Colleague has sent me a dick pic

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Well not a completely full-frontal one, he is clothed on it but it's a picture of his 'hard-on'. (Sorry this is TMI)

I vaguely knew of him before and we went on a team-building weekend activity as a group. Got on well, stayed in touch a bit over the last week via text, just talking about work and holidays mainly.
There's been no flirting or innuendos of any sort, then I opened my phone to this.
The man is 41 FFS.
He's put a caption in the picture talking about his 'tan' but I'm not stupid, I know what a lot of men are like.

If this were out of work I'd block straightaway, but I feel so awkward with working together. We aren't in the same team but have mutual friends. I just don't know what to do.

I was slightly interested before and would've been open to a date or something similar but this has shown me what he thinks of me.

I hate it when they think women really want to see that 🙄 we were literally having a discussion about a holiday he'd been on. It's vile.

It's disrespectful, I would report

I'd report it to HR.

You shouldn't be put in a position where a colleague makes you feel so uncomfortable.

You need to screenshot, block and inform HR straight away.

Almost seems covert IMO, hiding behind the caption and testing your boundaries. You don’t need to say anything just give the photo a thumbs down and don’t msg again….put the awkwardness back on him and let him worry if you’ll tell colleagues!

Youve done nothing wrong here OP.

Screenshot it to start with so you have evidence for HR if needed.

What would you like to happen next? Do you want to report him to work, or just have him stop it?

I don't want to jeapordise his career or anything, I just don't want to talk to him again. But maybe he's doing it to others who knows?

I would block him. Let him feel uncomfortable.

He’s jeopardising his own career. HR really should be told.

I would probably screenshot it then block him. Just avoid him at work as much as possible.

You are well within your rights to report it, just going in the fact that you said you don’t want to.

Send the laughing emoji then block and report

Hr right away.

God that's disgusting, he knows exactly what he's doing aswell he's gonna say I sent her a pic of my tan, I talked about my tan she's the one looking at my pants that's not my fault. Litterally a sleeze bag this won't be the first time he's pulled a Stunt like this. I would block him and blank him at work aswell.

Sending a dick pic to a colleague is aberrant behaviour. Report him for the sake of future female colleagues, so that he doesn’t jeopardise their lives.

Why not just reply with something like 'not quite appropriate for work colleagues' and some sort of bleurgh emoji?

I’d block immediately, but sometimes a quick “is it supposed to look like that” is fun

Just block him OP. He’s a dick. Literally.

I would jepodise his career, he is a disrespectful man, he needs to know his behavior is wrong and will not be tolerated.
Report him so he knows not to do this to other women.

Surely you just sent a laughing emoji and block him? That laugh with damage him forever.. More than reporting him at work would do.

Definitely, my ex would have been off the scale if he found I'd received a dick pic and would not have believed for one second that it was unsolicited.

You need to report it to HR. Fuck his career. He's clearly got away with this for ages to have that level of confidence about doing it.

If he doesn't want to jeopardise his career then perhaps he shouldn't send penis pics to his colleagues. He should know it's not appropriate, and if he doesn't at the age of 41 then HR should help him understand.

If it were me, I'd text him back something like "Unsolicited dick pics constitute sexual harrassment."

And then block him.

And keep the pic.

Keep him worrying for months and potentially years as to whether you'll tell HR or not.

Or just report him to HR.

But personally I'd do the former - him being on tenterhooks for ages wondering what action I might take would be so delicious.

Who else has he done it to ?

Even before I opened your thread, my answer was 'I'd forward it to HR'.

You are not jeapordising his career - he is doing that all by himself. And yes, consider the possibility that you are not his only victim. Do not protect him - involve HR.

If you don't want to report, I agree something neutral like 'i find this inappropriate from a work colleague' and then block.