DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

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Hi all

After my last post here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5097890-to-tell-a-mum-of-a-guest-that-she-cant-stay-at-dd6s-birthday-party?page=1

I thought some of you might be interested in an update.

The clown/fairy I had booked ghosted me when I tried to confirm!!!! so for a moment there I was panicking about having no entertainer and felt that the mumsnet curse of hoping that DD had a shitty party would come true!!!!! luckily though, I have found and booked a back up fairy. So that mitigates the clown phobia risk

9 guests have RSVPed if a total of 12 invites (I had guessed 15), 3 TBC. Of the 12, I know 6 mothers (most of them just to say hi to at school). 3 who have RSVPed I couldn’t pick out of a line up. So far no other parents have asked to stay. Or indeed asked for any other details (or an “plan”)about the party.

Forecast is for pissing rain on Sunday.

The last few pages of the thread took a weird turn while I was asleep and started talking about swimming parties and lifeguards. We do actually have a pool … (I know I sound like I’m trolling at this point.) There will not be a lifeguard on duty, but as it’s about 12 degrees here so I don’t think anyone will be getting in the unheated pool.

(Am WFH today because DS has a high fever and power-chucked in the hallway last night while I was making cupcakes at 10pm for the sodding school fundraiser. As DS coughed in my face while he spreadeagled across my bed, I did think wistfully of one poster on the last thread who thought I was probably a cashed up career woman who barely saw her kids.)

I'm thinking a Roman theme so chariots, gladiator outfits including real swords, lions, horses etc. The pool could be emptied out to form the colosseum. We just need to figure out which room will be the vomitarium for the party.

The project may slip slightly while we are training the lions.

At my 6th birthday party we went out to feed the lambs in our garden. At my 7th birthday party, I asked who wanted to see the lambs...then took my soon to be horrified friends to the chest freezer..."here they are, we're having lamb burgers on the BBQ..."

Oh my god that’s brutal (and hilarious) 😂

I know!! Just seemed natural to me I guess, we were self sufficient so I knew all the animals were there for food!!

I love this idea, it also negates the need for a lifeguard so that’s saving OP money too. Can there be some form of fire? Not to close to the vomitatrium though because we all know what that would smell like! Maybe the children could Spartan kick each other of the garage roof? Might need a builder though if OP doesn’t already have a garage

Definitely a fire. If we have it at the solstice we would be required to have one anyway.

I'm assuming the medic handing out the tetanus shots can do a bit of first aid after the spartan kicks so that will be fine.

I wish you hadn't mentioned your pool! You reminded me that I once hosted a full class swimming party for my DD. Hired a local pool (no lifeguard). Realised a bit late in the day that just having myself and DH minding 30 kids was possibly not enough so roped in a couple of friends to help. All fine except for the child who forgot/didn't know he couldn't swim (?) and jumped straight into the pool, at the deep end. DH spotted that he probably wasn't playing the third time he popped up and sank again.

Just as well, cheques can be forged. Safety first and that.

'Way meaner' ?
That's quite comical actually 😁

I've not been at all mean, I've stated facts. The OP has been rude, can't give a straight answer, over the top and, like many others on here, is nothing more than a piss taker. I'm all up for a laugh and joke, but not when there's pure nastiness involved, as there is on this thread in particular .
So many posters seem oblivious to the fact that I'm not saying that every parent should stay to help out (just one would be fine), and act as if I'm stupid to point out that it's not really ok to look after 15 kids alone. ( I'm saying 15 as that's what the original plan was ).

I'd bet that the piss takers on here would agree with me if they weren't sat behind a key board anonymously. It amazes me just how vile people can be when no one knows who they are. To spew such crap just shows the mentality of some people.

I really feel you are giving way too much time and energy to this Daisy. Let it go and enjoy your day.

I will enjoy my day thanks, as for giving it too much time, I think it's fair to say it's up to me when I post, and not down to anyone else, thanks all the same 🙂

I don’t understand why you are making this about you. Persisting with it too. Op can do as she likes, it’s not your responsibility to worry about children you don’t even know!
Maybe you have had bad experiences of some kind and it colouring your view.

Mmhmm

Personal hughlights for me have got to be 'Calm down, it's not the royal wedding' and 'For gods sake will you FOCUS'

Lawyers gonna Lawyer.

I love you OP ❤

😂😂😂 I said “for god’s sake will you focus” while using the word alibi instead of alias… who’s the clown now 🤣 @OrchardBlack

DD has another ear infection, the second in 3 weeks. Honestly NZ sucks in winter, don’t ever come. (In summer of course we are insufferable about how it’s the Greatest Country Ever). I’m lying on the couch with 2 cats draped on me like hot water bottles

It’s absolutely up to you. I just think you could
potentially enjoy your day more if you hid this thread, someone’s 6th birthday party on the other side of the globe seems to have got right under your skin.

I saw your first post when it was in its infancy and didn't really care too much about a 6 year old's birthday party on the other side of the world. But this is amazing! You're amazing! My hero 😂

Oooo! Harsh. (Nice of you not to mention Russell Crowe though.) I suggest a water fight but it's a bit chilly at the moment so can we put it off until December? And "Yeah, nah " is Australian. You can't tell me any different!!!! ( to quote the random youtube dude). I do like the cut of your Kiwi lawyers jib though if OP is any example. 😘

Oh . I loved the "focus" comment too. It's Jemima not Jessica . Focus". Sorrrry for those who didn't see it focus was in the posters user name. Maybe you had to be there.
Still preferred the pegging comment which seemed to sail over a lot of heads ( and how lucky is it that NZ has the internet now). 😆

I noticed the alibi/alias mistake but was being polite as the rest of it was too good.

Cheers OP. Have a bottle of wine after Sunday.

After consuming both threads:
OP is hilarious, love reading your replies.

Poor Jemima's mum, her messages didn't seem rude or mean and I still don't understand why they annoyed you so much, completely innocuous! I'm bemused about how hers were so rude or annoying but yours back are totally fine - both were fine! And you got the outcome you wanted! So strange.
You seem like the kind of person who, if you wanted to know something, would just ask. That's all JM did, and yet it really annoyed you. Her not replying immediately really annoyed you. When she did reply, there was no annoyance at being told no, no pressure on you to relent, I don't know what else she could have done other than not have the temerity to bother you at all! This is such a weird mountain out of a molehill but I'm totally here for it 😂

Love that therapy has granted you such great boundary setting and resilience, maybe it could have given you a little bit more self awareness 😂
For someone so unbothered, you seem a little bit bothered.

Definitely some cultural differences - the last class party we had for 6 year olds at home, all parents stayed apart from one, and she is considered a bit odd! I like her a lot but she's definitely a bit different. I'm happy to leave DS but some children still find it difficult so would want them to be happy, I don't think it means they have additional needs that needed to be disclosed. A few more parents here would have been keen to know the plan/details.

OP I'm so in for the party update and hope it goes brilliantly!

I think if you were in chch or maybe wellington it might be different.
I always found most parents stayed. Parents I know of young children now, how relaxed they are depends on where they were and how old they were when the quakes happened. Some people hardly leave thier teens anywhere.

Holy shit it has been the week from hell. DS was sick Monday and Tuesday, and then DD developed an ear infection on Wednesday night - ibuprofen wouldn’t touch the sides and she was pretty much awake all night in my bed until she fell asleep just before 6am when my alarm went off 😵‍💫 I’m absolutely rinsed.

My parents helped out this week including my dear dad who has terminal cancer coming over today while I was at work and mowing my lawns for me 🥹 So I must retract the bit from the OG OP about my mum being as useful as a chocolate teapot.

The unicorn cake is ordered, the fairy is paid for, now tomorrow I have to go to the plastic tat shop and buy shit for party bags and decorate the house. I’ve had 2 further rsvps, both from mum’s i’ve only met once each (when I dumped DD at their respective houses for their children’s birthday parties).

Hope the party is a blast and your poor DD recovers in time to enjoy the festivities 🥳