To think friend should have reminded me?

[abrabhf]

Friend paid for hers and my ticket to see a recent gig, cost £200 each. These were bought months ago and I forgot about it, we also have barely spoken since purchase.

I never paid her back and now the gig has been and gone and she’s ignored my texts and calls.

I think you've both been weird in this situation. You should have put the gig in your diary and been in contact with your friend and I'm amazed that owing her the money for the ticket didn't cross your mind at all between December and now, but also I think she's been really odd to not get in contact with you and say hey where's my money and to make arrangements to go to the gig with you. I agree that I think she sold the ticket on and that there are other reasons for her not wanting to be friends with you outside of this.

Get to the point. Are you going to pay her back or not?

I'd message her and say that you were sorry that you had forgotten about it and ask if she found someone else to buy the ticket.

Sorry but I'm not buying the whole forgot about the gig 🙄
At £200 per ticket I'm guessing a pretty big artist-TS, Pink? You didn't put the date in your diary/on calendar on your phone? And there was no mention anywhere about the tour prior to the date your tickets were for?? Nah
Anyways, she's your friend -not your Mum, grow up and be more organised. You owe your friend an apology.

Its also weird that she didn't text you reminding you of the gig.

Maybe she decided to take someone else and has been avoiding you

This - Why didn't you write it down if you couldn't remember??

If I was due someone £200 it would be on my mind day and night until I paid it back.

She was probably, understandably, pissed off because you were supposed to pay her on payday, and didn't. I wouldn't be chasing you up either if I could sell the ticket on.

People asked if I had the ticket. Why do you have an issue with me stating that no I didn’t have the ticket?

I bought tickets once for me, DH and a friend. We ALL forgot about it, which was a big shame as we liked the band. I can’t remember the cost but friend did offer to pay. I refused as it was such an overall cockup, it didn’t seem worth it to bring in awkwardness.

You’re an adult. If you agree to go to something, you put it in your calendar. If a friend agrees to pay for now, you don’t forget to pay her back.

I would find it hard to believe you forgot and would be more likely to think you were avoiding me as you’d changed your mind and didn’t want to pay.

I hope you have sent your friend the money and a big apology!

Maybe you need to spell it out properly.

Why did your friend not send you the ticket? Was it because you had not paid? If so, then that is perfectly understandable.

Who was the artist?

Ps you’re as bad as each other.

Well yes I presume that’s the reason she didn’t send it. I also have no issue with her not sending it.

You’re going on about a random point that’s irrelevant. Odd.

Awful behaviour on your part. I’m assuming you have posted this thread from a smartphone or computer, in which case you have access to technology that allows you to set reminders for things, such as paying a friend the £200 you owe them.

Do you have her bank details to pay her back?

If it was girls aloud you missed out big time

you're rather a flakey friend aren't you?, you must have loads of money if you forget owing £200, that's completely cheeky fuckery behaviour

I would imagine she realised what a crap person you were when you didn't pay her back in December , I definitely wouldn't be reminding you, then come April she invited you to dinner and you blow her off

This must be a reverse.

You should have remembered but equally she could have reminded you.

Now both of you are in the wrong 🤷‍♀️

I suspect you declining dinner but not suggesting an alternative date in April was the last straw for her, and she decided not to bother with you anymore

The only thing you need to do right now @abrabhf is message your friend and say "so sorry I forget about the concert, did you find someone to buy my ticket? If not I'll transfer the money to you right now, don't want you out of pocket! Hope you had a good night"

Agree.

This thread is odd. If I was the friend I wouldn't see it as being OP's PA. I'd see it as needing the money so I'd message saying 'can you transfer the gig money please?'. Wouldn't anyone? Unless you're stinking rich?

The friend must have loads of money if she didn't feel the need to remind OP.