. But he's never there to see it.

He constantly goes on about it. Not in an obvious way in front of her, but he'll make sure I know what he means. Like saying stuff like ' did you put cream on ? ' whenever he comes home from work and sees her. He says, you need to put cream on. Again, DD doesn't know he means that or her. But it really annoys me because he just keeps saying it.

First of all, I do it. Second of all, it doesn't make any difference, it's just her face- so why does he need to keep going on about it ?

I blew up tonight. I think it's a really shit thing to keep pointing out and it makes me really angry.

No, most people don't routinely put moisturiser on children's faces, unless they have a skin condition such as eczema or dry patches.

I had to look this up - so it's just bags under the eyes? Why does he care?!

Cream a paediatric dermatologist recommended I use on her face after washing her face..

I have 3 children and have never moisturised their faces - other than with sun cream in the summer. Always assumed it would block their pores and kids don’t need face cream?!

But Johnson's baby lotion isn't actually good for eczema. If a child has eczema they are better off with one of the moisturisers that is recommended for that.

I guess we all do what we're used to, but no, no one that i know of moisturises children's faces.

In fact, I remember trying different creams from various experts for my dc under 5s excema. Then we went wild camping for a week and I forgot to pack any of it. No baths either. All cleared up.

Let him know that moisturizing cream under the eyes doesn't do anything for that. Dermal fillers, fat transfers are surgery are the only things that are effective.
Don't put her through and more of these useless applications. It will only cause her to have self esteem issues about it. Tell your idiot partner he is not to mention it in front of her, or better yet, not to you either. He should keep his insecurities to himself and not create the same feelings in her.

Yeah I don't use that. I use a recommended one. Anyway the post wasn't really about moisturiser and whether they should or shouldn't be used.

Ive never heard of a deep tear trough, had to look it up, just the shape of someones face surely

And Ive never heard of anyone moisturising children's faces, completely bizarre and unnecssary unless they have some sort of skin condition

Poor child, growing up thinking that her parents need her to be more attractive.

I did not know that there was a name for this feature, my beautiful niece has also inherited this. Dsis constantly answers questions about it, usually from other moms.
Your DH is out of order constantly commenting on it and could give your DD a complex.

Skins are different. Children that are mixed race or black are often moisturised daily all over as their skin is drier
My friend moisturises her entire body and face every day after a shower with a mix of oil and lotion

But he's going to give her a complex and needs to STFU

I’ve never put cream on any of my kids faces, it’s really not necessary surely unless they have particularly dry skin

The doctor is shining you on. Moisture cream can't correct that.

Tell him you're already doing it but if he wants to take over he can and you'll stop so she's still getting the amount that was recommended and not more. He can either rearrange his schedule to be there at the time you've been doing it, or he can make a time when he's available to wash her face and apply it. Tell him to let you know his choice and no more discussion is happening until then. When he brings it up again, ask him what he decided. Do not permit any other discussion of the topic; either cut him off or walk away. If he's sincere that solves the problem -- and if he's not but is rather bullying or trying to gaslight you, it's best to shut him down.

Cream will do nothing for tear troughs, not at four and nor at forty. It's just your face. Ridiculous man.

Is this a disfigurement or is it cosmetic??? Ive only just learned the words tear trough in cosmetic surgery.

Nope. It doesn't do anything but plump up the area a bit temporarily. By morning the effect would be gone.

I’ve never heard this before , I have these I just thought they were called eye bags! I’ve always had dark eyes since a kid and my dd has inherited these she puts concealer on she’s 12 now. Your husband’s an arse for pointing it out to her!

It's really not a disfigurement.

It's just the shape of someone face.

The only thing you can do is get filler. She's beautiful. I hate that he keeps saying this about her.

He got really pissed off when I blew up at him. He said I was hysterical. I said he needs to stop saying this. She will pick up on it and I don't like it either that he keeps pointing out a perceived flaw.

He's staggeringly ignorant.

@XChrome it really is. I'm fuming at his ignorance.

I occasionally put moisturiser on my child’s face when he comes out of the bath.

He is 5. I have never purposely moisturised under his eyes. I would if he had dry skin or something, but I’m confused as to why else you’d make a big thing out of moisturising under a child’s eyes?

You do not need to moisturise a 4 year olds face. About 9 or 10 then can start. You both are probably giving her a massive complex but he sounds like a complete arsehole

I'm not making a big deal out of moisturising under her eyes, he is.