Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

[LoopyDays]

He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

Why in particular did you choose this sperm donor?

If I approached a neighbour, someone getting in their car at the supermarket or any other complete stranger and asked for a lift to the hospital as I was about to have my baby I would be surprised to receive a no. Most humans would have an instinct to help in this situation. Your partner has zero compassion, respect or love for you. He’s an absolute dirt bag excuse of a man and this is just a tiny insight to the rest of your life with him.

Hey good luck with your delivery, OP, we'll all be thinking of you!

In terms of your OH, I really hope you take this advice and don't waste years of your life trying to turn this pathetic adolescent into a man.

He honestly won't ever change - and it is MUCH harder to bring up a child when you're constantly sad and disappointed and angry and hurt than it is to just cut ties right now.

This would absolutely break my relationship with this person (I can't bring myself to call him a 'man'). Not there at your most vulnerable or at the most precious times of your life. I'd be getting rid now before the baby is forced to experience his shitting parenting and being put bottom of a 'to-do' list.

Shit I lost this poster award. Can anyone dig around to give them one?

Please please please make the nurses/ midwives well aware.
As much as they can, they take extra-care of you when you are on on your own.

Do you have family/ friends who can help you when you go home with the baby?
Don't be shy and afraid to ask them. C-section is a major surgery, take all the help you can.

You deserve better than that low-life, you really do.

Mentally prepare living under the same roof or not your going to be a lone parent

Best wishes with the C-section @LoopyDays . Sorry your DP is such an arse.

This is one of the worst things I have read on here, in fact I had to read it twice to take the full horror of his cruel indifference on board

What time is the C section? I'm praying all goes well. I'm another one saying to please, please leave this man as he will not get any better.

So very very keen are you for your Good Girl Medal that you have failed to notice that OP's 'partner' has no childcare responsibilities, was out on the piss last night, has gone to work as usual this morning and is an all-round shit.

I hope you didn't bother with pain-relief or anesthetics? Most healthy women could manage without them.

Get a friend to be your birth partner.
You and that baby deserve so much better and you know it.

What a toe rag.

Don't give the baby his surname, and go home to your Mum, not him, when they release you both from hospital. You might as well start as you will end up going on, and get rid of him now, because he is going to be as much use as a wet sock going forward.

You wouldn't have made this post if he didn't already have form for this kind of thing, so you know in your heart what the upshot is going to be.

By definition, this was your second pregnancy / birth.

Maybe OP feels like she wants some support, especially if it is her first?

OP, I'm 39+2 and I'd be fuming even with the staying out late the night before? Surely this is the last lovely couple time you get for a while, why is he prioritising everything (work, friends) over you!?

So you’re the one that voted YABU.I wondered who did.

There is no way I’d have managed on my own, I was huge. To be let down at the last minute is really rough. I wouldn’t be speaking to him again.

FFS, the number of women having babies with arseholes. I feel sorry for the wains too.

I wouldn't be calling him at all - call your friend / mum / sister / etc

Selfish prick

I wish you luck - I think you're going to need it

This post literally made me weep and shudder in equal measures. How could anyone be so heartless? Good grief it beggars belief how any man could look himself in the mirror after this behaviour.

Yeah there aren't really words for this

My husband went to work the morning I was in labour but I had my mum who was taking me anyway and he works around the corner from the hospital so was there as soon as things were properly happening.

There didn't seem any point all of us sitting waiting and it wasn't as scheduled as a c section so could have taken days.

Leaving you on your own and to get public transport is entirely different.

100% this.
Most complete strangers would step up a lift. They’d even sit with you in support while waiting to go down! I know I would.
The sheer uselessness of him has infuriated me.

Do tell the midwives. Give them the chance to be there for you. Good luck, you’ll see your wonderful little one soon xxx

Wishing you a lovely birth op 🤗

I'm sorry, your partner is an absolute shit.

Good luck with the birth. Hope you've got support from other people in your life. xx

That is one of the most unloving things I've read. Get rid of him and do not give the baby his surname unless you also have his surname.
Feel so sad for you, this should be a happy time.

Poor baby is in for a life time of having a shit father.