To be irritated by colleague constantly complimenting herself?

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I’ve just never known anything like it. Just today

“I’ve curled my hair, I think my hair looks so gorgeous when it’s curled”

“My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams”

“How did you think that call went?
…Good…

“Yeah I’m actually so good at making calls”

Aibu to just find it irritating, or should I find it more refreshing?

I'm curious, OP - what happens if you answer her properly?

“I’ve curled my hair, I think my hair looks so gorgeous when it’s curled”
I preferred it straight but, yeah, you have done a good job.

“My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams”
Hope you've revised more than last time! Good luck!

“Yeah I’m actually so good at making calls”
Love your confidence! What did the client sign up for?

"Your hair looks well choppy today."
Yeah, d'you like it?

Saw an old photo of me and said “you look so different … you’ve got a chin”
Are you saying my face is shapeless, Sandra? Are you really?

@bridgetreilly Nice bit of racism for this casual topic.

It wouldn’t irritate me at all. How other people feel about themselves has absolutely nothing to do with me.

Good for her if she loves the hair that grows out of her own scalp. What is it to anyone else?

Yes this does sound irritating - but maybe she's just trying to boost her low self esteem. Wonder if others find it equally annoying.

No, she's citing a well-known phenomenon!

She will go far.

I'm not sure that the original question was asked in good faith, because who tf doesn't know this by now?

My DH used to tell me about a man at his old work place who did this all the time. Everyone laughed at him and took the piss.

Maddening. She’s probably actually deeply insecure though.

I would not be able to refrain from saying, “Mirror, mirror on the wall….Have you finished Evil Queen? We have work to do.”

I had lunch a couple of weeks ago with someone who went on and on about the extremely expensive skin cream she had just bought. "I've used it for years," she gushed, "It's kept my skin so youthful!"

MNers, I hope you will be very proud of me for confining my comments to, "Mmmm!"

😂

She just sounds friendly. I would be OK with that so long as her narcissism doesn't become bullying at any point.

She would annoy the fuck outta me.

i would ask her if she would like a cookie for a job well done.

I suppose you could call her friendly, and no, I don't think she's a bully.
But the lunch conversation was 98% about her, and 2% about me, if that.

So not a friendship I would look to develop, really.

😂 😅 😆

I say very little, so wouldn't mind having a friend that talks a lot about themselves.

@cactuswoman love it!

Maybe it is a British thing, but absolutely we have it drummed into us that no one likes a big head from very early on. This is probably what leads to so much self deprecation. This woman would be hilarious (and annoying) if she wasn't putting others down.

@Garlickest Your memes don’t make it less of a sweeping generalisation based on skin colour. Hmmm. Try it with another skin colour. Thanks!

Use the brilliant American slap down
" Bless your heart"

😂Thankyou @cactuswoman . I've been racking my brains to remember who she was reminding me of. 😂😂😂

I had a colleague like this once. She even told us that the nurse who took her blood test said she had great blood...

Any attempt at sarcasm is useless, these people have hinds like rhinos.

Considering this is a women’s site, I’m delighted to see the sophistication of thought and female solidarity displayed by those cheering on the woman being mocked in the original post.

It makes me despair to see deep bucket of crabs syndrome on full display here.
It’s a mindset similar to the house slave who is happy to oppress the field slaves, in order to snatch a moment of power, not caring it’s to the detriment of both the self and the other.

What could we achieve by instead cheering on one another.
Any group of women who ever achieved anything together, understood they had to discard the bucket.

Unfortunately, some women are willing to do anything for a little bit of attention and the chance to feel good about themselves at someone else’s expense, even for a single fleeting moment.

I imagine the OP is very young, then at least there is hope for change.
Mockery is a sign of emotional immaturity or limited IQ.

I agree with this. Truly confident people don’t need to go on about how great they are outside of job interviews..

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I immediately thought of Amanda in friends . I think I'd find her quite amusing. I'll swap you for 'the fitness bore'. No Julie, I don't give a shit how many steps you've done today or how many calories in your lunch box. Why on earth do people think anyone would be interested in this information.