Next doors daughter again!!

[Notthattimeofthemonth]

Posted on a previous thread about next door daughter coming round our house all the time and just disrupting everything Climbing on furniture and damaging things.

I came back off holiday on Friday and brought DS a huge tub of his favourite chocolate from duty free. He has been saving them and only having a handful each time.

She came round on Saturday and DS showed her the chocolate what I brought. Soon as he left the room to go outside and play she ate the whole tub!!!! Baring in mind this is a huge tub of chocolate.

DS was so angry never seen him get this angry and he came and told me and said he wanted her out the house. She promised to replace them but hasn’t. They don’t have much money so I don’t expect it.

She keeps calling round everyday and I have been saying no as DS doesn’t want her here. It’s getting to the point where it’s embarrassing sending her back home 2-3 times a day.

How can I word this nicely to her mum that I don’t want her coming round. She’s a compulsive liar and a nasty little girl. (As horrible as it sounds)

As people said on your other thread, you need to keep saying no and be consistent.

Turn her away every time, stop letting her into your home. With all the respect in the world, you were a fool for letting her in on Saturday when you've had such a bad time of it with her in the past. You need to consistently say no, not occasionally give in when she pesters enough, that'll just make her think pestering is the way in.

I do feel sorry for the kid, calling you her second mum, she's obviously not got a good home life. But at the same time you have your own child(reb) to think about and they are your priority, not this girl.

So keep saying no.

Can you stop answering the door, send mum a message and say that as your son is upset with her daughter you don’t think it’s appropriate for her to keep knocking your house for him and just leave it at that.

Why did you allow her in...is she climbing over the fence..this your problem no and shut the door

Social services? That'll stop it. Worried about a child who doesn't seem to be supervised.

Just keep sending her back home every single time. If mum asks tell her your DS doesn’t want to be friends anymore after she ate all his chocolate

Stop letting her in-very single time. Stop enabling her behaviour and look after your own son.

she knocked on the door Saturday morning to say she missed me whilst I was away and I felt guilty! And was suckered back in.

Find your teacher being cross voice and tell her never ever to call round again.
make her feel uncomfortable, she is not picking up on your hints and gentle curves, so get tough and mean

Why are you answering the door?

Just say no. You having family time, washing the cat, floor, dog. Seeing family. Repeat. Please be strong

How old is she?
Very few children are truly nasty. Only met one once and she turned out to be a criminal later on, she was just selfish, nasty and conniving. So trust your gut. I don’t think ones like that are even safe to be around your ds if they are that bad. Protect your ds.

As long as you’re consistent and turn her away every time she will probably give up after a few months. If you give in occasionally and let her in, you will send her mixed messages and she will continue to pester you

Because normal people answer the door....

Thanks! I’m not the best at putting my foot down and I’m trying not to rock the boat.

Sounds like she was hungry, perhaps she isn't being fed.

I don’t. I look through my peephole and if I’m not interested, I ignore. I choose who I do/don’t open the door to. 🤷‍♀️ I don’t owe anyone access into my home. OP has said she doesn’t want this girl over, so perhaps she should not open the door to her in the first place.

How old is she?

Tell her mum it has to stop could you have a word with her and tell her to stop coming to mine as its taking the piss.

Or just shout but not open the door PISS OFF.

Child probably needs a good feed.

Why do some people have so much trouble with the word no.

It’s getting to the point where it’s embarrassing sending her back home 2-3 times a day.

embarrassing for her parents maybe, not for you. Keep saying no, she will eventually get the message.

Can you not just tell her no, DS doesn't want you here again until you replace the chocolate you ate.

How classy to a child.

Be honest and firm. "DS is still very angry and upset with you after you ate all of the gift of the chocolates that I gave him. He doesn't want you to come around anymore so please don't come back to the house" and shut the door.

Had the same with a 7yr old pest who always came knocking. I felt bad for fibbing to a 7yr old (no, little Johnnie can't play today due to insert fib).

At the end of the day, my kids didn't want her coming round & well, their wants trump my feeling bad!