To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

I agree with leaving him out of family meals for the foreseeable future. Families represent collective, mutually supportive group living structures and his anti-family behaviour marks him as unsuitable for inclusion within the collective.

My mum had two ancient old aunts when she was growing up. Sisters called Aunt Mould and Aunt Slag. No one ever batted an eyelid at their names until about 10 years ago when they were mentioned in front of my DH and he thought he must have misheard! 😄

Sorry, totally missing the point of the thread. YANBU and the jam slags are making me chuckle. Hope your DS has a lovely time with his friends!

He’s vile, idk how you could stay with a man like that.

Did you live in Gormenghast? This is wildly wonderful and mad at the same time.

@Birump can you go retrieve the baking? What a selfish *rse. Or send an Uber round for it. Anything to make sure he, knowing it was for today, gets none 😡 (I know this might be costly but it’s the principle and he needs to get the message) 🤣

This might sound extreme but I'd actually consider ending a relationship over this
He clearly knew they weren't for the taking and instead for his 8 year son and friend. Just spiteful and nasty

Of course it was obvious and he damn well knew that.
I'm afraid your H is a selfish, lying prick who has deliberately chosen to ruin your hard work & your child's party.
If this is not his first offence of this nature, I'd seriously be re-evaluating our relationship as apparently he can only think of himself.

Genuinely would re-evaluate my marriage over this. Selfish, pathetic man. Why the fuck couldn't he nip to the shop for his snacks? He DEFINITELY took them knowing they were for the party, I don't understand this behaviour. The bar for husbands and fathers is so low... Start putting yourselves first, fuck him, he's not in it for the family is he, all about himself.

He needs to bring it all back, and apologise, at the barest of bare minimum.

I'm guessing it's slags as in slag heap rather than promiscuous woman but yours sound fun 😂

I'm sorry OP, men really do just lack brain cells it seems. Tell him not to come home for dinner, he's took enough food to cover his evening meal.

Also, I'm gonna need the recipe for these promiscuous pastries 👀

If I had baked for a kids party I would probably say that that's for tomorrow.

Equally here we tend to ask about food.

Anything that might have been bought to be used in a meal or anything "out of the ordinary" that might be for a particular purpose.

Have a feeling that Op's husband would "forget" thought even if told.

I'm guessing it's slags as in slag heap rather than promiscuous woman but yours sound fun 😂

I assumed it was slag heaps as well; I used to live off a road called “Slag Lane”…..🤣

No there is no way he didn't know. Fine you said you sometimes bake, but you do tell him help himself. I don't bake so I'd have bought, if cakes/ pastries had appeared in kitchen DH, would have said something like 'these for something' with or without DS having a birthday the next day

Why would she reward him? He is not even sorry!

@Birump - what ended up happening? Did you have time to make more - or was it a quick trip to Gregg's?

I would be furious too. You say it's happened before so he clearly is a selfish individual ( being kind about it) or else an absolute c**t if, as I suspect, he did it deliberately, knowing full well that they would be for the kids playdate

You need to rename him The Jam Slag

On the other hand 'tart' and 'slag', while having different meanings sometimes both also mean a promiscuous woman. I love it 😂

If he isn't offering a decent explanation (there isn't one) and a grovelling apology (as if..) by the time he gets home you need to have serious words. How dare you spend all that time and effort making something delicious that's not for him!!
You shouldn't have to but next time leave a massive sign next to the baking saying Do Not Touch, you Twat!

This must be my favorite Mumsnet post ever!

Why? So he can take even more??
He didn't bother asking about the ones he did take

Jam slag just about the best thing I've ever seen on mumsnet ... just wondering what ops suggested spelling options have seen over the years to remember the word slag. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I bloody hate this ‘men! What are they like!’ sort of comment. It’s minimizing comments like this that lead to women doubting themselves and staying in shit relationships.

Men very clearly do not lack brain cells. This man is a selfish, deeply unpleasant man who has a contemptuous attitude to his wife, not much regard for his own child, and an extraordinary sense of entitlement.

I don’t think that’s extreme at all. I agree.

This is fascinating, as a week or so ago there was a thread from a poster who'd baked biscuits for the kids' lunches and her DH helped himself to a big portion of them, and there was a massive pile on saying he was entitled to have them and she should simply bake more - as in her fault for not baking extra to cover his lack of self control. (Sorry have only read OP's posts so someone may have already mentioned this).

I HATE stuff like this - I remember when we were really hard up, I mean literally counting out pennies at the till for a loaf of bread, and if I bought fruit for the kids H would always have a portion. We had no money for fruit for the adults. But he'd always take some. Obviously that's an extreme example, but I bet if I posted that at the time there'd be some way of making it my fault!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5078082-baked-23-cookies-dh-ate-8-of-them?page=22&reply=135437622