To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

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I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

Given the boasting, I feel sorry for the child having parents like that.

Grow up! Little green monster syndrome

You sound spiteful OP.

You both sound unpleasant.

Well I guess you can’t help how you feel. Probably best to leave it there.

My siblings sound exactly like this to me

I am supportive of them, but its entirely tactless.

Poor child.

I think that is bloody horrible to take joy in a child's disappointment

You've misread the thread. It isn't the child's disappointment she'd taking joy in.

Schadenfreude.

YABU sorry OP, I get it from the point of view that she was bragging all the time but the poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education.

Her kid shouldn't have to go to state school for your kid to be on a level playing field with hers.... just shows what a state this country is in tbh...

In what way, because she is chit chatting about her life and OP is defensive, and jealous about other people so takes it the wrong way

OP sounds awful.

I don't think you are being unreasonable to post what you know is unreasonable in an anonymous way to vocalise it acknowledge it and move on.

But do acknowledge it's not the nicest of thoughts

You really are scraping the bottom of the barrel here aren't you? It's a sad world when you get pleasure from seeing a child's life disrupted so much.
As for a level playing field, not a chance. Genetics play a large part in intelligence and future prospects and it looks like your kids haven't struck lucky on any front.

How mean.

That’s an opinion I’d be too ashamed to share, even anonymously on the internet.

Your neighbour brags. You could have solved this by spending less time with her or ignoring the bragging or asking her not to talk about schools as it’s clearly a sore point for you.

But you feel gleeful that her kid is going to be pulled from his school and friends. Nasty.

It is like bragging you have plenty of money and lots of holidays to someone living in poverty.

You sound very bitter.

You're just as bad as your neighbour imo.

Doesn't really matter the end result is the same. The child loses all his friends, has to start again in a state school which is hard enough but to be the new kid from private school....

The child will suffer there's absolutely nothing to be joyful about.

poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education

@Mummy2024 not all private schools offer a top notch education. And some state schools do. My cousin teaches in a private school. She would get a huge discount on fees, but still doesn't send her children there

You sound like a lovely person

She probably mentioned it all the time because she was trying to justify to herself the choice they’d made to stretch themselves so much, and how it was worth it. I feel for the child. Moving mid year from somewhere you’re happy isn’t easy.

He can get a decent education in many state schools. Might have to mix with the plebs though.