Colleague has sent me a dick pic

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Well not a completely full-frontal one, he is clothed on it but it's a picture of his 'hard-on'. (Sorry this is TMI)

I vaguely knew of him before and we went on a team-building weekend activity as a group. Got on well, stayed in touch a bit over the last week via text, just talking about work and holidays mainly.
There's been no flirting or innuendos of any sort, then I opened my phone to this.
The man is 41 FFS.
He's put a caption in the picture talking about his 'tan' but I'm not stupid, I know what a lot of men are like.

If this were out of work I'd block straightaway, but I feel so awkward with working together. We aren't in the same team but have mutual friends. I just don't know what to do.

I was slightly interested before and would've been open to a date or something similar but this has shown me what he thinks of me.

I would do nothing at the moment. I wouldn't block or respond. Then I would go to HR first thing on Monday morning and report this picture and any other picture/message he sends over the weekend. Sadly in my experience we woman tend to worry about their careers/family etc and eventually the behaviour escalates.

Sorry when I say worrying about their I mean the photo sender.

HR Report. No excuses.

I would ignore it and block him. He will feel very stupid

You have to report him. Someone once sent me an actual dick pic and I reported it to the police. They took it seriously and asked if he knew where I lived, so it is obviously seen as something that can escalate.

Your situation sounds a bit different to mine but nevertheless I would report it to HR.

Don't ignore it, he'll do it to someone else

Personally I'd reply with a very terse 'how inappropriate' block him and speak to HR.

No don't send emojis. If anything text him that you find it inappropriate and don't engage further. I agree with others that you should report him.

It's sexual harassment.

What would be your response if he'd drawn your attention to him having an erection under his trousers while you two were chatting in person in the office kitchen or rec. room?

Because that's what he's done, but just via a phone.

I hope you take strength from all the responses on this thread advising you to report him.

block, make a formal complaint to HR

Block and inform HR. Why don't you want to jeopardise his career? He's playing fast and loose with yours by putting t you in this difficult and vulnerable position. Fucking idiot. Deserves what's coming.

You totally have to report him to HR.

If not nipped in tne bud there's no telling what he'll do.

As for ruining his career, he's done that for himself.

Think of ot this way; if you don't complain he'll take it as a green flag to turn up on person to either you or someone else. Do you want that on your conscience?

What the hell is wrong with men like that? 🙄

If you don’t want to report him, reply with ‘grow up and never do this again unless you want it reported to HR’.😡

Its disgusting but if you report him to HR it could cause a wedge at work, animosity, make it difficult for you with your mutual colleagues. He probably wouldnt get dismissed anyway. Id be tempted to tell him in no uncertain terms it was unsolicited and you dont want any more.

I think that you should post it here so that we can judge for ourselves and perhaps help compose a nice put down.

Report him to HR.

" oh thank god , I thought you'd sent a dick pick but on close inspection I can see it's too small , phew " then block

I can’t believe you are even considering not reporting this. It is appalling behaviour on his part, and sexual harassment.You’re not a police officer by any chance, are you? I’m sorry this has happened to you OP, I hope you’re ok.

Yes, you need to let him know that you are unhappy about what he did. Also that if it was reported (to manager/HR etc), there would be serious implications for him. I would feel upset by this and can understand why you are too

@NeverDropYourMooncup Who would your ex have been "off the scale" at? I'm hoping not you? And why wouldn't he have believed it was unsolicited?

Who cares if it would “cause a wedge”? Honestly, this is how these scumbags get away with this shit, because people don’t want to rock the boat. You realise this sort of behaviour usually escalates into worse behaviour while these men push boundaries to see what they can get away with. He might well get dismissed- it’s gross misconduct.

It's awkward because he sometimes attends the payday drinks that my team go on, I just feel I'd have to stop going.

Report this to your manager or appropriate colleague. Was it sent to your work address? Also was it sent in work hours. Absolutely disgusting.

That laugh with damage him forever.. More than reporting him at work would do.

Seriously! The likelihood is that this dipshit will take a laugh as a positive acknowledgment.

Please, please, please report this arsewipe.

Thanks goodness you're not going to send a laughing emoji. I wanted to scream "NO!!!" when people were advising you to, and you were considering it. He'd think you genuinely found it funny, and it would undermine any official complaint that you might make now or later

I'd just block him.