DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

[Endoftheroad12345]

Hi all

After my last post here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5097890-to-tell-a-mum-of-a-guest-that-she-cant-stay-at-dd6s-birthday-party?page=1

I thought some of you might be interested in an update.

The clown/fairy I had booked ghosted me when I tried to confirm!!!! so for a moment there I was panicking about having no entertainer and felt that the mumsnet curse of hoping that DD had a shitty party would come true!!!!! luckily though, I have found and booked a back up fairy. So that mitigates the clown phobia risk

9 guests have RSVPed if a total of 12 invites (I had guessed 15), 3 TBC. Of the 12, I know 6 mothers (most of them just to say hi to at school). 3 who have RSVPed I couldn’t pick out of a line up. So far no other parents have asked to stay. Or indeed asked for any other details (or an “plan”)about the party.

Forecast is for pissing rain on Sunday.

The last few pages of the thread took a weird turn while I was asleep and started talking about swimming parties and lifeguards. We do actually have a pool … (I know I sound like I’m trolling at this point.) There will not be a lifeguard on duty, but as it’s about 12 degrees here so I don’t think anyone will be getting in the unheated pool.

(Am WFH today because DS has a high fever and power-chucked in the hallway last night while I was making cupcakes at 10pm for the sodding school fundraiser. As DS coughed in my face while he spreadeagled across my bed, I did think wistfully of one poster on the last thread who thought I was probably a cashed up career woman who barely saw her kids.)

I need to move to New Zealand, laid back but as chippy as fuck describes me to a tee and I've been told I'm too direct.

I might fit right in for the first time in my life

Just went down the rabbit hole of this post and the last one. So glad that you all survived the party (in spite of the lack of health and safety measures…). Sorry to hear that your parents and ex were so rubbish - it makes my blood boil tbh. Excellent job at brushing off their nonsense and getting on with all the stuff. Your kids are so lucky to have a mum who bends backwards to give them amazing parties/space in her bed when they’re sick etc AND is an awesome role model career woman.

FWIW - I also had no idea that in the UK parents would expect to stay at parties - also in Switzerland it’s always drop n run (often with cake and beer/Prosecco at pickup). You do your time once per year and then enjoy your quiet afternoon when the others have their parties. That’s THE DEAL!!!!

I am in Rome - it’s 40c and I am frazzled, nothing at all to do with aperol spritz. I can’t find any update from op fo discover if SHE has survived the party. Less worried about the kids tbf.
Maybe it’s the time difference and she is MID FLOW! I have a distinctly BAD feeling about anything called a clown fairy. I have a unsavoury vision of Gary glitter in a mermaid outfit - can someone enlighten me!

Definitely the aperol spritz 😂 she posted an update on p 12. Party went well. Parents and ex turned up as the party was ending 🙄 fairy helpful. Jemima’s mum didn’t stay.

Enjoy Rome!

🖕

God @Meetingofminds I wish I was in Rome!!!! Thick fog here this morning and utterly miserable.

@OchonAgusOchonOh I wish I’d had a wine but as luck would have it I woke up the morning of the party with a hardcore head cold so have been hitting the cold & flu meds to survive.

@beanii You poor thing. I find my parents attitude to my cuntish exH bizarre. If someone had hit my daughter I’d want to run them down with my car... I certainly wouldn’t be greeting them with hugs and kisses and “Hello [exH’s name] darling!!!” WTF. I texted my mother afterwards to say if they are going to keep up this policy of treating him like a Prodigal Son they will be banned from events at my house. It’s bad enough that I have to see him but I don’t need to see their disloyalty and lack of boundaries play out in front of my face.

I definitely think Jemima’s mum was angling to stay - she came in with a toddler and was lurking as if being asked to stay but luckily she was so bloody early it was quite easy to give her shirt shrift.

Ah, it's making sense now asking about the "plan" and if she could stay. She was wanting to find out if suitable for the toddler too!

That is a special kind of hell hosting a kids party when you are ill! I hope you are feeling better op perhaps Jemima’s mother thought twice when she saw you burning up with covid symptoms 😂

So she is one of those, looking for a day out for all of her kids, nothing to do with settling in Jemima but free entertainment and snacks for the day.
i hate mothers like this! CFs!

Your mother’s affection is misguided and rude and yes being run over is way too good for him. Sorry you had to go through that, and you haven’t had the support and care you deserve.

@Endoftheroad12345 I've loved these 2 threads and glad you survived the party. I experienced the same with my family gushing over my abusive ex. It is incredibly hurtful when they KNOW what the bastard did (and continues to do ie horrifically controlling where the children are concerned). I eventually stopped speaking to them and they got the message and sort of drifted away from him. So sorry.