Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

[happyhippo1]

I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s).

She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning.

anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work.

when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house.

I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house.

she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since.

tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins?

why can’t people just do simple tasks?

Really shocked at people replying to OP saying that she was wrong for 'seeing red' and even remotely implying that she should have taken neighbour's bins out. The neighbour is in the wrong as well as the lazy, useless daughter. OP has done nothing wrong and I would have reacted the same way if I was at home working and had my hands full. Neighbour is a cheeky f**k. All those saying that OP was wrong to blow up are clearly very much like this entitled neighbour. Shocking

Some don’t like to see people women standing up for themselves.

The truth usually does hit home! Good for you not your problem Dont feel bad. X

Oh wow! What a CF! How did she handle that? I’d be fuming and lobbing her parcels in her front garden! That takes lazy and entitled to a WHOLE new level! 😳

Your neighbour was very wrong to do that. We’ve had people forget to put bins out and haven’t said a thing as it’s easy to forget and ultimately our responsibility. For her to march over like that is mad. I imagine she is projecting her frustrations about her daughter on you - still very wrong.
It was an easy misunderstanding to think that bin was theirs (happened to me yesterday with my own bin, thinking some kind neighbour had out it out!). At least she won’t ask you again 😂

I'd have said no in the first place. "My adult, able bodied daughter is too lazy to do it so can I burden you and add to your workload?" I don't think so.

I strangely admire the cheek of the neighbour

Did you miss the bit where she said she saw a bin outside her neighbours house and assumed the daughter had put it out already!!

I know! You can hardly believe the absolute cheeky-fuckery of some people 🤣

I was thinking the same!

You’re a f**king useless parent too, if you still need to remind your twenty-two year old daughter to do rudimentary crap like put a bin out, feed a your apparently precious cats (if you love them so much why leave them with someone who cares so little that they need to be reminded to feed an animal that when hungry tends to meow loudly and follow humans until food is put out 🤷‍♀️) and bring washing in.

She’s a student with a job and a social life. Oh the demands 🥴 How the hell is she gonna cope when she’s got her own house to run, bills to pay, kids to raise. Will you be calling her to remind her to feed them 🙄

You’re a f*king useless parent too, if you still need to remind your twenty-two year old daughter to do rudimentary crap like put a bin out, feed a your apparently precious cats (if you love them so much why leave them with someone who cares so little that they need to be reminded to feed an animal that when hungry tends to meow loudly and follow humans until food is put out 🤷‍♀️) and bring washing in.

She’s a student with a job and a social life. Oh the demands 🥴 How the hell is she gonna cope when she’s got her own house to run, bills to pay, kids to raise. Will you be calling her to remind her to feed them 🙄*

Well said. It's absolutely insane to even think that a grown adult, who hasn't even gone away to university so isn't even having to look after themselves, needs to be reminded to feed a cat or do basic household tasks because they have some other completely ordinary things to do.

Calling someone ‘ a fucking useless parent’ is a bit harsh!

Perhaps but someone has brought up this generation of adults who can't feed a cat without their parents telling them to.

Agree. The mental jumps are something else.

I’m glad you sent her off with a flea in her ear op. Makes a nice change from all these pick-me people pleasers. Go girl!

Oh please! Do tell us what kind of issue the daughter could have that means she can’t put a bin out, but can live on her own for a week? She’s just lazy, and that’s her mums fault. The bin not being put out is a direct consequence of her shit parenting.

Damn. Mumsnet is a total trip. 😂

You should have put the bins out. And you should have checked to see if neighbour’s daughter needed her bottom wiped while you were there.

Shame on you.

Agreed.
I'd root my children out of it if they were old enough to stay alone but couldn't be trusted to put a bin out or feed a cat.

My friend whose child was a lazy arse was sent to stay with her grandmother for a year every single time her parents went away. She protested but her mother was having none of it.
When after a year she gave her a chance she came back to a spotless house with all jobs done.
We leave ours at home regularly and they get a 12 hour ETA and they know better than to piss me off with coming home to their mess.

Well, I agree with you there 😀

She looked. There was a bin outside the property.
Should she have had a good look round everybody's houses and made sure everyone had their bins out?

Really? Of course there are many conditions such as arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problem...
You don't know anyone more than I do.
And what a vile judgement comment. You must be a perfect parent to make such a comment.

"She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out "

No mention of arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problems. Just laziness.

Also I don't know what kind of conditions such as arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problems allows a person to socialise on a Friday night but be unable to wheel a bin to the gate.

Oh right. Yes because people who have disabilities always just sit in corners or wheelchairs right? They never go out or do anything else but be disabled right?
You've quoted what the OP says, you realise that there's another side to this don't you?

Oh give over. The girls mum said she was lazy.

Please stop making this info something it isn’t.

And just to add even if the girl did have a disability (which she doesn’t!) then it is still NOT APPROPRIATE for the neighbour to come round having a go at OP about a bin.