Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

[happyhippo1]

I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s).

She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning.

anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work.

when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house.

I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house.

she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since.

tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins?

why can’t people just do simple tasks?

Do you have some sort of insider knowledge on why the neighbour's adult daughter is incapable of putting her own bin out?

Your neighbour is a massive wanker for admitting her own daughter is lazy and chastising the OP for not resolving the problem for her. What an absolute gobshite she is.

Neighbour needs to chuck her daughter out if she's too lazy to put out the bins, because imagine what else she's too lazy to do around the house?

My 15yr old DS with dyspraxia and autism has to bring the bins in after they've been emptied once a fortnight and our drive is uphill and 250 metres long. There's a field between the house and the main road. Laziness is not an option!!

Some of these replies are bonkers! If I see a bin at the of Steve at number 25s drive, I would assume it was his, not that Barry from number 23 put his bin in the wrong place. Love the suggestions to knock on the door to check at 7am, I would be so pissed off if you did that to me

I don't think you should have agreed to do it in the first place. Her daughter needs to grow up.

I'm sorry your neighbours are so lazy and entitled. I suppose these people have to live somewhere.

Starting to think that you may be the cheeky neighbour or lazy daughter...

Are people joking 🤣!! Even to the extent where there saying “why didn’t you put it out the night before?” Umm.. because some people prefer to put them out in the morning before work/school runs.. are people insane🤣!?

OP your well within your rights to say what you’ve said.. if her daughter was at home.. it’s her responsibility to make sure her bin is emptied.. she is being lazy.

obviously if you’ve seen a bin at the end of her drive your naturally going to think either she’s actually out her own bin out.. or I would think to myself “meh, clearly the mum must have put it out for her anyway🤷‍♀️”

I can’t believe you’ve actually got comments on here defending this🤣!! You were right and handled it well, sometimes people need a dose of the truth to realise how ridiculous they are being!!

one positive: you won’t hopefully be asked to be on bin duty for her again.. or this might have actually gave the daughter a reality check to put her own bin out🤣🤣

We all bin there.

Why should I have said “I’ll just put it out for her”?

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities.

I think your mistake OP was saying you’d put the bin out for your neighbour. In future, tell her to get her lazy arsed daughter to do it.

@happyhippo1 I wouldn’t have seen red but I would have put her straight as in ‘I saw a bin outside your house which I believed was yours, so thought it was done so you are being a bit unfair to have a go’.
Is there a number on it? If not, no way of knowing whose it is.

You are an appalling neighbour OP. You should bake a cake and take it around immediately to apologise for your shortcomings and offer to wash her car.
🙈 🤣🤣

This place is mental sometimes. I can’t believe some posters are actually saying OP did anything wrong here. They must all be in Wales (where literally everyone I’ve met is endlessly patient and neighbourly!).

Because as I said in my first post it’s a two second job and a nice thing to do for your neighbour.

No I’m just a good neighbour. As are my neighbours. We help each other out.

Absolutely this.

OP should also offer to adopt the daughter and redo her parenting so that she's not so lazy she can't be bothered to put the bins out.

Maybe OP should just assume responsibility for her neighbours life so she can avoid being criticised for treating two adults like adults.

The OP is in no way to blame for her neighbour’s parenting fails. An able bodied person in their 20s is bone idle and lazy, there is no other way to describe them and she should be embarrassed to admit that her daughter is like that and she raised her

OP I would have given her a piece of my mind too if she had started on me like that.

Waiting for the “but she might have anxiety about putting a bin out” comments as is the norm on MN…..

Are you having a laugh. OP should pay off her neighbour's mortgage for her, and buy her daughter a house too, for being such a shit neighbour, and not being arsed to put her neighbour's bins out!

😂

@happyhippo1 Shame on you. You're a terrible neighbour! 😆

This is satire right? Tell me this is a piss take?

AbraAbraCadabra….simple concepts don’t grab ya…but that’s ok. We can break it down just for you…

what’s also a nice thing to do is raise your children to not be bone idle and reliant on neighbours they hardly know to carry out chores for them….

So, you leave the house at 7am check your neighbours house (which you’d agreed to do) and there’s a bin sitting at the bottom of their drive (unmarked) - what else would you do @AbraAbraCadabra

As many people have said, I’m not enabling bone idle lazy jobless twenty somethings by saying “just leave your bins to me…they can just sit in the house and watch me do chores for them. GTF I think is the acronym I’m looking for here.

you’re funny though @AbraAbraCadabra ill give you that.

Mumsnet is mental! You could post “I heard bloodcurdling screams coming from my neighbours house last night, and this morning I saw my heavily bloodstained neighbour carrying a dismembered corpse to his car, should I call the police?” and you will, without fail, get someone who posts “it’s none of your business, keep your nose out of it”!

Then why on earth didnt you just say to your neighbour at that point of asking you to do it:

'No - i wont be able to do your bins'?

Tbh I really didn’t believe that a fit and capable 20 something would not put the bins out…but there you go. Lesson well and truly learned!

Your views on her daughter and what she is and isnt capable of isnt any of your worry or business.

Just say - No i cant commit to that. Then her home issue is hers to deal with.

Like you say - lessons learnt :)

Makes an ass out of u and... Ming? 🤔