Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

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He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

Run....

Just let op enjoy her baby now.

The trip in is “uber and done with” for now.

I predict a split dump him

LTB.

I’d be calling his mother to be with me at the appointment.

you need to put your foot down on this behaviour. I speak from experience when I say his behaviour will only get worse and as many have said…not a lasting relationship.

good luck with the birth!

You'd be calling* your EX PARTNER'S MOTHER* to attend an appointment with you because he won't?

Then getting into her time machine and repeating the birth you had two days previously?

Ok then.

I didn’t read EX PARTNER 🤷‍♀️

And yeah. Why not get his mum to step up. Maybe she’d have a word to her son and tell him to pull his socks up. This worked for me…!

God what a response?!

If you can't tell he is an absolute loser, you have a problem yourself. You already have a problem for being pregnant by him. I'd register the baby in my name, and tell him to get lost.

CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your baby boy! 💖💙👶💙💖

So happy for you! Ignore the irritating boy-man for now and just focus on the joy!

This doesn’t bode well for the future. Sorry OP that is vile behaviour and judging by that you won’t have any help with baby. I would get rid now, that would have done it for me.

Imo be glad he failed you at the crucial time. Then there is less chance you will forget he is a class A cunt and take him back....

Congratulations to you and your son xxx

Awwwww I feel 4 u I no people r telling u 2 end it now but u won't because u hope he'll change in2 someone he's clearly not like a loving partner and farther i pray for u and ur bby his narcissistic nature suddenly disappears when he sees hes beautiful little miracle and he becomes super dad and partner but I'd bet my left leg he'll be the same self-centered person u no in ur heart he truly is I just hope it doesn't take you 2 long 2 realise he's a twat that doesn't deserve ur love and u run as far away as u can n make urself a happy little life with ur amazing gift. GOOD LUCK CHIC I'm not being a bitch I'm talking from ugly experience.

YOU HAD TO GET THE BUS TO YOUR C-SECTION????? With a suitcase????? Please please show him all these posts. Please. I am so sorry. I literally cannot remember the last time I was so horrified. I wish you all the best.

He is an utter arsehole!! What a sorry excuse for a man!! You need to show him these comments. Leave him now!!

He doesn't care about you or your baby;he doesn't want to be a dad.

Know that having a child won't change a thing,he'll continue to act as though he has no responsibility and you'll be doing everything for the baby alone.

I'm sorry he's a dickhead.You don't need to lower yourself to stay with him.

He is not your partner. For goodness sake don't have more kids with him.

You are not being unreasonable. Are you kidding me??! He is not going to be there for you or the baby, he is just showing you his true colours, how he is when you need him the most. This is the person you cannot rely on. You will be better off as a single parent, and it will make your life easier if you do not give baby his surname. Hopefully, there is someone in your life you can count on in this difficult moment.

If the relationship ended during your pregnancy and you are no longer together tbh he's an asshole and I don't understand why you decided to have him as your emotional support for your C-section and not a friend. I wouldn't have had him at the hospital at all.

I am sorry he let you down like this.

Rubbish partner

Is this for real? Really hope you mean ex-partner? Seriously, you're better off parenting without this waste of space in your life

This. My ex would be very low down the list of people I would want by my side when giving birth, whether he was the baby's father or not. And if the woman giving birth does allow the father to be present, damn right he should be driving her there.

I think it’s sad that you are asking AIBU. What part of what you need is unreasonable. Don’t doubt yourself. I’m sorry you are alone in this but I think you know what you need to do. I hope you have the strength going forward x

Are you actually kidding me?

You need to recognise that your mums view is fucked up too. Aim better, have higher ambitions and expectations. And never get back with the twat ex.