To be irritated by colleague constantly complimenting herself?

[foreverstardust]

I’ve just never known anything like it. Just today

“I’ve curled my hair, I think my hair looks so gorgeous when it’s curled”

“My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams”

“How did you think that call went?
…Good…

“Yeah I’m actually so good at making calls”

Aibu to just find it irritating, or should I find it more refreshing?

I’d put a sign up that says, “Empty vessels make the most noise.”

Make sure the sign is in a prominent place too.

When colleague goes in for self praise I think I’d smile politely then ignore.

She sounds insecure but quite irritating.

Maybe it wouldn't sound so odd if more people had that confidence.

I think @MrsTerryPratchett has the right idea.

😄 I have been known to say; "Do you want a parade?"

Dammit, I came on to say the same thing and you beat me to it 😂

Not if you actually want people to like you.

OP, just reply 'You think?' with a quizzical expression every time she does it.

Confidence and self-belief is knowing that you are attractive / good at things. You can have that knowledge fairly quietly. Arrogance is continually boasting about it to others. Saying your own hair is gorgeous is arrogant, probably because it’s a presumption that everyone agrees.

I feel the same about men. When attractive men swan about cockily saying similar things about themselves, I find it off putting. A man who has a great body and quietly slips on a T-shirt is way more attractive to me than a man who says things like, “I’ve got a really impressive muscular body, haven’t I?”

Agree. Constantly being self deprecating and constantly bigging yourself up are both indicators of low self esteem. Arrogant people aren’t confident, quite the opposite!

She sounds ND to me. She probably has a really really hard time keeping friends and is trying to keep herself afloat.

LOL did anyone else read that OP and think of the "Let me take a selfie" song?!

She sounds like an insufferable twat.

Id just ignore it completely and give her no fuel

Exactly. One day she told me in great detail why she thinks her face is perfect and why she’d never get work done.

(Get cosmetic work or don’t I couldn’t care less by the way)

I’d find it irritating and fascinating in equal measure. Makes a change from ‘I’m on a diet and I’m really bad at x,y,z…’
I’d ignore it and have a quiet rant to someone out of office if it all got too much. She’s not hurting anyone really. Perhaps it buoys her up.

I worked with someone like that. She eventually revealed herself to be a complete narcissist who built herself up by saying how good she was whilst finding fault with everyone else. Watch your back!

How old is this wally?

Oh she tells me my faults to my face.

Shes repeatedly told me how choppy my hair looks, when she’s well aware I don’t like my hair at the moment.

She also saw an old photo of me and said “you look so different … you’ve got a chin”

Now I don’t think she’s jealous of me at all. But I still don’t get the need for the put downs.

That doesn't sound like confidence to me...if anything it sounds like someone is deluded and / or totally lacks confidence. But I may be biased, as I knew someone for whom everything in life came down to matter of others being jealous.

That person was most definitely in the deluded category.

My late mother had a term for people like this. She'd say they had a screw loose.

I'd guess that this (criticizing others) is the real issue. I've made a habit of only saying positive things about my appearance in front of my dd (negative comments are limited to things like 'I don't think these are the right shoes for this skirt - I'm going to try my boots' etc). She hears so many women and girls around her putting themselves down that I am trying to model some self-love! But on the other hand I also throw around lots of compliments and positive comments about all other people too! as I think I read here on mumsnet (as said by a teenage boy if I remember right) we will have no body shaming in this house!

She sounds like Peggy Hill and that would annoy me too. Though, bragging isn't as bad as humble bragging or virtue signalling to be fair.

Arrogance or total snowflakiness together with inflated ego and a tad of stupidity.

What if when you were all getting ready, she complimented you all collectively? I think that would be nice and would be kind of charmed if she included herself in that (rather than waiting for someone else to step in and compliment her).

Huh? Who’s getting ready together?

She sounds hilarious. I wouldn't mind her being in my office.

Or not after seeing your updates!!!