Dating short men

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I’ve met someone online. Had a date at the weekend and we got on really well.
He’s quite short though. I feel so shallow for thinking like this, but I have always been attracted to taller men. I’m 5’2 and he isn’t all that much taller than I am.
would this be an issue for you?
his bio didn’t have his height on it

Does he make you laugh?
Is he kind?
Is he generous? and I don't mean with money, but with time or his skills, but you don't want a tightarse, that person is just painful to live with.
Is he interested in you and interested in the world around him
Is he caring? Would he care for you if you were sick or your children were sick?
Does he make you think and consider things?
Is he considerate?
Does he like animals? Is he cruel?

All of the above are so much more important than height. Give your head a wobble. When I was dating my now DH, these were the things that I was looking for, not his height. I am 5ft 2" (as well) my DH is 5ft 8". Life is long and anything can happen, when you are looking for someone to spend your life with, there are so much more important considerations than height.

Is he very slight, as well as being short? I would have thought that most men, even if only two inches taller than you, would be significantly broader and heavier than you, wouldn't they?

Even if not, I agree with PP that it would be such a shame to turn down a 5'4" man who you could discover to be the most loving, kindest, funniest, wittiest partner you could ever hope for - only to find yourself instead heading towards a nasty, selfish, abusive man (although apparently very nice at first) who just happens to be over 6'.

You don't actually say if you are attracted to him or not though?

IMO, if you are looking for a potential relationship and he seems like a good man and you get on well I would see where it goes.

People get hung up on the superficial and end up married to absolute gobshites.

As long as his body reaches all the way down to the ground when he's standing up, he should be grand

My partner is 5'4" and I am 5'6", so I'm taller and it really doesn't bother me, I love him and height is really insignificant.

I think it's worth giving him a chance and going out with him again. If it turns out you really like him you'll probably be able to look past his height.

I wouldn't really date someone shorter than me, but I've dated plenty of men that are my height or only slightly taller (I'm 5'6). So long as I don't have to lean down to kiss them I don't care!

I’d probably give it one more date if you do like him and the height thing is the only thing that’s bothering you at this stage. Make a decision after that

Easy to say, but if you are not physically attracted to someone, that's it.

Would you expect a man to be with you just because you are kind or considerate, while not being physically attracted to you? I'd find it pretty offensive frankly!

It's irrelevant what you and me think about the height.

I'm 5'11 and DP is 5'8.. it doesn't really matter if you're into each other.

Though another point is that he actually still taller than you anyway..

I'm 5"2, my partner is 5"8. He's perfect. I've never really even thought about his height. He's hot to me, and that is all that matters.

Where has this obsession come from? I see it all over the internet and actually find it quite ridiculous.

Some men are tall, some men are short, some are bald, some are not. Some have hairy chests, some don't.

Surely it is whether you have chemistry that matters?!

Put the height thing to one side, for the moment. Do you like him? Is he attractive to you in other ways? If so, it's worth seeing him again to see if that initial attraction waxes or wanes. You'd really kick yourself if he turned out to be fabulous and the thing putting you off was something that might not even bother you after a few dates.

I can't say this is something that would bother me, particularly if they were still taller than me.

Also, is it that he's coming on strong or he's just not shrouding himself in bullshit like most men?

I think I’ll give another date a shot and see how I feel then.
he’s lovely, kind, loves animals, is a good dad from what I can tell and it is t an issue for him that I have DC(youngest is a toddler). You only live once don’t you,

I'm 5'2 as well OP and I always dreamed of meeting a man who was closer to my height. I wanted someone I could kiss without going on tiptoes, or dancing forehead to forehead without tilting my head up. I always think it would be nice!
But then I met DH who is 6ft and I obviously wouldn't change him for the world. But it does hurt my neck sometimes to always be looking up!

Him being so keen is making me retreat a bit, yes

I'm six foot. This is my life 😜 if it bothers you then that's totally legitimate but it might be worth thinking about WHY it bothers you. Does it make you feel less feminine or like he's less masculine?

I married a guy who is also 6 foot and I love teasing that he's "shorter" than me. I also have size 10 shoes and love "lending" him my heels (making him wear them for giggles).

It is what you make of it.

I will say that my ex was 6 foot 4 and it did make me feel dainty and feminine for pretty much the only time in my life but he was also a knob so... he got the sack.

You shorter ladies need to save the taller men for us tall ones! I’m 5 ‘7 and it seems most men are too short for me these days! How do you think we feel? 😂🤣🤣

Easy for you to say at your height- mist men are taller than you! It’s a struggle as a woman over 5’7 as men seem to be getting shorter! 🤣 A man at 5’7 is tiny to me 🙏🏼😳🤣

It really is ok not to be attracted to someone- including for reasons of height.

You don't have to give him an explanation that includes height as a reason, in the same way you wouldn't say 'i don't like your face or eyes or political views...' they just don't need to know this early on.

My husband was same height at me( 5ft7).
I've had a relationship with a man at 6ft 3 and a guy at 5ft 4.
Didn't bother me at all.

You can stop dating someone for whatever reason you like.

However throwing away someone good because of their height is probably a bit short-sighted (pun not intended).

I used to be similar- would only date tall men (I'm 5'10") and ruled out anyone who was shorter than 6 foot on their dating profile. Took a chance with my current DP, who didn't have his height in his profile, he's the same height as me. We got on like a house on fire and have been together for 5 years, I couldn't imagine anyone better suited for me.

I sometimes think about the fact that had he put his height in his profile I would have swiped left and never met him. I am so grateful he didn't.

Well Ime most tall men prefer short women 🤷‍♀️

I would go on a second date, and keep an open mind. I'd want to be attracted to him though, so if the whole package isn't what you want, just move on. I think it's foolish to dismiss people based on height, but it's also foolish not to think attraction isn't important.

I've been out with men the same height as me (5ft 5in) one shorter than me and taller than me. Dp is 6ft 2in and I love it and don't think I could ever go for someone less than 6ft now. I know that sounds really shallow but you like what you like 🤷🏻‍♀️