To be irritated by colleague constantly complimenting herself?

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I’ve just never known anything like it. Just today

“I’ve curled my hair, I think my hair looks so gorgeous when it’s curled”

“My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams”

“How did you think that call went?
…Good…

“Yeah I’m actually so good at making calls”

Aibu to just find it irritating, or should I find it more refreshing?

One comment should sort it. But only in terms of what she says to you, not what she says to others.... ;)

That’s hilarious. Like a character from a sketch show.

I would find it more than irritating.
I'd have great difficulty in biting my tongue and telling her what I thought of people who blow their own trumpet all the time.
Does she ever praise other people or is it just her who is perfect?

Quite refreshing after the tedium of women constantly putting themselves down. Dh had an acquaintance like this. If she didn’t get a job she would say the interviewers were just jealous of her. I was quite impressed at the mad self confidence!

And I can't stand faux modesty, particularly from women. We should big ourselves up. I'd give it a try, OP. What are you brilliant at?

Confidence is fine but this sounds like arrogance. I would just ignore her tbh.

You can be realistic and pragmatic about your own strengths without being a raging self-regarding narcisstic who pisses everyone off around you!!

Yanbu op.

Just say 'how fascinating for you.' and change the subject. She sounds flipping awful.

I'd find her a breath of fresh air tbh. I'd much rather listen to a woman be positive about herself than put herself down. It actually sounds quite amusing and eccentric too.

I think I'd be tempted to ask her if she'd swallowed a 'Self Help' book for breakfast OP. Personally, this would drive me nuts.

Oh yeah she actually failed her last exam, and oh the excuses. When really it came down to the fact she never even opened her text book.

Good for her .. we should all be our own cheerleaders

Is she waiting for someone to congratulate her/ compliment her? I actually like the idea of it- I’m firmly in the ‘not tell anyone unless they pry it out of me, then act like it’s not a big deal’ camp, and I love that some people are able to congratulate themselves!!

"Good for you" with a big smile, she'll cotton on eventually 😂

In my experience it's the least capable and most ignorant people who sing their own praises - in the hope probably they think they can fool people into actually thinking they aren't useless.

Nowt like blowing your own trumpet 😁

I actually don't mind it given how horrible most women feel about themselves.

Hear hear.

Though on top of 'nice girls don't boast', Brits have a particular ingrained dislike of the tall poppy.

I remember when I first lived in rural England (not originally from the UK), being fascinated by the ritual conversation at the baby/toddler group I attended, which involved faux-self-deprecation and a pause for someone else to contradict it, followed by more faux-self-deprecation etc eg

'No, I won't have a biscuit -- I'm such a heifer!'
'You're not, you're TINY! Isn't she tiny?'
'Your top is lovely!'
'This old thing! Primark, about five years ago! And the buttons barely close, I'm like a WHALE!'
'You are not, if you turned sideways, you'd disappear!' etc etc

I think I'd have been charmed if someone came in and said 'I'm brilliant at exams, and I also have great hair.' But that person would have been shunned.

Yes we definitely should!
far better than hating on ourselves and putting ourselves down

OP it’s my dream in life to be that positive / delusional about myself!

Why does the alternative to blowing your own trumpet have to be self depreciation, faux or otherwise?
It is possible to be quietly confident without going to one extreme or the other.

I would much prefer that than constant moaning about how rubbish and hard done by they are

Just pretend she’s a mediocre white man and it will seem completely normal.

I would have said it's refreshing to hear someone being that self confident, if it hadnt been that I'd had a MANAGER like this. It was the frequency that was bonkers, they'd shoehorn a self complement into every conversation. I think my favourite was when I asked them how long I should allow for travel to another one of our offices which I'd heard was difficult for parking. They suggested where I could park and said it was 5-10 mins walk away 'although it only takes me 3 mins I'm just really good at walking'.

😂😂😂
Peak Mumsnet passive-aggression!

But this sounds ridiculous, this isn't confidence, it sounds childish!

"I'm so good at making calls" what a twat!