Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

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I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s).

She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning.

anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work.

when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house.

I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house.

she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since.

tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins?

why can’t people just do simple tasks?

Good for you. It's a bloody cheek asking you in the first place when she has an adult child living in the house. I'd have said the same.

She was probably moaning to her daughter that you hadn't taken out the bins.

I agree. Entitlement indeed.

CF. It’s the daughter she raised to be absolutely feckless’ fault

It's her fault for letting the daughter get away with it.

Well, yes - figured this was implied in ‘daughter she raised’

Be really grateful that after this, you never have to speak to her or do her daughter's bin duty ever again.

Winner.

Good grief - would it really have been such a hardship to have helped a neighbour out under these circumstances? Most bins where I live only get emptied fortnightly now, and if a collection is missed in the summer, there's a good chance the bin would be revolting and maggoty after a month. If you said you would check your neighbour's bin on collection day, then I can understand why she was pissed off. Unless you've got an extraordinarily long driveway it only takes a couple of minutes to put a bin out.

How on earth did she think it was your fault? So she assigned the job to you because she raised a lazy daughter, em nope.

She sounds fucking nuts.

On our street we all put out each others bins/take them in if necessary. (And take i parcels, water plants etc)

However there was an adult at home. Its not responsibility to cover a lazy adult!

She thought the lazy arse daughter had put the bin out because there was one outside her house.

Under what circumstances, the daughter is lazy. Not ill!.

Good for you some people need a harsh dose of reality

There was a bin in front of the house. She knew the neighbour's daughter was staying there. She assumed, given that there was a bin in front of the house, that neighbour's daughter had managed to haul ass and put the bin out.

Surely not unreasonable?

Hmm... 'these circumstances' being there is a capable adult in the property, but she can't be arsed to move the bin so neighbours need to step in?

I know who I'd be more pissed off with!

Anyway, OP checked as promised and a bin was present. Favour fulfilled.

But the OP didn't check - she saw a bin outside but didn't look to see if it was the neighbour's bin. Presumably if she had looked down the driveway or wherever the bins were kept, she would have seen that the neighbour's bin was still there. I think the fact that the neighbours daughter was at home is irrelevant - if the OP had told her neighbour that she wasn't willing to check that the bin had been put out, that would have been fine, but that wasn't the case. The OP agreed to check so presumably the neighbour was irritated that she hadn't done what she had agreed to do.

She had done exactly what she'd agreed to - a quick check as she was leaving the house. The woman should have called her dd the night before and reminded her and asked for video evidence. She shouldn't have asked the op in the first place.

Op said she would have a quick check while getting her kids the car. That's exactly what she did, saw the bin and thought it had been put out. Are you saying she should have left her kids while checking? My 16 year old puts the bins out every week without reminding, an adult daughter should have no problem remembering this.

Do you also have a pathetic, useless adult child at home you’re being defensive of? Really struggling to see how else anyone could seriously defend the neighbours behaviour.

And even if OP had agreed, regardless of the useless, pathetic child-adult, agreeing to a favour is a favour. You have no right to go mad if the person can’t do you the favour. You say, oh thanks for trying, and move on.

OP, she needs to apologise before you have anything else to do with her. She needs to sort out her own house and the people in it before coming after anyone else.

Didn't read the post then did you?

Why didn't the neighbour text her daughter to remind her???

YADNBU. The only people at fault is the lazy daughter and the mother for tolerating it.

Hopefully your (perfectly acceptable) response will mean she will actually expect her own daughter to be a bit more responsible next time and not rely on you.

With a bit of luck neither of these lazy entitled cf will ever speak to you again, never apologise or offer any help again. Maybe she should sign up for the assisted bin collection service if her daughters arns, legs nd brain don't work,

Ah @Growlybear83 I can't really be bothered to run the hoover around and cook dinner for the kids tonight. Could you pop over and do me a favour and take care of those? thanks.