To be irritated by colleague constantly complimenting herself?

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I’ve just never known anything like it. Just today

“I’ve curled my hair, I think my hair looks so gorgeous when it’s curled”

“My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams”

“How did you think that call went?
…Good…

“Yeah I’m actually so good at making calls”

Aibu to just find it irritating, or should I find it more refreshing?

LOL.

True though.

I'm trying to work out whether pp are being tongue in cheek here. I'm not good at detecting sarcasm. I can't really believe that so many pp think it is a good thing to constantly praise yourself.
It's putting me in mind of the other current thread where posters are coming on to say how good looking they think themselves.
Since when did it become the norm to become raging ego maniacs?
And the alternative is not self depreciation. The alternative is quiet confidence about the things you can do well and realism about the things you aren't so good at.
I can't think how any one would want to work with someone who is blowing their own trumpet all the time and if the pp who apparently think this is acceptable behaviour do it themselves then I feel sorry for their colleagues too.

You couldn't be more accurate. No one would bat an eye if a MWM said this 😂

But I did look great!

Is her name Donald Trump?
"I just made the best phone call that anyone's ever made. And I have the curliest hair. Really, I do."

Is she British? It’s just so “unBritish” to do that sort of thing, but - at least in my experience- other nationalities find it much easier to be self positive. Does sound really irritating, though (but then I am terribly British!).

YANBU. She's a narcisstic pain in the ass.

"Do you play any other instruments, or are you only able to blow your own trumpet?"

That's egotism, not self confidence. The solution to low self esteem is not overestimating your worth, it's healthy, reasonable, self worth.

Yep. She's a narcissist.

Exactly. It's a false dichotomy to say there is only one option other than low self esteem.

I have a colleague like this.

The team were talking about key person risk and she came up in every scenario.

A piece of work she was barely involved in suddenly she was project managing the whole thing and everyone was coming to her for questions even really senior people…

Told me she was basically doing the job of someone a grade above her. (Went for a job the grade above and didn’t get it… hmmmmm).

To some extent I admire her confidence as I lack it so so so much. But think there is probably a middle ground.

Is she positive about other people too? Did she volunteer the info that she failed her exam, or would you have found out anyway?

A favourite saying of my ds was "do you want a medal"

I have a dear friend exactly like this. She’s wonderful I’m so many other ways but honestly I do internal eye rolls whenever she throws herself yet another compliment 🤣

I'd just laugh.

"I HAVEN'T EVEN HAD ANY PROPER DANCE LESSONS"

I wonder if she is neurodivergent and doesn’t understand how these things sound.

Och, good on her.

Maybe she's got no one else in her life to do it for her.

No I would much rather someone talks like this then the constant self negging which then puts me in the position of feeling obliged to console them or big them up, ugh. It also reminds me to appreciate myself more and talk better to myself when I hear someone doing it, negativity brings a downer.

Don’t put her down, just admire her self confidence. I’d be mildly amused, and look at it benignly.

Oh my goodness, I work with someone like this. She is so special and important.

She's reassuring herself, I suggest.

Gently goad her into making increasingly batshit claims.

You go to Tenerife, she can go to Elevenerife.

I have a mother like this, very bloody irritating! She thinks men fancy her, they don’t, and that their wives are jealous. She’s 78, not glamorous one jot and is delusional. My dad used to refer to her as a drama queen, since he’s passed we see it all now, she’s driving us bats, 😵‍💫