Dating short men

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I’ve met someone online. Had a date at the weekend and we got on really well.
He’s quite short though. I feel so shallow for thinking like this, but I have always been attracted to taller men. I’m 5’2 and he isn’t all that much taller than I am.
would this be an issue for you?
his bio didn’t have his height on it

I'm 5'7 and DH is about 5'8. In fact I can't think of any boyfriend who was much taller than me.

Yet the frequency with which these threads pop up that invariably turn to haranguing women who only like tall men, calling them superficial and shallow and telling them to give short men a chance, suggests that some people think they should.

Well, not being attracted to short men (or men shorter than you) is understandable

But insisting on dating men who are over 6' (when you're barely 5' yourself) is most definitely shallow and superficial. It's purely for status.

But whatever, I don't care. I don't go for tall men myself so I'm competing with anybody.

My 16 year old DN is 5ft 11 which is not short by anybody's definition. But he desperately wants to be taller. That's the effect society's obsession with height is having.

it’s not society’s “obsession”

It is simply what some find attractive. Height. Others don’t give a hoot.

It's often the 5'7" - 5'10" people that get the biggest chip on their shoulder about height tbh

Most small people don't give a fuck, most tall people don't give a fuck, it's just the unremarkable middle that seem to care

OLD and forums such as this do give the impression it's a society wide obsession though, but in my whole IRL as an ankle biter I've never really noticed this obsession.

I don't fancy short men , I'm 5 foot and dh 6.1 .. not much you can do about what you find attractive

I am not even 4ft 11 and don't give a shit. I am a teacher and my height really bothers the children. From the time they start in yr 7 til they leave in yr11, some will comment on my height daily. Obviously I give a politer reply than that when in school 🤣

Do you get a lot of comments about the height difference?

It has always been considered that men around 6ft = more masculine = more sexually attractive. Just how it is.

Nonsense. I don't find tall men to be either necessarily. Taste is subjective it's not " just how it is"

And some women have a ridiculous definition of “short” anyway. Like anything under 6ft 1.

I don't think you can dismiss pp comment as 'nonsense' just because it doesn't align with your own taste. I think in our society there is a strong link between male height and ideals of masculinity, and between masculinity and attraction. Just as there is with certain female body shapes and features. I have known many women who will say they 'don't mind' if a man is short, but vanishingly few who would give below average height as a preferred trait in a man. Yes, taste is subjective, but there are some traits so universally preferred that they are generally accepted as desirable. Good teeth, skin, shapely body for a woman, height in a man. That's not to say people without these things will never find a partner, it's just unlikely many people would include their absence on their wish list. If this were nonsense, then why do short men keep complaining?

You don't agree. That's fine. However, that doesn't make it 'nonsense'. Think it's pretty widely accepted to be the case.

It is nonsense, if it were true short men could never be sex symbols, and some are. Tom Cruise for example.

I think it is the case that taller is seen as more attractive, generally.

But universal it is not. Unlike something like teeth, where absolutely nobody has a preference for tar tar and gingivitis; there are women who like men of all heights and have no preference for tall men.

I certainly don't, there are much more important markers of physical masculinity and attractiveness imo (hair, body hair, beard, nice face, nice hands).

Also, there's a distinction between between 'taller than me' (which is a pretty wide range VS tall (above average, smaller pool)

Unfortunate example. Tom Cruise has been made to wear shoe lifts, stand on boxes and ramps, and his female co stars have been placed in trenches, as well as the use of camera trickery so his lack of height could be concealed to enable him to be seen as a sex symbol despite it.

There is a cultural element to it. Loads of Spanish / Portuguese men are pretty short but still fucking hot.