To hate having stupidly small breasts?

[RubyTuesday10]

I know at my age (45) I probably should have stopped caring but I have been so unhappy with my body my whole life. My breasts never developed properly- I’m an a cup and almost completely flat, I’m not even a slim build. My whole life I have never felt sexy or like a proper woman. I detest my body so much I want to hide it under baggy clothes.

My husband doesn’t criticise me but over the years he’s bought men’s magazines, looked at women on the internet- all with massive breasts, because that’s what men like- no man desires a flat chested woman. He’s now become besotted with a busty country singer and I feel the old feelings of worthlessness again. Feel so disgusted with my stupid body I scratch it sometimes.

It seems so unfair that every other woman gets to look nice, have a cleavage, be desirable but I’ll never get to have that. Have always been too broke and too scared to undergo surgery but sometimes I wish I’d been able to. I cry about how I look and have done all my life. Am I the only person on earth who feels this way? Please don’t flame me for being ungrateful for a healthy body, I am not intentionally being ungrateful and really can’t help how I feel.

@RubyTuesday10

Not all men like massive boobs. I won't (can't deny) that me. like most men, like boobs but I do think your husband is being a bit of a selfish twat if he knows how you feel.

Your breasts are you, no matter how big or small they are.

Everyone (unless they are selfish, entitled twats, because even if they think they do have the 'perfect' body someone will disagree) will find something 'wrong' with their bodies.

Tastes vary from person to person, so please try not to beat yourself up too much. I know it's difficult, but unless you do have surgery then nothing will change. And even if you were to have surgery, would it not make you wonder about changing other things which then means you're not you?

ps. My previous user name was 'Ineedabodytransplant'

channel that anger and hurt into courage and see a dr. maybe the surgery would be less than you fear.
i had my floppy breasts lifted at 62!! should have done it after the last little one finished breastfeeding 3 decades before.

Big boobs can cause back pain.
Life is too short.
Enjoy your body

As the owner of a rather hefty pair of breasts, I cannot tell you jealous I am. Big boobs are difficult to dress and look frumpy more often than not. They are nothing like the boobs in men’s magazines!

If I had the cash, I would have a reduction and never wear a bra again. I’d float around in backless dresses and bandeau bikinis!

Your DH sounds insensitive. I don’t think a lot of men particularly care if they’re big or small. Some may have a preference but that could be said about hair colour etc…

It’s like many men strive for the washboard abs but I couldn’t care less. I want a normal body not a magazine body so I believe it’s the same for some men too.

Hos many of us have cellulite, stretch marks, are over weight. Not many people have a perfect body in reality. You can’t help how you feel but I bet you look fab!

I think your OH is being an utter prick, if he stopped making his fetish obvious and instead complimented you, you'd feel a whole lot better. How would he feel if you constantly commented on the attributes of other men.
I would happily have a couple of A cups, my breasts aren't even that big, but bras are uncomfortable and expensive, men look atcthem and comment, exercising can be uncomfortable, I'd love to be all streamlined like a whippet!

Your husband married you. He clearly finds you attractive. I suspect he doesn’t care what size anyone’s boobs are. Most men are just happy to see boobs of any proportions.

My mum has big boobs and always moaned my Dad liked twiggy and other small breasted women. I decided to ignore them all. I have small boobs and no it has no baring on me.
Don't fall for the bollocks.
my DH wouldn't look at big tits on the internet if it upset me. Your DH sounds like a twat.

I would spend quite a lot of time openly leering at muscly young men on the internet with six pack abs if I were you. After all, all women like tall man with flat abs and toned arms. See how that sounds?

I was an A cup until menopause and very happy with them. I don;t much like my C cup breasts now. Small breasts look much better in clothes, and don't sag.

Small breasts are very high fashion, not every man likes large breasts just like not every woman likes huge steroid muscles, some like a leaner muscle, some like quite skinny men. I've never had any complaints about mine but I stay very lean in general so I find them much more flattering on my frame than large breasts.

I have relatively small breasts, not flat chested, but wear a small cup size because my back size is bigger (5’8 and broad). I have no cleavage. I also hate my body for different reasons to you, you’re really not alone and I’m sure from an outside perspective you don’t look unattractive like you think.

I wonder when men will have surgery to be sexy and feel like proper men. Never, I guess. Or rarely.

Why is your H making you aware of his preferences like this? It’s cruel.

If you truly believe it will bring you happiness then maybe now is the time to have some cosmetic treatment. What I will say is, from the other end of the spectrum, having big boobs isn’t all it’s cracked up to be! I’m wistful about doing away with mine once they’ve done their job with young children.

It’s unlikely to be the case that your breasts ‘didn’t develop properly’. Your breasts are a perfectly normal size. Millions of women are an A cup; it’s not at all unusual.

It’s also completely untrue to say that nobody desires a flat chested woman or that ‘every other woman gets to have a cleavage’. I can think of loads of famously beautiful women who have A-cup boobs.

I think, based on what you’ve said about scratching yourself and the extremity of your comments, you need some professional help in order to see things more rationally in relation to your body and to build your self esteem.

I'm an A-cup. I don't have to wear a bra. OLD has taught me quite a few men are fascinated by my nipples (wish I'd known that in my 20s.) None of them has complained- I guess if they are that keen on big breasts, they won't have matched with me.

There are times it's bothered me (my mother and sister are more the other end of the size spectrum) but now I'm in my 50s, I think they're easier to live with than large ones.

I'm the same as you op. Yes all the men I've been with that have watched porn always purposely chose porn with huge breasts or happened to only fancy women with big breasts. But would tell me I was still good looking even though I had a small chest 🙄

I've gone back and forth over the years believing I'm happy as I am but like you op, I notice things that make me feel like shit.

I know a pp said they would love to wear backless dresses, no bra etc but I started to do that about 6 years ago when I was trying to make myself love my flat chest and Id say at least once or twice a year I'll get a horrible comment from men (admittedly always drunk) but things to the effect of "which side is your front" or "who stole your tits love" or the age old "ironing board". A guy I went out with years ago left his phone open near me shortly after we'd been out , I was meeting his friends for the first time, his friend text "shes hot man but shame about the lack of rack" to which he responded, "I know, raging about that" .

I think I should love and accept my body, then people say surgery is the best thing you'll ever do so I get confused again.

The OP said in her post that she has never been able to afford it.

Oh another guy randomly asked my partner how it feels to know he'll never get a tit wank as long as hes with me...

Menopause may give you boobs

Why on earth do you tolerate your husband becoming “besotted” with someone else? That’s just not on, in any circumstance.

I have huge breasts, or rather breast. Because of cancer 8 years ago I have just one and hate the bloody thing. Can’t wait to have it removed once we’ve retired and have some spare cash!

I was a 32DD aged 13 (the rest of me was very slim) and they became progressively larger over the years. Honestly, always hated them and I’d look at you with envy.

I suppose the grass is always greener.

Your husband sounds unpleasant.

If you were loved and respected and celebrated for you being you, I guess you would care less about the size of your breasts.

If your life partner has made it known to you that he finds big boobs (or anything you haven't got) attractive, then no wonder you feel unhappy and maybe even insecure.

I guess surgery is expensive, and still I would counsel you to ONLY do it for YOU, and not coz someone make you feel "less".

I'm far from perfect, and I really get you, coz as I age, I can see my body skin loosen and I HATE looking in the mirror.
BUT. I'm not with someone that looks at images of other women, I'm with someone who makes me feel so special.

It makes it feel less important to me when I see those wrinkles and yucky bits. coz he says I'm beautiful to HIM.... and for me, that's cool.

It does sound like your man is insensitive to your feelings, and emotionally immature.

He should show his love for you by respecting your feelings, and NOT seeking images, and put his efforts into celebrating YOU for YOU....

So wish I could give you the confidence you deserve.., big hugs 🤗

This ... my boobs have got bigger ( always been big for my frame ) as I've got older .. they make me look so much bigger than I am ... enjoy you small boobs and all the lovely clothes you can wear that I can only dream about

Look into breast implants op

coxesorangepippin · Today 01:04
Look into breast implants op”

Alternatively, embrace who you are?