Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

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He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

Good luck with the future is all I can say.

What a selfish arsehole.

Start planning for life as a single parent

I assume it's his baby, and this isn't just a casual relationship?

If my assumptions are correct, dump him. He's already useless. Get the baby registered by yourself, put a CMS application in and just leave him to be a man-child without dragging you down.

He is a piece of shit

Jeez, no you are not being unreasonable!! He needs to buck up his ideas big time.

I would get out now if I were you . This is an absolute disastrous start to parenthood. 🤦‍♀️. I wouldn’t have contacted him until it was all done to be honest. The next couple of weeks you are going to need a fair amount of help. Is he going to stay home at least a few days to help?

I’d be done with him and wouldn’t let him come see baby in the hospital or after. What a piece of shit

Are you at the hospital waiting now? Honestly if you have someone else you can call for support e.g. mum, sister, best friend then I would.

i hope you’re not together. If you are, he really needs to fuck right off as you’re better off without him. What an unimaginable arsehole.

When a person shows you who they are, believe them.

I cannot believe you don’t know if you’re being unreasonable or not op, your standards cannot be that low!

I’m not even going to ask what he’s like otherwise, because this one situation tells me and everyone else exactly what he’s like. Don’t go back to him after birth, can you go to your parents?

What an absolute wanker-I’m sat here with my mouth hanging open. I’m pregnant myself, and if my husband decided he wasn’t going to be there-when I’m having his baby-he’d be kicked out the door so bloody quick he wouldn’t know what hit him

I’m so sorry and best of luck with the C-section! And no, you’re 100% being reasonable. Hes the twat

WOW!! I am most likely going to take myself - depending on how I feel - to my pre section appointment the day before. But I will drive there with no suitcases, if I don't feel up for it DH will drive me, no questions. On the day of the section DH will bring me plus our things. He left you to take 2 buses alone to actually go in for the section with the case. He is a prick an absolute selfish arse.

He’s an absolute selfish pig. Prepare yourself now for zero help with the baby and start planning your future without him. Think very carefully about giving your baby his surname if that’s your intention.

I suspect him not giving you a lift to hospital is the tip of the iceberg…… prepare to go it alone, you’ll do far better than doing it whilst trying to drag his dead-weight behind you all the time.

This

If he can't support you today, the day you are giving birth to his child, when will he? This would be relationship ending for me.

I had no problems taking public transport to my c section appointment, most healthy women could manage it. DH was dropping off our eldest at nursery so he came along later. I didn't need a heavy suitcase, just a cabin size rucksack with 2 days worth of supplies.

He's not a partner. He's a sperm donor

So sorry he has done this when you really need all the support you can

YANBU - it's absolutely shite of him

Do you have anyone else who can be with you?

Concentrate on looking after yourself and welcoming your baby

Do you think this is the same situation? Because it isn’t.

Please don't give your baby his surname.

Have you had the section yet??

Is he normally like this, or is he having some kind of impending-fatherhood related breakdown?

If this is typical, then I'd be seriously planning a life without him.