Is this CF or AIBU?

[CFornot123]

It’s a money one!

Recently came into some money (not insignificant to me but not significant either). I haven’t made it widely known and only told a couple of very close relatives (let’s call one of them relative A) but asked them not to tell anyone. Yesterday at Sunday lunch, relative B was telling me about a new hobby (an expensive one) they’ve decided to start but they’re struggling to afford to buy the required equipment.
This morning I got a message from relative B asking if I’d mind buying them the equipment they need for their hobby as a gift (approx 2k in all). Turns out relative A told them all about the windfall, how much and told relative B I’d buy them what they needed.
AIBU to think both A and B are out of order? I asked A not to tell anyone and had no reason to assume they would. Why should I fund B’s new expensive hobby? If they can’t afford it then choose something different? Or should I give them the money they need?

edited to add that relative B wasn’t one of the people I personally told so should not have known

Both are CF cunts.

Give nothing. Fuck em.

And next time, keep your financial status private.

Of course that's unreasonable.

I'd keep the peace by giving them one thing costing circa 50 and say the rest is in the process of being invested.

I'd tell them both to fuck off

Definitely CF but whether or not you agree to it would, imo, depend on how close you are to relative B, what relationship they had with the person who left you the money, what percentage of your windfall you’d be giving up (as you have to assume they won’t pay you back) and whether or not you already have plans for the money. Next time keep shtum.

There is literally no reason why you should fund relative B's expensive new hobby.

CFs, the pair of them.

No don't give B anything at all. And tell A that they are completely out of order for discussing your money when you had specifically told them not to.

You told "a couple of very close relatives" so it was silly to expect the news not to get out.

A simple "no" will suffice for the chancer.

Just send a laughing emoji...

Sorry unexpected tax bill came up no longer have it ! Sorry you will have to save up for it I’m skint lol

Both are CF! Say no.

They are both out of order but A more than B.

How are you related to them? If it's your DH and SC (for example) and you'd give money to your own DC then possibly less out of order (although still CF territory).

Well that's a lesson learnt isn't it Op, don't tell people if you come into money!
Person A has no business telling B and certainly no right to suggest you'd just pay out £2K, that's a lot of money to gift someone, especially just for a hobby, and especially when you've said nothing about paying for anything.
I expect that A was your DM whose told one of your siblings, the conversation about their hobby was a fishing expedition to see if you'd cough up. You are not being unreasonable, not in any way, shape or form Op

Well you can't trust A so I'd not tell them anything ever again

Well this just shows how people should keep lottery wins to themselves!

Person A is completely out of order. You can't trust them an inch. Person B is the cheekiest fecker known to man. She knows she's not even meant to know about it!

I wouldn't give either of them a penny.

I'd guess A is a parent and B is a sibling.

Yes they're a CF. Don't give B the money.

They are both complete CF! Don’t tell A anything again-I’d be really pissed off. Sounds like A is really stirring to tell B that you’ll buy it for them!

Sounds like a parent and a golden child sibling to me…!

yep, this. if you give them a penny they will only be more entitled. And honestly this is one reason i don't share financial information like this with anyone besides a partner. it's so easy for resentment and entitlement to set in

Of course you don't give B the money they want.

Surely you know this and are just doing some ridiculous false unsureness.

I would reply 'LOL - nice try 😂! No, of course not!'

Also, learn the lesson - if you don't want anyone to know, tell no one.

Now you know you definitely can't trust relative A and they are both CF.

I reckon A is your parent and B your child? Or A your partner and B your child. I could easily see that happening.

If B is your child, I wouldn't tell them to fuck off and I wouldn't see it as so cheeky. They're used to you providing for them, it's a familiar dynamic. But I wouldn't say yes unless I wanted to.

Both are out of order
A for not respecting your confidence (& now you know never to tell them anything again)
B for thinking anyone except themselves might fund their expensive hobby.

Both need to be firmly put in their place.

• Dear A, I am upset & disappointed you did not respect my privacy & told B of my news.

• Dear B, I hope you enjoy your expensive new hobby. I fail to see why you think I should fund this hobby - I certainly won't.

I have placed my recent inheritance in long term investments for my future.

Haha, bloody hell! A and B sound like a pair of horrors. Of course YANBU.

If I had, for example, won several million on the lottery or something, I’d give my siblings and parents some cash to spend on what they wanted. But I would expect them to wait for the offer, not text me demanding a gift before I’d even made the bloody offer.* And if my windfall was, more like eg, £50K then I probably wouldn’t be dishing out cash at all.

*Although my sister would totally do that, probably

Money for a hobby?! Well, they can do one.

id text back

What are you talking about? I think you have me mixed up with someone else (smily face)

which actually means

check fucker message someone else that might care

Yep I thought the same.

You’ve just had a lesson that A can’t be trusted.