DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

[Endoftheroad12345]

Hi all

After my last post here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5097890-to-tell-a-mum-of-a-guest-that-she-cant-stay-at-dd6s-birthday-party?page=1

I thought some of you might be interested in an update.

The clown/fairy I had booked ghosted me when I tried to confirm!!!! so for a moment there I was panicking about having no entertainer and felt that the mumsnet curse of hoping that DD had a shitty party would come true!!!!! luckily though, I have found and booked a back up fairy. So that mitigates the clown phobia risk

9 guests have RSVPed if a total of 12 invites (I had guessed 15), 3 TBC. Of the 12, I know 6 mothers (most of them just to say hi to at school). 3 who have RSVPed I couldn’t pick out of a line up. So far no other parents have asked to stay. Or indeed asked for any other details (or an “plan”)about the party.

Forecast is for pissing rain on Sunday.

The last few pages of the thread took a weird turn while I was asleep and started talking about swimming parties and lifeguards. We do actually have a pool … (I know I sound like I’m trolling at this point.) There will not be a lifeguard on duty, but as it’s about 12 degrees here so I don’t think anyone will be getting in the unheated pool.

(Am WFH today because DS has a high fever and power-chucked in the hallway last night while I was making cupcakes at 10pm for the sodding school fundraiser. As DS coughed in my face while he spreadeagled across my bed, I did think wistfully of one poster on the last thread who thought I was probably a cashed up career woman who barely saw her kids.)

'Honestly a gaggle of cute 5&6 year old girls in my home is a joy'

OP I love your attitude.. and am in awe!

I am actually the nanny for a couple of High Powered Parents (not Lawyers tho!) who like you work hard but prioritize their 4 children.

I'm also a mum of 3 and thoroughly enjoyed every one of my children's parties.. and like you usually completely organized and supervised by me alone.

And I've loved how you've answered some of the (bizarre) posts..

I will be following for more laughs and truly hope your DDs party goes with a swing.

I didn’t read the entire of the last thread - but I think your attitude also didn’t help, although I assume you were trolling somewhat. You said something about not caring if she had any extra needs and that they weren’t your problem, which isn’t reassuring for other parents, whether their kids need some extra support or not.

I was talking to my DH about this yesterday and we both thought the same.

Did it occur to you OP that maybe this woman just wanted a chance to get to know you and make friends?

While I think your reaction to Jemima’s mum was a bit strong (which was my only comment – everything else was bizarre), I’m glad someone is standing up to the collective Mumsnet arseholes. It’s happening more and more lately and I hope this forum starts to change.

I don’t have vacancies for friendship, I barely see my friends as it is!

From when the kids were going to drop off parties about 5, we barely slowed the car down.

I remember your earlier posts @Endoftheroad12345
I am so pleased to read you and your children are doing well.
I hope that prick of Ex of yours dies screaming.
After what you have dealt with, a fairy party is a ride in the park.
Best of luck with it.

I don’t think I was trolling so much as having the temerity to respond to someone of the more psycho responses with a bit of levity. I’m not going to dance around wondering if Jemima is ND or allergic to horses… if I was asked if I could accommodate additional needs, I would try to, but I wasn’t. I didn’t need an extra set of hands or a new friend.

It’s a benign request until you have 20 parents squeezed into your house in mid winter watching cornflakes the clown and I’m making cups of tea for everyone. Just no

Thank you Buttons that is really kind 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

I texted my mum something v v v similar about my exH this evening after
I had to drive over there to collect DD on one of his rare school pick ups - God forbid he drop her to me meaning I have to drag vomiting DS out in peak traffic in his PJs. I get there and DD is sitting alone in front of the tv bc he is locked in his office working. Today is her birthday 🥺 Fucking prick

The other thread was bonkers. MN at its neurotic best.

I'm in the UK and we started dropping our kids off at 6. Who the hell wants to spend their precious weekends attending children's parties?

Hope the party goes well OP!

A second thread?! 😆

Op the previous thread was BONKERS. I hope it gave you a laugh at least 😂 enjoy the party!

🤣🤣🤣

This is like a seinfeld thread … a thread about nothing

minor correction, we’re all ‘yeah’ until we’re ’yeah NAH’

I definitely want a party update op! 🎉

@Endoftheroad12345 I’m just here to find out what fairy bread is tho 😂

And those mums judging you for your choice of tea, mugs, your home decor, what food you are serving the precious moppets, how clean your house is, etc etc. and absolutely no chance of you enjoying your child’s face during her party. Or taking any bloody photos.

Am with you on this.

😂

I was on the last thread, and it was obvious that the OP couldn't answer simple questions. I asked her if she'd mentioned in her invites that it'd only be her alone supervising 15 young children, and instead of answering, she just mocked what id written and went off on a bizarre 'you're not my boss, you're not a health and safety inspector' tangent.

The reason I asked is because I think it's irresponsible to expect to be able to look after all those kids for 3 hours completely alone.
I mean, what would she do if there's an emergency? .... How can she possibly, safely, ensure that the kids will be ok? She can't. After all, no one can forsee what could potentially happen .

I'm not against drop off parties at all, BUT, I think some posters who agree with the OP about the fact it's fine for kids to be dropped off, those posters likely don't realise that there'll be NO other adults at all in the house lending a helping hand, just in case.

All that is needed really is one other person to help out the OP with the kids, and no one who has disagreed with the OP has said that every single parent should stay.

The OP has said that she could call for help if necessary, but that's ridiculous. There needs to be someone else present to deal with any potential issues immediately.

One notably started force feeding the party children bloody carrots 🥕 my Dd was mortified! She is a GP and proceeded to lecture them about their nutrition. It killled the vibe somewhat and I had to give her the job of sorting out the bins and recycling to stop her harrassment!

Op is definitely on to something. I have had drunk mothers, ones crying about divorce, screaming newborns, siblings en masse arriving, dogs and grandparents turning up for the whole party! I think it’s a wise move to stick to the kids.

which is why I said that on reflection it would probably be a good idea for my mum to come. Along with the clown. Hard to know who the clown is in this case tho

😂😂

Blimey. I once hosted an ‘all the girls in the class’ sleepover. Another Terrible idea but no one died and no parent was concerned that I was aware of. They were 8.

Some of the replies on the other thread were batshit crazy. Many years ago on here I started a thread under an old username asking the etiquette on parents assuming they could bring siblings to a party. I learned the hard way the first party I held, some parents and siblings just appeared, expected party bags and food for siblings and the parents were helping themselves to the party food! The parties after that I said were drop and run, I was accused of all sorts on that thread 😂. Some people said they took the full family to children’s parties, utter madness!

I read the entirety of your last post and OP, your responses? I WAS LIVING FOR THEM! You should quit your job as a lawyer and write comedic stories for a living.

Fucking awesome.