To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

I'm sure he can come back from work and bake some replacements

I'm assuming they you've asked him how HE is going to resolve in time for the party?

Placemarking for jam slags.

I would kill him! It’s his child’s birthday. Unless he is as thick as f@@k and doesn’t remember that it is the childs birthday. I am raging for you!

If that had been the case, the OP wouldn't have said 'most of it is gone' and she probably could have coped with him taking a couple of sausage rolls given that there was probably plenty for the number of DC attending and they wouldn't all want one (or more) of everything.

OP I'd be raging at this. So selfish and thoughtless. And I bet it's not atypical of his behaviour. But as usual there's the posts about how the OP should have just made/bought more food and how the poor man should be able to eat as much food as he likes in his own home

The idea that any DH would not already have known about the party and not already have had a conversation about what WE were planning to feed the kids and not made his own contribution to games or whatever...just blows my mind.

Right, problem solving mode first.

Can your DH get them back in time for the party? If not, do you have time/ingredients/capacity to make more? If not, can you get to a shop to buy replacements?

I would be furious. When he gets home later on, I would be having serious words. He basically stole food from a kids birthday party. There is no way he didn't realise it wasn't for him.

It's basic common sense that you don't take something someone else has made without speaking with them first.

He's a self-centred idiot at best.

Pmsl @ "jam slags"!

He is BU for taking them, OP, but you are also BU for making lovely home-made stuff for kids who probably won't appreciate it and would probably have been just as happy with stuff from Tesco.

Irrespective of the party, he has no business helping himself to anything you’ve made without first checking.

This smacks of, “I’m a selfish ass wipe and care not what havoc I cause”.

I’d be on the phone DEMANDING the return of these items and seriously considering my living arrangements.

I‘m sure he can organise replacements. Why is it down to the OP to fix in your mind?

Is a Jam Slag what you call a Jam Tart? That's hilarious!

Anyway he's a dick. A selfish self absorbed dick.

Can you make plans to leave him?

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Has he taken that all in for himself or is he planning on sharing it?! It’s not an excuse either way but that’s a lot for one person to eat. Can you just ask him to duck out of work and bring it all home? He messed up so he’s the one who needs to sort it

What an absolute dick. He knew.

She made the originals. With love and graft. She isn't going to want to replace them with Greggs

Only if he's thick

Or even "hey, there's 32 freshly baked treats in the kitchen - are they for any particular purpose, like our child's birthday, or can I have some?"

What a greedy, selfish pricks.

Never assume anything is also good advice for the DH.

Don't assume that the pile of home baked food is all for you when there's at least two other people in the household and one of them is having a birthday celebration today.

Or he could communicate “ooh these baked goods in the fridge look lovely, is it alright if I take some to work?”

I bake a fair bit. We have a box in the freezer of free for all baked stuff. But fresh stuff everyone including OH would ask about.

Why would you have batch baked a bunch of stuff for his work without him asking or ypu telling him?!

Tell.him to bring it home immediately!

Did you tell him they're for the playdate?

You played down the party / playdate in your OP, did you play it down with OH as well?

Because of you said,
"We're having party and I've cooked treats for it.."
That's a bit different to,
"Some kids coming for playdate....." No mention of cooking things special.

Either way, he should have checked.

But again, if it's not rare to find baked goods in the kitchen, he may not have realised.

So yeah

Did you tell him?
Do you often bake?
Did he think it just a normal playdate?
What Is HE doing to resolve the issue?

I would be fuming! No one in my house would eat anything like that without asking.

I mean honestly I don't get what he thought they were for. Did he think she was opening a bakery?

I agree with you he could ask if he's that dense