Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

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I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s).

She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning.

anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work.

when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house.

I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house.

she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since.

tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins?

why can’t people just do simple tasks?

What are you talking about? 🤣
Are you the neighbour?!
Would you like to give us the "other side" so we can better understand why your "lazy" daughter didn't put your bin out and why you think that's OP problem?

Eh? Well no. I'm just saying that there's another side. Of course I can't give it that's the exact point I'm making. Don't be silly

If you're so sure there's another side then you must have some theory.

I'd be interested to hear it.

Whether or not the adult daughter has a (hidden?) disability, if she is capable of staying home alone for a week, and capable of getting dressed up to go out at the weekend, and capable of getting into a taxi unaided, what do you think might be another side of this that makes it impossible/difficult for her to wheel a bin to her front gate?

I've said that not all disabilities or additional needs are visible, & not active all of the time,

But I'm wondering what type of hidden/inactive disability is there that allows an adult to be left in a house alone to fend for themselves while their mother/carer goes away on holidays, but means they physically are not able to wheel a bin to the gate?

And why rather than tell the OP of the struggles and possibly arrange a carer to come and help the disabled adult daughter would the mother simply say the daughter was lazy and not reliable to put the bin out?

And I've said that there's loads of people with issues such as phobias & physical issues that might prevent handling rubbish or lifting etc.

Personally if I'd have agreed to do something like put bins out for a neighbour I would have done regardless

You need to accept that there will be another side of the story, you only have one side there will be at least one other version.

There was a bin outside!! Are you honestly saying you expect OP to go looking through it to ensure it's the right bin???

Personally if I'd have agreed to do something like put bins out for a neighbour I would have done regardless

And if on your way to put out the bin you saw a bin already in position at the gate? What would you do then?

I can’t believe this has gone to 9 pages!

Lets just sum it up here….

Neighbour asked OP to put her bins out as a favour while she was away. Her daughter was staying there but neighbour admitted she was lazy… OP agreed to do so. OP saw a bin outside neighbours house and assumed the daughter had put the bin out. Neighbour comes home and it transpires it wasn’t her bin (despite being outside her house) and is annoyed with OP…

It’s a missed bin collection! A bit annoying but not the end of the world! And she should be having very serious words with her lazy daughter not moaning at OP… and I would be telling her so if I was OP. I would also point out that I agreed to do a favour despite lazy bones being quite capable but next time she can sort her own bins out.

If I want to have a laugh I read through threads like this.

This thread has gone from the ridiculous behaviour of a neighbour with a lazy cow of an adult daughter to suggestions of dirt phobias, disabilities both visible and invisible, arthritis, mental illness, sight problems and a vague reference to ‘disorders’ 😀

As one poster put it: ‘Who are the lunatic 3% who think she is being unreasonable?’

Maybe a handful of posters like to wind things up then sit back to see the results.
Unfortunately, some are just NUTS!

But the mother didn't say her daughter had some sort of "issue", she said she was lazy!

I can't believe this thread is still going, it's completely batshit 🦇💩 with people tying themselves up like a pretzel 🥨 trying to make out the OP is in the wrong.

I know! 🤣. See my previous post. Bonkers.

Stop commenting then & it won't be active will it

Oh of course now that you've said that I'll stop commenting 🙄

🤣

The earful she would have gotten from me, Lawd!