Women with rich husbands looking down noses at others

[Ifyouholdonforonemoreday]

It bugs me!

I live in a v wealthy area, lots of mum friends of mine don’t work, lovely people, husbands earn enough, fantastic situation I’d do the same (I work part time) but many other women who don’t work, days spent lunching, playing padel, getting nails done, yoga and so on…but just really up their own bums, very snooty and looking down at others. Have to admit it annoys me, it’s not their money, they didn’t earn it, why act like that? They could lose it all tomorrow, anyones circumstances could change..just eurgh

These people sound horrible. When you say they're snooty, how do you mean? When you try and make friends etc? What makes you think some are nice and some aren't?
i only know one v rich neighbour and she's really nice, but her husband just totally blanks me when he sees me! Lol. Me and her and the 2 kids are friends and we have picnics and stuff, but he just looks to the floor when he casts eyes on me!

Some not all

I think that is a more of you feeling inadequate rather than them looking down in you. I know numerous wealthy people, and the ones that have earned their income never look down on others

What do phrases like "snooty" and "look down their noses" even mean, OP? What evidence do you have about how you think these women view you?
Actually, you sound jealous of their lifestyle, and there's some reverse snobbery going on. Envy is truly a horrible thing.

I know exactly what you mean - when I was younger this used to really irritate me - I always worked full time and still do and always will. It's sort of envy, sort of resentment, sort of a feeling of injustice. I don't really think about it anymore. I think I'm much much more fulfilled in my life - their lives are hollow.

Do you and those mums have young dc?

It reverses somewhat once the dcs are older. Those mums are looking ropier (we all do), children about to leave the nest and husbands in mid life crises. You will have all of the above and still have your career and second wind at it.

Oh they earn it.

And if you don't like them, why are you calling them friends?

One of my best friends and my sil, married rich men (I'm talking scrap metal merchant rich)
The old saw 'A rich man's wife earns every penny' was certainly true in both instances. The men had all the power, as the wives didn't work, so what the husband said and did was law.
The big houses and gardens had to be kept immaculate,
The wives were expected to look like a trophy wife at all times, and children to be seen and not heard.
Heavy drinking and cheating was the norm,
but 'I'll just buy the missus a new car, and everything will be fine"
Fortunately they both came to their senses eventually, and left the bastards, started over again and both succeeded in living their best lives!

Some women can take that kind of life of big houses, flash cars, glamorous holidays, jewellery, designer clothes. For the women I know the price was too high.

I'm proud to work, contribute to society, role model economic equality in a relationship to my kids.

How do you know they’re looking down their noses at everyone if you hate them so much you don’t actually spend any time with them?!

The big houses and gardens had to be kept immaculate,

Yes, that seems to be a theme. It must be a lot of work to keep a big house and garden looking immaculate.

@blueshoes They just have housekeepers and gardeners 🤷🏻‍♀️

What exactly do they do that you think is snooty? You’ve not said anything bad that they do?

They've paid enough for their noses, let them look down it

Yes, I meant a lot of work to manage numerous staff. Some of these houses seem to have trades vans permanently parked in their big drives.

@blueshoes Much easier managing it than doing it yourself 😂

How are they lovely people?!

I think you've got a massive chip on your shoulder OP ..
just as women are who describe SAHMs as 'dull and boring ... leading hollow lives'. Why do people judge each other so much .... I've got friends who are rich, poor, work, don't work, retired, carers etc .... no one is 'better' than anyone else and no one 'looks down' or is 'snooty' to anyone.
Maybe you need better friends.

@wizzywig 🙈😅

You haven’t described any behaviour that makes it sound like they are looking down on you. My own experience as a working mum was that many of the ladies who lunch are a bit bored and quite often the school run becomes their entire social life and they invest more energy in those relationships. For those who don’t, it can feel like you are on the outside yes but I never resented it as I make good money and love my work.
If anything, I am eternally grateful for the school mums that have the spare time and energy to organise fetes, bakeathons, Christmas bazaars, parties, fund raisers, come in and read with the kids, etc.

We all know what those phrases mean. Why are you so angry about OP’s post?

😂A nit: Their husbands have paid enough for their noses ...

Have you ever managed anyone? It's often much easier to do it yourself. <bitter>

You sound jealous, “they didn’t earn the money, their husband did” well… women who raise dc and support their dh do contribute to the financial gain and therefore earn every penny.

She's talking about ones that haven't earned their income and merely rely on a rich husband