AIBU to wish that there was dedicated housing for quiet people?

[NoMoreNoisePlease]

I’m Autistic(Diagnosed) and I’ve never been a fan of noise but I’m becoming increasingly noise averse as I’m approaching middle age.

I don’t expect complete silence and I actively enjoy hearing two of my neighbours’ children play and having fun but some others seem to spend 3/4 of their time screaming. Why do so many children seem to scream now?

Plus there’s the thump of footballs, rusty trampoline springs, people playing loud music, fireworks and so many other loud intrusive noises.

I want to get away from it all but moving rurally(I’m semi rural) isn’t really the best option for me due to disabilities.

I think that I’m going to have to move to an over 50s complex as soon as I’m old enough. Though I fear the blaring televisions.

AIBU to wish that there was specific housing for quiet noise averse people like me?

Sounds like a brilliant idea!

Oh yes please .

I'm very quiet and considerate as a neighbour but some don't give a monkeys who they disturb .

Sogn me up!

Can I come?

I agree. I've had to spend all my savings and mortgaged myself up to the eyeballs on buying a detached property as I almost had a breakdown living in an attached house with inconsiderate neighbours. (Also autistic)

In theory yes but I know parents who use the quiet coach on trains in the hope that it helps their noisy kids be quiet (it never works).

I would absolutely love it though. Sick to death of kids screaming and kicking footballs all over the place outside my house when there’s an enormous park 3 minutes away.

I agree. We are semi detached and the previous neighbours were so noisy. Then they were replaced by normal people. We hear them occasionally but they don’t live their entire lives at full volume like their predecessors did.

The problem would be that one person's quiet might still be another's inconsiderate level of noise. But eliminating even just the screaming and obviously excessive noise would be an improvement!

I was just saying this to my husband this morning. I've only lived in my new house for 3 months but I hate it so much with all the constant noise from the road, people and bloody dogs barking constantly. I'm just waiting till I can put the house on the market and get the hell out of here.

I totally get this and I'm not autistic. It definitely seems worse as I've got older!

Brilliant idea!

Adult only apartment complexes and housing estates are my dream.

I can’t stand kids and am always happy to pay premium to avoid them!

I came on here to say that it's a great idea but vulnerable to abuse, like the quiet carriage. Then I saw that someone already has!

The problem is this though: in theory, you could live in a quiet place now, if you had all the money in the world. You could afford to buy a house with thick walls and loads of space around it and the sort of well heeled neighbours that won't put up with anti social behaviour and have ways of making it stop, and the reason why you probably haven't done this already is that you're not a millionaire.

Unfortunately if you guaranteed quiet in an ordinary modest house, it would become just as expensive because so many people are driven mad by noise. I honestly believe that "normal noise" is close to intolerable to a huge number of people but no one is socially empowered to do anything about it.

I don't mind children playing out but I REALLY hate doof doof doof in summer. Bass from someone's barbecue 8 houses away taking over my house for a whole day. It makes me absolutely miserable but it's just a family party with people behaving completely normally in the hours of daylight and there is fuck all I can do about it.

I would like

Guaranteed hours of quiet, enforced by law and convention. You can stand anything (almost) if you know if / when it will stop.
You need a professional licence to buy stereo equipment that goes over a certain range (your house and garden). It can be confiscated.
This applies to cars too.
Idling cars and motorbikes get fined. (by whom? you can't even report rapes and burglaries. I freely admit none of this is possible)
A culture where it is possible to just ask people to stop and we are allowed to admit this is driving us MAD without looking like weirdos
Workmen aren't allowed to set up their stupid loud stereos when they go to work outside on a house and dominate the neighbourhood

If there were neighbourhoods like this as standard I think what you would get is most people getting what they want some of the time. And if you want more "liveliness" than that, then certain neighbourhoods are "noise zones" - make them the exception

Detached.

I'm on another thread about sounds we can hear from the garden - seems we can all tolerate different sounds, depending!

The problem with noisy neighbours is that it seems so personal and as though they don't take your existence into consideration. I'm a city-dweller in a small garden flat with quiet neighbours but I have traffic sounds, helicopters, and people going about their daily business to contend with and find this no problem.

There are no lawns to be mowed, trampolines, garden fences, strimmers, power washers, hot tubs, etc - these I would find very irritating.

I think of myself as a quiet person although I do sing in the kitchen sometimes.

I flatshared with someone who described herself as an extremely quiet person, however she was actually pretty noisy (banging, thumping, shouty phone calls, a tendency to midnight hoovering) whilst also being completely intolerant of any noise at all from anywhere else.

She would have wanted to live in Quiet Housing - would she have been allowed?

I'd move in tomorrow. I'd also add hot tubs, pressure washers, basketballs and people who talk through their car's bluetooth whilst sitting on their drive to the banned list. The woman over the road has a cat scarer machine and the clicking of that drives me mad, but also has no impact at all upon passing cats.

Midnight hoovering would definitely not be allowed. There’d have to be ground rules about things like DIY and noisy chores. Likewise TV volumes and no music in the garden ever! (Unless wearing earphones)

When I say quiet people I mean people who, like me, not only love quiet but are also quiet people,

Of course it’d never be perfect but I do think having strict ground rules and targeting quiet lovers would seriously help to reduce noise. It’d probably have to be adult only though I know that there are many quiet children, I was one, but taking footballs, trampolines and shrieking out of the equation would certainly help.

And yes, if I ever found myself in the position to actually do it you’d all be very welcome.

And no thumpy shouty people are also not welcome.

That's a brilliant idea - I'm in...

Can I move there too? Absolutely sick of my neighbours - their kids are shoved out in the garden all day and they're allowed to scream constantly, shout, jump over my fence for their balls which are constantly bouncing. I have a daughter and whenever her and her friends started to play at an inconsiderate level I'd tell them to quiet down otherwise they'd be going home. Happened like twice then they learned they'd have to be reasonable otherwise they wouldn't be playing here.

Absolute nightmares to live next to.

Yes. Dog free too.

Oh my husband bought a cat scarer thing. As soon as I realised the noise of it I removed it. Not because of me, I couldn't hear it in the house at all. But because I knew it would likely drive others round the bend if they could hear it.

I was on a quiet coach once and a family got on with 2 kids who they allowed to watch iPads at a loud volume. When someone reminded them it was the quiet carriage the woman replied she knew that but her kids had autism and needed the quiet coach as they couldn't stand noise from others. But also they couldn't wear headphones so needed to listen to their shows out loud.
So yeah I can imagine loud people will still want to live in quiet apartments for the same reason. THEY want everyone to be quiet but they need allowances to make noise.

People are only getting noisier and less considerate.