To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Oblivious to what? Not knowing that food that you didn't buy, weren't offered or didn't prepare isn't necessarily for you?

This is up there with people who take the specially prepared vegetarian plate at an event leaving none for the actual vegetarians. Entitled, ignorant dickheads.

@Birump please please do this!!!

Great idea @LondonFox

I would be totally and utterly livid if dp did this! I often bake sausage rolls and pies solely for dp to take to work.

He would never ever take any without checking first. It is manners if nothing else.

So you told him and he wouldn’t bring them home!!! He’d be under the flipping patio if I was due on.

I am angry for you. Don’t get mad though, get even. Laxatives in the next lot 😁

Whoa. That's a real ick right there!

A greedy, selfish person who would nick the treats for their own kid's party.

Really unattractive and I can't imagine ever fancying them again.

I’d love to know who has voted YABU Op?!

I hope you went and got the best, most special and most expensive goodies you could buy for your DS's birthday party.
And I hope he had a great time!

I guess OP's 'D'H and his jam slag scoffing friends are here!

Probably @LonelyBones who called her thoughtless for not baking him enough to take to work since he enjoys her baking....

Either that or her abusive husband's found AIBU.

Really fancy a cuppa tea and a jam slag now (whatever they are).

yes- he was selfish, can’t believe he’d do that to his child on a birthday.

Are you married to a raccoon? If nothing else that's a huge amount of food for one person to have for lunch! I'm no Mumsnet teeny tiny, I can put away a good few sausage rolls, but 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 brownies and 8 jam slags whatever they are? For lunch? Nah. He's either part trash panda or he's done this on purpose for whatever horrible reason you'd steal children's party food.

If you think he has done this deliberately then that pretty much shows what sort of person he presents himself as to his family. If that’s what you think of him then he must be a pretty selfish shitty person. Why are you with someone like that?

Have you managed to sort something out for the party?

And why did he take so much? I think that backs up the idea that he did this on purpose. He knew what he was doing.

I can see it might be a genuine mistake if he'd taken one sausage roll and one jam thingy, but he didn't: as you say he took most of it. May I suggest you insert any remaining jam slags up where the sun don't shine? On your H, of course.

My ex would do similar stuff but not this bad. If I tried to get ahead for the next morning by laying the table for breakfast at night, he'd come home (he worked very silly hours) and use the crockery & cutlery etc on the table.

I think it's a form of jealousy.

Wow. I’d be locking him out the house if he didn’t bring them back for the party. What an utter dick!

The fact that he's not remorseful for potentially ruining his kids party speaks volumes to what kind of bloke he is. IF and big if, it was a genuine mistake he would try his hardest to bring them back or order a whoosh / deliveroo / urgent delivery or be profusely apologising for making such a thoughtless "mistake".

I'm guessing you've had to now rush around to clean up his mess.

My suggestion to this discussion would be to give your DH a blow to the head with a frying pan and when he is out, drive and dump his comatose body by the dumpsters behind a Greggs, with pastry crumbs a plenty on his clothing.

Make sure it's not a local Greggs and don't leave any identification on him either.

Who wants to drive???

In all fairness, don't be including him in what you cook for the family for the time being. When he apologises, and only when he apologises, should he be included in the pot.

So he hates his son?

Jam slags 😂

What a selfish bastard.

But no YANBU. Did he know you were having a children's get together? Perhaps he thought they'd be spare, but it's still selfish and greedy, he should have asked.

Cut holes in the front of all his boxers. When he asks why just say "it wasn't obvious that you needed them. I thought I could take them"

Yes that’s it! ☺️

Where does it say ‘he took a couple of sausage rolls?’ I can’t see that in the OP??

What a selfish dick. Poor DS.

Did he just take some for himself, or take most of it to give to his workmates? Either way, I hope you had enough to make the party a success.

I think he's a Jam Slag .... with his little jammy balls.

No they’re not. Stop it, women like you let men get away with their deliberate incompetence just because you believe their penis power makes them dunderheads with any household chore or event. They know exactly what they’re doing, they simply dont care.