Women with rich husbands looking down noses at others

[Ifyouholdonforonemoreday]

It bugs me!

I live in a v wealthy area, lots of mum friends of mine don’t work, lovely people, husbands earn enough, fantastic situation I’d do the same (I work part time) but many other women who don’t work, days spent lunching, playing padel, getting nails done, yoga and so on…but just really up their own bums, very snooty and looking down at others. Have to admit it annoys me, it’s not their money, they didn’t earn it, why act like that? They could lose it all tomorrow, anyones circumstances could change..just eurgh

I know what you mean.

It especially bothers me when they also tend to judge working mothers. Especially when they talk about them being wage slaves and materialistic but are clearly happy for their husbands to be 'materialistic wage slaves' whilst they sit at home.

Can look down on me all they like. But in reality if my partner left now I’ve got a job and a way to support myself and my kids. I don’t have to settle during a divorce and rely on that money.

I don't think it's fair to say the wives didn't earn the money, the husband did.

That's a huge disservice to women and is simply not true when it comes to divorce.

The wife will support the husband in his career, keep everything else running so all he has to worry about it the financial safety net. Please don't shit on a woman's contribution. It doesn't help society's progression.

Yes but in a settlement they might still have more than you have in savings and your future earnings altogether.

Sounds like you are bitterly jealous more than anything.

How do you know their exact circumstances?

I love that people are trying to make themselves feel better, pretending that they must be miserable, in very unsafe position. Meanwhile they just enjoying their life and some will be a lot more comfortable financially, independently, that you will ever know.

This is an unkind post, OP

Everyone looks down at someone I think. It's either snobbery or inverse snobbery.

I still laugh at the school mum who said to me when I commented I needed to rush off to work 'but why do you work, does your husband not earn enough without you working, I would be very unhappy if my husband made me work'

And she wasnt a very rich mum, very average income i would think, but her expectation was that mums dont work. I was literally in shock and didn't know how to reply.

• the concept of anyone 'making me work'
• that she thought I only worked as he doesn't earn enough! He earns a decent salary which would could in theory live on modestly without me working
• my job is a vocation, I would always do it even if won the lottery

She was pitying/judging me for working, which blew my mind. Not pitying my children for us not being around (as due to creative work planning hubby and I are very lucky to be able to do every pick up and drop off). But pitying me that I wasn't a kept women!

Why are their lives hollow? Because they don't have paid employment? Is that the sole reason your life is fulfilled? Because you work? Doesn't say much for the rest of your life then does it.

@Stainglasses I think the ones doing it are very unkind. I can’t stand when people are rude to the waitress or treat their cleaner, who cleans the crap off their toilet, with utter contempt, now that’s unkind

@blueshoes That’s an interesting point

days spent lunching, playing padel, getting nails done, yoga and so on…but just really up their own bums, very snooty and looking down at others. Have to admit it annoys me, it’s not their money, they didn’t earn it, why act like that?

So where is the evidence that they are looking down on others here? And how do you know what they earned before they stopped work to have children? Part of the reason they are wealthy now might be because they had a good few years of two high incomes coming into one household before the wife stopped working.

Not really. We pay people

OMG don’t tell me you live in Beaconsfield too!!!!!

The good news is they’re all sexually frustrated because they’re not banging their husbands.

So God does settle devs without money..

lol…

They probably couldn’t lose it all tomorrow. Half of everything is theirs and If the shit hits the fan in their marriages and they’ve got children at home, chances are it’ll be the husband out on his ear. They’ve got it all sewn up, that’s probably why they look so smug.

OP I know exactly what you’re talking about and can give examples, it’s the “oh god I can’t imagine going camping for an actual holiday” women. The “I don’t know how you live without x/y/z, I just couldn’t” women. It’s the “gosh you’re so brave not succumbing to Botox/surgery” whilst looking at you with pity.

I always want to ask them what they’re so cocky about. Sad women living through their husbands and thinking they assume his position/respect by virtue of a ring on their finger (their life achievement)

Usual MN jealousy on this thread.

The amount of posters shitting on and judging women is astounding.

How would you know though. I didn’t work after we moved out of London for about 5 years. I had before and owned my own house before DH in London,

Who is 'we'?

@Brumhilda Why are they not shagging their husbands? Wouldn’t these type of husbands expect it?

@Gogogo12345

She's talking about ones that haven't earned their income and merely rely on a rich husband

So you are saying it's his money? So if a woman goes part time and raises their dc as a part SAH, then does that mean the small money she earns is her money and the big money he earns is his money? So if they get divorced she should only get her little portion. Because that's the only bit she earned. Because that is what you mean if you are saying a full time SAHM lives off his money

And please for the love of god don’t someone tell me they’re bringing up their kids as an achievement. You know as well as I do it’s not the job half of us make it out to be!

I don’t think you should look down but do agree you shouldn’t punch down so I avoid joking about anyone.

@Gogogo12345 Not talking about sahms or part timers etc…talking big money..Nannie’s usually hired, often several, fantastic life (I would imagine) which is great, but the ones who think they are better than others? I don’t understand why? What did they do to be better?
Definitely not jealous at all, in a nice situation myself and I’m able to treat people with respect as no one is better than anyone else, money or not

I'm not getting this at all. It's fair to say this sort of behaviour does exist. You're just assuming she's jealous when she's been in the company of these people and you haven't, so how would you know?

I don't think this is reverse snobbery, she's just pointing out they are arseholes. Reverse snobbery would be disliking perfectly nice people just because they are wealthy.

I’d like to hear some examples of what you’ve seen these women do or say that’s snooty or arseholey OP

Because so far it seems a bit like you are concluding they are awful simply because they are rich and have easy lives