To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

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No one seems to admit it on here (although in RL people do.) I insisted that I had no preference but I did have a girl preference in both pregnancies and especially in my second since that was my last.

YABU - only wanted a healthy baby
YANBU - I had a preference.

🤣 I’m NC with my mum as is her other daughter (my sister) and live down the road from my MIL who we see all the time

Perhaps because as a child I always found boys easier to get along with. I was a shy anxious child & somehow boys with the right amount of cheek brought out the joy in me. Just as my DS does.

I also find men funnier and easier to get along with but I find it v sad you couldn’t love a girl

If I knew someone who had IVF and was then disappointed with the baby because of their sex, I'd think they were one of those people who's just never happy with what they have. If they'd had a baby of the "right" (ugh) sex, they would have found something about them to complain about as well.

Again, why would they? I wanted girls because I didnt want to raise boys, as a parent. Presumably I won't be raising my grandchildren, so it's a total non issue.

I know someone who is exactly the same. Finds fault in everything the child does, its very sad 😔

Why didn’t you want to raise boys? Surely if it’s some awful thing about them you don’t want that for your DDs?

I find stuff like this to be a symptom of other things. After commenting yesterday I was thinking about everyone I know who expressed a preference for a girl and the common denominator was they didn’t like or get along with their husband! Which is sad. A happy family matters more than the male/female make up of it. The happiest family I know have 2 sons who are just lovely, tweens now but very patient with my young DD and kind to her when we visit. The dad is wonderful though and DP’s best friend.

I genuinely had no preference. I was only 17 when I got pregnant so the sex of the baby was the least of my concerns. Have a boy and he's my only child. Now if I'm honest I am glad I had a boy as unfortunately the world is an easier place for men.

When I was pregnant in 1991 I wanted a girl, as I'm the only daughter of an only daughter and went to all-girls schools, so I didn't know anything about the requirements of samll boys or what you're supposed to buy for them/play with them/encourage them to be doing. I would have accepted a boy if that's what I was going to have, but the main thing was that I wanted a healthy child as I wasn't sure I could cope with a disabled child.
Fortunately my daughter was born perfectly healthy and will be 33 later on this year 😍😊.

I wasn’t bothered for the first one, boy, second I thought a girl would be nice but not fussed boy, 3rd and last pregnancy I was keen on a girl to balance out the family. Twin girls. Maybe the moral is be careful what you wish for!

Didn’t know what I was having for my first two because they wouldn’t tell us. Consultant was very old and old fashioned - it wasn’t all that long ago, early 90’s.
First - I couldn’t care less. Thought I was having a boy and had a girl.
Second - I wanted my little girl to have a sister. We had a girl.
Third - wanted another girl because after 2 girls I couldn’t imagine being a mum to a boy. We were told the sex this time round. It was a girl. We didn’t reveal the sex but everyone assumed we wanted a boy.

I never said that.

I really wanted a girl to dress up 😧, shallow I know. Then we had DTs, one of each, and I realised little boys can be so loving. Still very close to both and DS has recently become a father to his own little boy.

I had a MMC and couldn't get pregnant again for 2.5 years. Found out DH had low numbers and little motility. Got pregnant with our first through ICSI and then a few years later, we were so happy to have a natural surprise.. after being told it wouldn't happen naturally and we'd need ICSI again.

I genuinely did not care whether I had boys or girls. I was told I may never have children. My two boys are soundly sleeping in their room right now and I'm just happy I have two healthy children. Boys or girls...makes no difference to me.

I’ve been pregnant 11 times and have 4 live children. My preference has been for a girl in each pregnancy. I’m sure I would have loved a boy if I’d had one but I didn’t. Interestingly, people are convinced we kept having more kids to have ‘one more shot at a boy’ but in reality my four girls are exactly what I would have chosen.

I think it’s a bit harsh to say that I don’t deserve to have kids because I had a preference for a girl - it wasn’t something I chose and not something I could rationalise. We never found out the sex of our babies and after all the trauma I went through to have my babies I’m sure I would have loved a boy just as much as I do my girls.

We both wanted two boys and had twin boys!

We got asked many times "Are you going to try for a girl now?" - No thanks, we're very happy with our boys.

DC1 - no preference; had a boy
DC2 - maybe slight preference for a girl so I would have 'one of each' but we found out he was a boy at 20 weeks. Would say I had a couple of days where I was a bit 'oh well that's it, I'll never have a daughter now' (we were planning to stop at 2) but after that, no strong feelings.

I have had a couple of friends confide in me that they initially felt sad to be having boys as they had never envisaged themselves as 'boy mums'. But now their boys are here they are very much loved.

When we had DS2 a couple of people asked after a while if we were going to have a third to 'try for a girl'.

It's called a preference. I never once said boys were awful - just that I would prefer to raise daughters.

I wanted one of each and that’s what I got. Girl then boy. I feel incredibly lucky and love them both with everything I have.