Is this CF or AIBU?

[CFornot123]

It’s a money one!

Recently came into some money (not insignificant to me but not significant either). I haven’t made it widely known and only told a couple of very close relatives (let’s call one of them relative A) but asked them not to tell anyone. Yesterday at Sunday lunch, relative B was telling me about a new hobby (an expensive one) they’ve decided to start but they’re struggling to afford to buy the required equipment.
This morning I got a message from relative B asking if I’d mind buying them the equipment they need for their hobby as a gift (approx 2k in all). Turns out relative A told them all about the windfall, how much and told relative B I’d buy them what they needed.
AIBU to think both A and B are out of order? I asked A not to tell anyone and had no reason to assume they would. Why should I fund B’s new expensive hobby? If they can’t afford it then choose something different? Or should I give them the money they need?

edited to add that relative B wasn’t one of the people I personally told so should not have known

Bloody hell! I'd be livid with A!

Why would B take up an expensive hobby that they can't afford anyway, but aside from that, yes they're both CF's!

CF the pair of them, no don’t give a penny!

I’m gobsmacked that someone would be so cheeky as to ask! It’s not like they need life saving equipment! Ignore the pair of them or better yet, send a simple ‘No’.

Let me guess. A is one of your parents and B is a sibling

Go shite!

Or...I've put it ALL into my pension.

The cheeky fuckers probably have several plans for your money so best to put them straight now.

I think the worst of all is the fact that it's for a hobby, not even remotely essential.

This!!

Relative A was way out of order to tell B. B was out of order to ask you to gift them £2K. Both are CFs. Tell B to ask A for the money instead or find a hobby they can afford. At least you know for certain that you can't trust A now.

Tell B that you've bought a horse. 😆

Of course they are CF. It’s a hobby not a medical emergency, it’s your money , do what you like with it

Mil and a dsc?

I'd be texting A something along the lines of "how many people have you told to ask me for money?"

And B "No I won't be buying you 2k worth of an equipment for a hobby you fancy trying." Fuck me. The cheek of some people! Like if they were on the verge of homelessness becuase they got burgled then I'd try and help but christ not this!

@CFornot123 why the hell do people continue to make one post and one post only????

Yes. This is very good.

Why should she keep the peace?
A and B are entitled CFs and don't deserve a penny of OPs money.

You are not being unreasonable OP. There are some situations where you'd consider a loan maybe (eg emergency medical), but not for a bloody hobby. I too would be saying sorry, but it's been invested for the future. What a pair of CFs!

I’d reply, “I’m confused. Why? Are we doing mutual hugely expensive gifts now?”

Both of them are CFs - I wouldn't be telling A anything of note in the future.

Of course they’re CFs.

What an absolute cheek

Since they cannot be trusted, id go with a pp’s suggestion of the money has been put into your pension and the rest invested.

If B is your child or your sibling or your parent and you have been left an inheritance from your grandparent then I would buy it for them as really they should have got some of the inheritance as well. It is hard to tell as we don't know who left you the inheritance and who this mystery B is. We also don't know if you were left £5,000 or £300,000.

A is a double CF, as they not only broke your confidence, but told B that you would fund them. It's not really B's fault, as A has assured them that you would do so.

You'll have to tell B that A had no right at all to promise something on your behalf. No need to lie, just say that A was out of order and that B can't expect anything.

I’m betting A is you mum and B is a golden child sibling @CFornot123

YA SO NBU