To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

[grengat]

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

that's just it, it depends on the kid and not the school.

The neighbours' kids will still do better as they'll spend time taking them to educational places and doing other things to further their education instead of spending their time gloating on mumsnet.

You’re feeling schadenfreude and you’re gloating about it.

You could’ve stayed away from her if she annoyed you so much.

you always this pleasant? 😳

She said this in front of your DC?

OP is winding herself up, and rubbing hands like she’s ’won’. If the neighbour is a true ‘Elevenerifer’, all that will happen is she’ll use the saved school money to brag about the new thing she’s spending it on, be it, pension, cruise, loft extension, horse riding lessons, tutor’.

It’s not like the government can take away all the money she would have spent on fees.

OP, focus on your own life and kids, seriously. No good comes from comparing lives. There’s many things I wish I could have had but I’m grateful for what I do have, and I don’t worry about people who have more/less unless they are encroaching on my families lives

You'll always have more/less than someone. And it’s ok.

Oh gosh, maybe your neighbour was just a proud mama who couldn't stop talking about her amazing son, not neccasarily boasting or rubbing your face in it. I know some of us don't like hearing it but I love hearing about how well my friends' children are doing. With everything being so negative about this generation of kids, I love hearing how amazing many of them are.

I'm really surprised by these comments. People that brag are awful! A bit of silent satisfaction is completely normal.

How did this make your DC feel worthless? It's not a true statement.

This …OP you really need to have a word with yourself.

I also understand you somewhere in my soul, OP. It isn't nice what you think, but I've sometimes had nasty thoughts as well.

Why? What on earth has her son done to you? Why does it matter what other people do? Really, get a grip, or, do you want your children to grow up feeling gleeful over other people's misfortune too? Somebody will think you are privileged, do you want them to cheer when bad things happen to your son?

I can’t help but wonder what makes you think the children will be on an even playing field now.

They might not have the funds for private school, but they’ll have it for tutors etc.

You do realise this involves upheaval and upset of a child?.. wTF?

Not a good look OP!

I knew you would incur the wrath of MN over this. I understand how you feel. It’s nothing to do with the child but everything to do with the bragging, condescending mum. I am weary of twatty bragging parents so if they were knocked down a bit …fine!

The OP is exactly the type of person the Labour party is appealing to and, as her shitty little post shows, is doing so very successfully.

"I cant't afford...private schools....my own home...a pension...a gold plated dildo... Wahhhhh Wahhhhhh! Why should someone else have it if I can't.
Well, Ok. if I can't have it-the next best thing is that others can't have it either."

Imagine living your one precious life like this and, worryingly, there are enough of the fuckers about to install a government who tells them that if they can't have it, they'll make life harder for those who do,

Nasty little green slimed shits and you, OP , are a great example.

I imagine you as a miserable, envious person who amounts to very little and who will never amount, to very much. Still, plenty of hand rubbing and gurning for you, as after next Friday, you'll be able to witness all sorts of misery for those who might have had it better than you.

Touched a nerve?
I don’t actually agree with OP but ..

You're a truly horrible person Op.

its still crappy way to basically go haha so to speak

Nope, @Olidorjo
You're taking a pack out of your own sack if you think people have to be personally affected in order to recognise a shit when when they see one!

I have no skin in the game and don't need one to comment on one of the most shitty little posts I have seen for a long time..

10000 percent agree with you. People like the Op make me happy billionaires exist tbh, just so jealous pricks like her will always have someone to be jealous over. Imagine feeling great at someone else's misfortune, especially when living in one of the most fortunate and privileged places on earth. Op maybe worry less about people have more than you and be grateful you and your son have it so good here in the UK, or infact wherever you are compared to other parts of the world where trust me the people have a lot less than you and I'd put money on it they're a lot nicer than you are too. You never know what's round the corner, hopefully your neighbour finds her feet again financially whereas you will never prosper with your attitude and will always feel sorry for yourself and your circumstances. Pathetic really.

I’m all for VAT increases but being gleeful when a child is upset is especially distasteful.

I haven't read the full thread but your opening post is awful to read.
What a shame you have such bitterness and jealousy.

If she's awful why on earth are you friendly with her In the first place? It's odd.

The kid who knows nothing other than his private school life and peer group and is leaving them behind, going into education with kids who have parents like you saying the new private school boy is here because he's run out of money and rubbing their ugly little hands together over it didn't say that comment about doctors and Lawyers though did he. Are you always this jealous of people? Get therapy you spiteful cow.

What area of the country do you live in that people can go “look round state schools” for a place in 6 months for an inter-year admission - especially at this time of year when schools are packed with activities and clubs?

Round here you can only look round schools if they have spaces, and that would be for an immediate place, not “pre booking” for a term in advance.