Women with rich husbands looking down noses at others

[Ifyouholdonforonemoreday]

It bugs me!

I live in a v wealthy area, lots of mum friends of mine don’t work, lovely people, husbands earn enough, fantastic situation I’d do the same (I work part time) but many other women who don’t work, days spent lunching, playing padel, getting nails done, yoga and so on…but just really up their own bums, very snooty and looking down at others. Have to admit it annoys me, it’s not their money, they didn’t earn it, why act like that? They could lose it all tomorrow, anyones circumstances could change..just eurgh

You don’t know for sure whether investments, selling previous successful businesses or inheritances have given them the money to choose stop working. You’re assuming men are funding it.

I don't find people interesting when they have no obvious purpose in life - that doesn't have to mean going out to work, it could be bringing up their children, volunteering, pursuing a creative interest - but people who just go out to lunch, shop and have beauty treatments, spending money they haven't earned, are uninteresting.

Each to their own, they're not harming me and I wish them the best, but they're boring.

@doeeyedstan How on earth do you know what goes on behind closed doors?

No one does. So why are people determined to believe that all rich men are bastards behind doors and poor ones are what? All lovely? So odd.

Not read thread, but if marriage goes tits up I want to be financially independent. I don’t care what other people choose to do I know I’m going to be ok. I will make sure my daughter has the same priorities. That’s it

Good plan to be financially stable. Pretty much everything is in my name so all good there.

For SOME posters, it makes them feel better to pretend you can only be miserable if you are more wealthy than they are.

People protest too much, if you are genuinely happy and thriving in your career, you don't really have time or energy to waste making sour comments about others. Happy people don't try to imagine misery in other people's life

@doeeyedstan Not all rich men are bastards, not all less wealthy men are either. But the reality is a financial imbalance does put the wealthier partner in a potential position of control. I don't think this is always fully understood, often until it's too late.
Even if my husband was wealthy I absolutely would not risk/choose to give up my career.

Like I said, the vast majority of assets are in my name 🤷🏻‍♀️no risk here

@doeeyedstan So you are both equally are wealthy with money you earned yourselves?

You weren't lonely and miserable because you were rich. You were lonely and miserable because you married a twat.

@TwigletsAndRadishes His wealth massively contributed to his twat level. And others "fawned" all over him for it.

Nope. I stopped working about 30 years ago. All the earned money is from his earning. But it's our money.

Shouldn’t look down their noses at all. However, if they are married it is their money too, not just their husbands

I don't see it in real life but you see an awful lot of it on here. Next time there's a benefit bashing thread, have a little peek at some of the posters who contribute.

I love my career. I worked hard to get to where I am and couldn’t imagine just throwing it all away.

Earning my own money is incredibly important to me. I don’t want to solely rely on anyone else financially.

Financially providing for my DC’s is also important to me. I don’t believe it should just be all on one parent.

@doeeyedstan I disagree. So basically you married a rich man and live off him? How are all of the assets in your name?

@doeeyedstan Why is everything in your name? You haven’t worked for 30 years? How come?

@SouthLondonMum22 I couldn't agree more.

He put them in my name. It was better for tax planning. And no. I don't live off his money any more than the lesser earning partner lives off the higher income earner.

Do you feel a low earning part time working parent who is a part time SAHM only 'owns' the meagre money she makes and her high earning full time working dh owns the money he makes? Because that is what you are saying. That the person owns the money they earn. Frankly we have moved beyond this 1950s rhetoric.

@Hellodarknessmyfriend and he was not mega wealthy when we met. He was very highly educated as am I and he was in a good career path but he was firmly in the 'good income' bracket as was I. Not wealthy.

@doeeyedstan But the lower earning partner is still providing and bringing something to the partnership in this sense?

@doeeyedstan Apologies, I understand now. You don't have to work because you're married to a rich man so you can spend what he earns through hard work and request that he puts all assets in your name. That's feminism right there 😀

I stopped work because his job required him to travel abroad for up to 3 weeks at a time frequently during the year. Many more short week long trips too. His hours were horrendous. He would leave before sun was up and get home in the dark. Had I continued to work neither of us would be present to parent our dc.
We also relocated abroad with his work for several years. I had actually started another degree but had to give this up due to this relocation but it made sense for us as a family. We had a fantastic time.
I enabled him to focus on his career and be able to enjoy his time with dc as much as possible and enabled us to afford domestic help so neither of us were blind with fatigue. He would desperately try to get home in time to put them to bed where ever possible and would read and sing them to sleep.
He is as loving and smitten with me as he was on day one. He is truly the nicest man I know.

You have weirdly just decided I requested the assets be put in my name. I've clearly stated he chose to do this for financial planning reasons.

You are so so desperate to make this a bad story. It's not. I'm a very fortunate person. And he feels he is also. He tells me regularly that he feels blessed.