To think friend should have reminded me?

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Friend paid for hers and my ticket to see a recent gig, cost £200 each. These were bought months ago and I forgot about it, we also have barely spoken since purchase.

I never paid her back and now the gig has been and gone and she’s ignored my texts and calls.

She's not your mother and I'd be pretty pissed off with you. £200 is a lot. You should just transfer the money and apologise, profusely

Did you go to the gig?

Erm ... that's really weird. Did she go without you? Re sell your ticket? Or do you not know? Either way, it sounds like you've been ghosted.

You are being very unreasonable.

How on earth do you forget to pay someone money you owe? And then BLAME them for not reminding you?

Cheeky fuckery to the highest level.

You wouldn’t be my friend.

Guessing a reverse.

Why didn’t you pay her as soon as the ticket was booked?

Didn’t you pay her when she bought the tickets?

Are they your PA?! I struggle to remember my own stuff that l need to do, never mind anyone else’s. I’m sure she had her own stuff to get on with

Not enough info.

Did you agree to her purchasing for you? Did you say you would pay her back?

I'm not surprised she's ignoring you. She shelled out for tickets, you didn't make reimbursing her a priority, you forgot the gig and now you're blaming her.

If you want to salvage the friendship you owe her an apology for being so unreliable.

Get her bank details and apologise then transfer the money and apologise again .

No, and she knew I wouldn’t be able to and she was ok with it.

I had to wait for pay day and then I completely forgot.

You knew she was buying the ticket and you’re an adult, not a child. Totally on you to remember to pay. I live a hugely busy life and I cannot imagine forgetting that I owe a friend £200. That’s awful. It makes me wonder (somewhat enviously) how many fun and pricey events you must be planning all the time if you can forget about a gig this expensive!

You forgot you owed someone TWO HUNDRED QUID?

If I was due to go to a gig that cost £200 a ticket, I would have the date tattooed inside of my eyelids.

It was up to you to remember.

Forgetting is a joke. She had every right to be pissed off, so awkward and uncomfortable having to chase someone for money owed. You put her in a horrible position .

YABU.

£200 is a lot of money. She was generous enough to let you wait until payday. It was up to you to remember which I don’t know how you didn’t. I hate the feeling of knowing I owe money and I make sure to communicate reminders that I’ll get it to them and haven’t forgotten etc.

Yab(totally)U - suggest you transfer the money now and apologise profusely.

Arent people misunderstanding? OP didnt go to gig and wasnt reminded. Sounds like friend found someone else to go, so no harm done.

One of my biggest bug bears is when adults say “remind me”. I’m not a PA or Alexa to be set for reminders. No-one I know would forget to pay for concert tickets and £200 quid is a lot of money. Your friend probably took someone else who paid for the ticket and could remember the date.

That's a massive assumption on your part.

OP is an adult. She shouldn't need reminding that she owes her friend a large chunk of money.

How can you forget you owe some £200
in just a few weeks?

So she bought tickets for you out of her own money. Not only have you not made the effort to remember to pay her, you have also not made the effort to speak to her.

To be fair, if I was your friend I would have made a point of reminding you, or contacting you with the intention of jogging your memory in a roundabout way. But regardless of what I might have done, the onus was on you to pay her back.

I assume she has either sold the ticket to someone else or gone on her own and lost a lot of money.

Either way, it was badly handled on your part.

Not sure if I would be interested in continuing a friendship under these circumstances. I suggest you buy a nice card, do a handwritten apology and push it through her letterbox.

I thought it had to be a reverse until you said this.

You are SO unreasonable. Pay her back the money and give her a sincere apology. I hope she managed to sell your ticket (and no, you don't deserve that money).

Did she give you the ticket? If so, did you go?