DH in a bad mood because I'm home late?

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I've just started a new job, huge step up so I'm not my usual pre organised self.
Messaged DH last minute at 5 saying I was out for drinks with a client, that I'd be later than normal. Asked if he needed anything. He requested beers. Messaged hour later asking again if he needed anything, he said take away. There were no good take outs near. So picked up beers, salad, chicken and pizza from a nearby deli and headed home.
Messaged an hour and a half later saying I was on my way with beers and pizza and he lost it.
Saying if I told him earlier that's all I was bringing in, he would have driven out to get food & beers - that he didn't want to wait for deli pizza?
Have I done something wrong or is it just because I'm late?

It's never women throwing hissy fits because men dare to be out working/networking rather than being home.

He sounds like my ex-husband

That there sounds like a child, not a husband

Well that's a lie!

Women are always moaning their OH is out working and not helping at home

???? Really I'm sure plenty of women throw a hissy fit when men out out drinking and not coming home especially every night.....but if their husband has called saying I'm bringing home take out tea then coming home at 8.30 with stuff needing cooking is well out of order no matter what's in your trousers.

Bollocks 😂

There was a thread on here only last week from someone who was pissed off because her DH was away with work (and out with colleagues) and not in the hotel room ringing her.

Yes, this!! He was probably hungry. Doesn’t sound like you gave him a realistic expectation of when you’d be getting home.

This is more likely due to lack of warning I suspect. If you are expecting your partner home around 5 and they text to say they will be a bit late and should they bring something. Then another hour later text to ask again. Then it’s another hour and a half before they say they are headed home, you up to 2.5/3 hours later than expected. If you are hungry and waiting for your partner to eat you are going to be a bit annoyed. Whereas if you had advised in advance you would be out husband could have sorted himself out. If this is a one off it is OTT though. My husband used to work all sorts of odd hours and would hardly ever turn up home when he said he would, it was extremely frustrating as I never knew when to cook dinner, when to wait for him, and often ended up eating at 10pm

Why wouldn’t a grown man order his own takeaway?? Really we don’t need to treat them like children and they don’t need to have adult tantrums. Having said that. You were much later than normal tea rime. You should have told him to order a takeaway in the first place. No one wants to cook that late and let’s face it a high quality supermarket pizza unless very good quality is pretty unappealing.

From your message it reads like you went back home about half 8? With pizza and beers.
I imagine the pizza and beers aren’t the issue.
i imagine the issue is that you’ve messaged 3 times, an hour apart asking if he wants something. I would assume you would be back within minutes, not an hour and another message.
i would have preferred to be told ‘I don’t know what time I’ll be back probably best to sort out yourself for dinner and I’ll eat here’

I would think it’s the waiting, if your not sure when you will be back and it’s always difficult with work drinks I would say I’ll be back later, sort your own tea out tonight

Why is he not doing dinner. If it were me I would have something sorted for when you got in and got off my backside.

Sounds like a slacker.

Because she asked do you want me to grab anything…. Sure some beers.

an hour or whatever later want me to grab anything …. Yeah beers and take away.

he had given up on the idea of cooking for them both at that point.

when op then got in with food to cook he said if he had of known he would of fetched his own beer and take away.

Did you read her op offering to bring home tea and asking him what he wanted? Or did you just think man = in the wrong?